The Power of Sharing Your Goals With Others

An individual’s goals are very personal. In fact, a well thought out goal hints at the person’s vulnerability and deepest desires. Not only do goals reflect a person’s desires, goals also have the incredible power to change a person’s life – if executed well of course.

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However, due to the nature of such goals, people have a tendency to keep their goals and visions to themselves. But, there is great power in goal sharing.

The Power of Goal Sharing

Sharing your goals in life with others is an important success principle.

Have you ever wondered why weight loss apps encourage individuals to connect with other users, to post their weight loss goals, and their successes?

Studies show that men and women who publicly shared their weight loss goals lost more weight than those who didn’t.

This phenomenon applies to other goals too – not just weight loss related goals.

The truth is that your chance of actually achieving your goals is greatly increased when you share it with others for the following reasons:

1. You Gain Clarity

You gain more clarity about your goal and how to achieve it. In speaking your goal out loud, conversations with others may help you clarify and sharpen your goal.

Perhaps you knew you always wanted to apply to culinary school, but your friend is able to help you hone in on which specialty is best suited for you.

2. You Receive Accountability

Speaking it makes it real. Maybe your goal was written in a diary for over a year, or even longer.

Sharing your goal with a friend or family member makes the goal more real and no longer just a note in a journal.

Now, others can hold you accountable by asking you about the progress you’ve made towards reaching your goal.

If you want to be able to positively respond to those questions, you’ll quickly be motivated to take action and stay on track.

Here’s a related video that talks about how to set life goals.

What is an Accountability Partner?

Often, the term accountability partner is tossed around in the gyms or weight loss programs, but an accountability partner can help you reach any goal, fitness-related or not.

Having someone hold you accountable for your goal is an effective way to ensure that you actually reach your goal.

Accountability first and foremost can increase your motivation.

No goal can ever be met without self-motivation on your part, but unfortunately, motivation does not always come in abundance.

Sometimes we can supply our own internal motivation, but sometimes, especially during the most difficult parts of the journey, we need external support and motivation.

External motivation from a friend, who knows what you have committed yourself to, can come in the form of positive reinforcement and encouragement.

How to Choose an Accountability Partner

So who should you choose as an accountability partner?

The answer to this varies dramatically based on your circumstances and your goals.

Accountability can come from family members, friends with similar goals, colleagues at work, mentors, coaches, or personal advisors.

In fact, no matter what you do in life and no matter what your goal is, having a personal advisor is critical to being successful in meeting your goals.

It’s not always easy for people to share their most intimate visions or personal goals.

Do you share your goals with others?

If not, what is holding you back?

Sometimes individuals hold back because they are embarrassed about their goals.

They are afraid that others will mock their goal or say they are unrealistic. Of course, that could technically happen, but you don’t need to feel embarrassed if someone mocks your goals.

As long as your goals are well-planned and important to you, that is what matters. If someone does belittle your goals, then he or she is not the right accountability partner for you.

Look for support elsewhere.

Sometimes the fear of competition holds us back.

Have you ever heard of artists or musicians afraid to share their work because they don’t want others to steal the idea or compete with it?

Don’t let fear of competition stop you. Instead, focus on the benefits you’ll get from sharing with others.

Maybe you don’t share your goal because you think people won’t understand.

For instance, a teenager might not want to tell her parents she wants to join the army because she thinks she won’t get it.

However, through honest and open conversations, it is possible to share your goal and the reasons why you feel so passionately about your goal.

Connecting with other people allows them to gain clearer insight into you and your goals, which opens up the possibility of their support.

If you haven’t shared your vision or your goals with others, think carefully about what is holding you back. What can you do to overcome those obstacles?

Who is the best person that can act as an accountability partner for you? Tell them your goals, and ask for their support in keeping you on track. Leave a message in the comments if goal sharing has helped you.

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5 Tips to Get New Clients for Coaching, Consulting & Training

Business is booming these days for personal business coaches and trainers as more and more people begin to realize the benefits of having an expert help them improve their mindset and more quickly reach their personal and professional goals. Still, as with any business, knowing exactly how to get clients as a coach or trainer isn’t as simple as hanging up your sign and expecting them to come pouring in.

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To succeed as a coach or a trainer, you’re going to have to learn how to find and enroll new clients.

To help you with this I’d like to give you five tips for how to find new clients and customers:

You might have heard it said that success is not about what you know but who you know.

And while this is not entirely true, it is very important.

In an industry such as coaching that is driven by personal connections and relationships, effective networking goes a long way in helping you find new clients.

1. Go to Events and Network

Get out of your home and go to events where success-driven people gather and go to events where your fellow coaches and trainers gather as well.

You don’t have to be overtly marketing yourself the whole time, but take time to get to know the people there and forming connections with them.

In many cases, these connections can later turn into new clients in a variety of ways you might not even have anticipated.

My friend Ivan Misner, the Founder and former CEO of BNI, Business Network International, and author of Networking Like a Pro, says that networking consists of three steps or stages: Visibility, Credibility, and Profitability.

First, you have to show up and be seen. Introduce yourself to people.

The second step of successful networking is credibility.

You gain that by contributing something of value to the other person, often by making a promise and keeping it.

Ask people what they are working on at the moment or what their biggest challenge is at the moment, and then later you can refer them to a resource like a good book, or send them an article or introduce them to someone that can help them.

Once you have credibility in their eyes, then you can ask them for referrals for your coaching or training business.

Here’s a great video on networking like a pro:

Join a Mastermind Group

Another great way to network is by forming or joining a mastermind group.

They are becoming increasingly easier to find, and should be an integral part of your business plan for getting started.

These groups and the advice that they offer are able to help you grow your coaching/training business in a number of ways, including finding new clients.

Join one if you have the opportunity, and learn everything you can from it. You can also form your own.

2. Make Use of Advertising

It’s worked for businesses for decades, and now, thanks to services such as Facebook Ads and Google AdWords, it’s more effective than ever.

The advantage that Facebook Ads, AdWords, and a few others bring to the table is that they allow for highly specific targeting.

Rather than paying to send your ad out to the masses, you only have to pay to send it out to those that you have already identified as your target market.

If you’ve managed to carve out any sort of niche with your coaching and training business, this can be especially useful for gathering qualified leads that you can later convert into paying clients.

3. Offer a Loss Leader

My third tip for beginning to build a coaching practice is one I learned from David Wood, a very successful coach and trainer of coaches.  It’s amazingly simple and amazingly effective.

You start by making a list of everyone in your life who has contributed to your success in any way—colleagues, teachers, mentors, friends, people at your church temple or mosque, past customers and clients.

Then you call them and say that you really appreciate the difference they have made in your life and that you have just become a coach, and as a way of thanking them for their contribution, you’d like to offer them a free coaching session.

In my experience and the experience of my students, almost everyone says yes, and then many of them, assuming you have provided real value in that coaching call or session, you can ask them if they would like to continue and do some more session, and if they say yes, you now have a new client.

In the business world, this is known as a loss leader. You are taking a loss on the first session or a sale item in a retail store, to gain a future stream of income.

You can also do this if you have a mailing list of any kind by offering a free group coaching call or webinar on a particular topic, such as how to lose weight, or how to become aware of and release the unconscious limiting beliefs you have that are holding you back in life.

The key is to make it available to the first 20 or 30 people that sign up, so you create an urgency and exclusivity to the event with the promise of some individual interaction.  

4. Enroll New Clients Wherever You Are

I learned this from one of my friends named Marcia Wieder. I consider her the Queen of Enrollment.  Here are a couple of her ideas that I have found useful.

#1: In order to be successful at anything, you need to connect deeply with what you care about.

And then communicate succinctly why they should care about it too. When talking to someone about your work, offer them a compelling invitation for them to join you.

The emphasis is on inviting. You have to offer them something they can participate in. The compelling part usually has to do with a sense of urgency around the offer, — which is usually around timing and a special price and scarcity.

But it always has to be the truth.

She once told me she is enrolling new clients all the time everywhere she is—even at the checkout counter of the supermarket or in line at Starbucks.

She strikes up a conversation with the person in from or in back of her and at some point asks the question: “Do you have a dream that matters to you?”

If they answer yes, she asks them more about it and tells them briefly how she can help them.

If they answer no, she mentions that people with passion and dreams live longer, happier lives, and then enrolls them in wanting a dream… that she can help them find and create.

Obviously, this question will work at any event you might be attending as well.

If you’re attending the right events, networking with the right crowds, and really just interacting with curiosity and a passion for what you are offering people, opportunities for telling people about your coaching practice or training are going to be everywhere.

You just need to be ready for these opportunities and capitalize on them when they do present themselves.

5. Create a Great Elevator Pitch

You need to create a great elevator pitch – a short, 20-30 second pitch of your services that lasts about the same amount of time as an elevator ride.

Practice this pitch, hone away the parts that aren’t necessary, and learn to highlight the parts that seem to get people’s attention.

If you can pin down a great elevator pitch, you’ll be able to spark the interest of potential clients when the opportunity arises and convince them to give you their contact information.

In some cases, you may even be able to get them to sign up for your services right there on the spot.

Never just answer the question, “What do you do?” with, “I am a coach” or “I am a trainer.”

It tells people nothing.

Craft a statement that tells people in a compelling way who you work with, and how you serve them.

You want the statement to cause people to say, “How do you do that?”

My elevator pitch is this: 

“I help authors, coaches, trainers, and entrepreneurs double their income while at the same time doubling their time off in two years or less.”

At first, finding new clients can be one of the most difficult parts of running a coaching or training business.

The real secret of how to find new customers and clients is that it takes consistent effort over time, but the effort is worth it because you get to make a significant difference in the lives of many people.

Which one of the methods I’ve shared with you today to get more clients for your coaching business will you try? Let me know in the comments. If you want to learn how you can start your own training business, click the button below to watch my free training webcast.

4 Easy Tips to Get Inspired & Rejuvenated

How do you get inspired and keep that inspiration alive, especially during tough times? First and foremost, you need something bigger than you to be inspired about. I think we are all born with a deep and meaningful purpose that we have to discover.

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Your purpose in life is not something you need to make up; it’s already there – you just need to discover it.

And when you do, when you really discover what you’re meant to do, it will be the reason you get up in the morning.

Finding Your Life Purpose

Prior to discovering your life purpose, it’s easy to become sidetracked, or feel uninspired, or feel like you’ve accomplished very little.

But, what if these feelings are simply feedback that you need to keep going, keep searching, keep discovering?

What if it’s the universe reminding us not to settle for mediocrity, to continue experimenting for the one thing that lights you up?

I also believe we’re all born with a set of talents and interests that tell us what we’re supposed to be doing.

Lot’s of times they come so naturally to us, we overlook them. We think finding our purpose is supposed to be more profound or hard, but what if it’s right in front of you the whole time?

Think about it; have you ever wanted to study something that you loved, but the more logical route was to do what “your parents or teachers or friends” thought you should do?

Maybe you wanted to be a potter or a musician but ended up in business school, because it was “logical or sensible”?

If so, you’re not alone, you’re just off track. You’re meant to be a potter!

I discovered my purpose accidentally when I took a psychology class in college, and at the time I was a Chinese history major who thought I wanted to become an international lawyer.

We all figure it out. It just takes some of us longer than others.

How to Get Inspired

With that said, sometimes I feel myself feeling lost and uninspired, and when I do I consult my intuition.

I do this because our subconscious mind is the source of our hidden genius and will always provide us with the knowledge and creativity we need to keep moving forward in the right direction with inspiration.

1. Meditate

An excellent tool to access your intuition, and deepen your connection with your highest self is meditation.

Just 10 minutes a day of meditation can yield powerful results and will make it easier for you to recognize your intuition when it speaks to you through words, images, emotions, or physical sensations.

2. Mastermind

Another powerful tool I have used in my entire career is the mastermind group. A mastermind group is a group of usually 6 to 8 people who meet regularly to push themselves towards their goals, hold each other accountable, and share ideas and resources with each other.

The more time I spend consciously building and nurturing my business network of advisers, colleagues, clients, students and fans, the more successful I become.

So be sure to make time to develop genuine relationships with people who inspire you or you are inspired to be like.

It’s all about making sure you’re surrounding yourself with the right people that are going to believe in you, challenge you, and push you forward even when you’re going through a challenging time.

3. Read Positive Stories

I also read positive stories, listen to motivational speakers, and read inspiring and uplifting books.

And I teach this stuff for a living – but it keeps me motivated, and reminds me to keep setting goals and keep dreaming.

And I am here to remind you, you can accomplish whatever you set your mind to, as long as you stay true to yourself and stay true to your dreams, and never, ever give up!

I know you can do it because you’re here – watching this video and subscribing to my content.

The Chicken Soup for the Soul series and The Success Principles are filled with inspirational stories that have helped many of my students’ keep going, and they will help you too.

4. Enjoy Your Success

And last but not least, take time to enjoy yourself and your success!

It’s important to step away from your work, breathe, and draw inspiration from the outside world. Whether you like to go to the beach, take long walks, or travel to new places, you deserve it and I want to encourage you to do it.

Seriously, I read a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology that said people who traveled to a different country experienced greater self-confidence, open-mindedness, and conscientiousness.

Imagine that! You can have fun and grow at the same time.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve come back home from Italy, Bali, Dubai, Mexico, or some other country, and felt totally reinvigorated and with a fresh perspective on everything.

What are you going to do to get inspired? Are you going to take a soul-searching trip? Do you plan to start a mastermind group, or meet with friends who uplift you? Share what actions you will take to keep you inspired.

How to Communicate Effectively With Others

If everyone was able to understand exactly what you were trying to say each and every time you were communicating, you would certainly encounter less friction in your interactions. Unfortunately, clear, effective communication isn’t always as simple as we take it to be.

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The good news though, is that, like anything else, communication can be improved to help strengthen your relationships, your business partnerships, and your social interactions.

How to Communicate Effectively

Effective communication is one of the cornerstones of a lasting relationship. Without it, you will inevitably find your relationship on troubled waters.

In order to improve the communication that takes place in any relationship, try these following things.

1. Talk Face to Face

Texts, phone calls, and emails are great for convenience and staying in touch when you’re apart, but for serious, useful communication you are going to want to be face-to-face with your partner. Take time to talk with them in-person, and avoid becoming too reliant on technology as a means of communicating.

2. Say “We”

You and your partner are a team, and your word choice needs to convey that. Saying “we” instead of “you” or “I” can also help keep what you say from coming across as critical or aggressive since you are directing it at both of you.

3. Be Honest

A relationship is not the place for purposefully confusing your partner or playing mind games with them. When the goal is to communicate as clearly as possible, you need to be as upfront and honest as possible at all times – even when it is difficult.

Whether you are communicating with your boss or communicating with your employees, good communication is essential in order for a workplace to run smoothly and efficiently.

4. Read Over Your Messages Before You Send Them

Far too often people get in too big of a hurry in the workplace. They will quickly type out and hit send on a message before they have taken the time to read over it carefully. A simple reading, though, might have shown them errors that could cause the message to be misconstrued. Before you send out any email or memo, take the time to analyze it and make sure it is clearly communicating your intended message.

5. Follow Up

Sometimes in business, you are going to have to follow up with people in order to get your message across.

People are busy, and they may not take your message as seriously as they should unless you mention it to them again. If possible, follow up communications should always take place in-person.

Finally, social interactions are often the situations where communications get misunderstood the most. Perhaps it’s the lighthearted nature of these situations where no one is really giving their full focus to the speaker, or perhaps it’s the fact that social interactions often have so many speakers at one time. Here are a few ways you can communicate more clearly in social interactions.

6. Be a Good Listener

One common problem with the communication that takes place in social interactions is that everyone present wants to be the speaker and no one really wants to be the listener. By carefully listening to what others are saying, though, you can ensure that your input is more relevant to the conversation at hand and thus more likely to be well-received.

7. Let it Pass

Have you ever been in a social interaction where you think of something really clever or important to say, but once you actually get the chance to speak the conversation has shifted? It may be tempting to interject your comment anyway in instances such as this, and many people often do.

However, the comment will rarely ever carry the same weight after the conversation has shifted to something else, and it is likely to be misunderstood. It is better to let it pass and keep up with the flow of conversation.

8. Practice Body Language

Body language is important in all communication scenarios, but especially in social interactions. Keep your eyes on the person who is speaking, nod and smile appropriately, and show them that you are engaged lest they get the impression that you aren’t interested in what they have to say.

When it is your turn to speak, don’t be afraid to use body language such as eye contact and gestures to command the attention of your audience. The closer they pay attention to what you say the more likely they are to understand what it is you are trying to get across.

In almost every aspect of life, communicating effectively and clearly is vitally important. Some people are natural communicators, while others struggle to translate their thoughts in a way that those listening will understand.

Most all of us, though, have room for improvement. By putting a little effort into your communication skills, you can improve the quality of both your personal, your social, and your business interactions.

Do you have any tips for effective communication I might have missed? Share them in the comments. Learn your true potential for leadership and communication from this 60-second leadership quiz.

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Improve Your Mental and Physical Health With The Power of Laughter

Are you in need of a good laugh? Few things are more beneficial to a person’s overall well-being than laughter. In fact, the benefits of laughter extend to better mental health and is an indicator of better physical health as well.

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If you need any more reason other than enjoyment to invite a few friends over and spend the afternoon telling jokes, watching funny YouTube videos, and swapping hilarious stories, consider these benefits of laughter.

1. Laughter Boosts Your Immune System

First, laughter boosts your immune system. Negative stress can cause your body to release chemicals that weaken your immune system, making you more likely to contract a disease.

Laughter, though, reduces negative stress and, in turn, prevents those chemicals from being released.

Laughter also promotes the release of T-cells, which are specialized immune system cells that fight off sickness. Next flu season, you may want to consider laughing as much as you can!

2. Laughter Promotes Good Heart Health

Laughter has been shown to both lower blood pressure and improves blood flow, both of which lead to better cardiovascular health and reduce your chances of suffering a heart attack or stroke.

3. Laughter Creates Bonds

If two people are laughing together, they will feel more emotionally connected.

This makes laughter a great tool if you are going on a date or trying to make friends with a coworker.

If you can get them laughing and laugh yourself as well, the two of you will both feel more connected to one another, and you will both leave the experience feeling more positive about the other person.

4. It Burns Calories

While you may not want to skip your workout routine in favor of watching stand up comedy, it’s still true that laughter does burn calories and can promote weight loss.

According to a study by the International Journal of Obesity, laughing for 15 minutes can burn 10-40 calories by raising your heart rate.

5. Laughter is a Great Energy Boost

When you laugh, your body increases its oxygen intake and releases endorphins.

Among many other positive effects, these two things can provide you with a quick, refreshing boost of energy.

6. Laughter Reduces Stress

The endorphins that laughter releases not only provide you with an energy boost, they also are a powerful way to reduce stress.

Endorphins work to reduce stress by counteracting the output of the stress-causing hormone cortisol and providing you with a sense of euphoria.

In fact, the effects of endorphins in the body have been compared to the effects of drugs such as morphine and codeine, except without any danger of addiction or dependence.

7. Laughing Improves Confidence and Performance

The ability to laugh at yourself when you make a mistake is a truly valuable trait.

Laughing at yourself allows you to build confidence and keeps minor setbacks from dragging you down.

If you can laugh something off rather than letting it fester in your mind, you can move on much quicker and avoid letting a small problem become a major one.

8. Laughter Helps You Better Retain Information

People tend to remember funny things more than anything else. If you develop the ability to find humor in the things you read and hear, you’ll be much more likely to retain the information you receive.

Likewise, if you want to get a point across to someone else in a way that they will be more likely to remember, make it funny.

This is one major reason that educators, writers, and speakers often do their best to instill humor into their material.  

If you’ve ever taken a live seminar with me, you know that I start every session with as many as 15 to 18 cartoons.

The laughter that ensues accomplishes three important things: it lets people know that we are going to have fun.

It makes people feel more favorably bonded and connected to me. But most importantly, it helps people remember what I am teaching them.

9. Laughing Works Out Your Abs

Want to get six-pack abs? Laugh more often.

Laughter causes the muscles in your stomach to contract in a similar way to doing crunches or situps.

This is why you may feel your stomach hurting after a long period of heavy laughter.

10. Laughter Can Help Prevent Cancer

Laughter has been shown to increase the levels of Interferon-Gamma in the body, which in turn promotes the release of B-cells, T-cells, NK cells, and immunoglobulin, and it also helps regulate cell growth.

Not only can all of these things help boost your immune system, they may also help prevent the growth of cancerous cells.

So with the intention of having you laugh right now, let me share a recent joke I heard with you.

The famous Indian leader Mahatma Gandhi often walked barefoot which produced an impressive set of calluses on his feet. He also ate very little, making him rather frail, and with his odd diet he often suffered from bad breath. This made him a super calloused fragile mystic hexed with halitosis.

Post your favorite joke in the comments below and let’s all have a good laugh. Make sure to keep it clean though. Thanks for that. If you’re interested in learning more about positive thinking, click the button below to get a free Guide to Everyday Positive Thinking.

How to Clear Negative Energy & Negative Thoughts

Everything found in the universe is made up of energy. This goes for both physical and nonphysical objects.

Basic physics and chemistry tells us that a physical object, such as a building, a tree, or this book, is made up of billions of individual atoms—little energy bundles that interact and bond with other atoms into many forms including water, metals, plants, soil, plastics, wood pulp, and other raw materials used to manufacture physical objects.

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Nonphysical things—including thoughts, whether positive or negative thoughts are also made up of energy and, can also “bond” and interact with aspects and objects of our physical world.

How We Interact With Positive and Negative Energy

It’s well known, for instance, that our brain waves are a form of intense energy that can be easily detected with standard medical equipment—and that can interact with our physical world as any other form of energy would. Perhaps you’re wondering, what do I mean by “interact with our physical world”?

Have you ever thought about a distant friend, only to get a phone call from them minutes later?

Have you ever driven down a highway wondering whether you’ll get a speeding ticket—only to see flashing red lights in your rearview mirror?

That’s your brain waves interacting with your physical reality.

How to Create Positive Results in Your Life

Luckily, it’s also possible to use your thoughts to intentionally create the positive results you want in your life.

If you’ve ever desired something intensely for months, only to suddenly receive it through serendipitous means—or step into a situation where it was provided to you—that was also your thoughts, intention, and desire impacting your experience.

The world, as we have created it, is a process of our thinking and it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.

Albert Einstein studied this phenomenon in 1935 when he experimented with quantum mechanics—the idea that energetically activating a particle on one side of the universe created an instantaneous response in a “partner” particle elsewhere in the universe.

Columbia University professor Brian Greene explains it this way:

“According to quantum theory and the many experiments that bear out its predictions, the quantum connection between two particles can persist even if they are on opposite sides of the universe.”

In other words, something that happens over here can be entwined with something that happens over there.

A number of other documented experiments have also proven that thoughts can rapidly travel through space and either be picked up by others or have an effect on matter.

We also know from polygraph (or lie-detector) tests that your body reacts to your thoughts—changing your temperature, heart rate, blood pressure, breathing rate, muscle tension, and how much your hands sweat.

When you are hooked up to a lie detector and are asked a question such as “Did you take the money?”

Your hands will get colder, your heart will beat faster, your blood pressure will go up, your breathing will get faster, your muscles will get tighter, and your hands will sweat if you did take the money and you lie about it.

These kinds of physiological changes occur not only when you are lying but also in reaction to every thought you think.

Every cell in your body is affected by every thought you have.

How Negative Energy Affects the Body

Negative thoughts affect your body negatively—weakening you, making you sweat, and making you uptight. Positive thoughts affect your body in a positive way, making you more relaxed, centered, open, and alert. Positive thoughts cause the secretion of endorphins in the brain and reduce pain and increase pleasure.

Psychiatrist Daniel G. Amen has named the limiting thoughts we hear in our head ANTs—Automatic Negative Thoughts.

And just like real ants at a picnic, your ANTs can ruin your experience of life. Dr. Amen recommends that you learn to stomp the ANTs.

  1. First, you have to become aware of them.
  2. Second, you have to shake them off and stomp them by challenging them.
  3. Finally, you have to replace them with more positive and affirming thoughts.

The key to dealing with any kind of negative thinking is to realize that you are ultimately in charge of whether to listen to or agree with any thought.

Just because you think it—or hear it—doesn’t mean it’s true.

“You want to constantly ask yourself, “Is this thought helping me or hurting me?”

“Is it getting me closer to where I want to go, or taking me further away?”

“Is it motivating me to action, or is it blocking me with fear and self-doubt?”

You have to learn to challenge and talk back to the thoughts that are not serving you in creating greater success and happiness.

How to Become Aware of Your Negative Thoughts

My friend Doug Bench recommends writing down every negative thought you think or say out loud and every negative thought you hear anyone else say—for 3 whole days! Make sure that 2 of the days are workdays and that 1 is a weekend day.

Ask your spouse or partner, children, roommates, and fellow employees to catch you and impose a dollar fine every time they hear you uttering a negative thought.

In a recent 5-day workshop I conducted, participants had to put $2 in a bowl every time they said anything that was blaming, justifying, or self-negating.

It was amazing to see how fast the bowl filled up.

However, as the 5 days went on, there were fewer and fewer automatic negative comments as everyone became more aware.

What if you could learn to always talk to yourself like a winner instead of a loser?

What if you could transform your negative self-talk into positive self-talk?

What if you could silence your thoughts of lack and limitation and replace them with thoughts of abundance and unlimited possibility?

What if you could replace any victim language in your thoughts with the language of empowerment?

And what if you could transform your inner critic, who judges your every move, into a supportive inner coach who would encourage you and give you confidence as you faced new situations and risks?

The good news is that all of this is possible with a little awareness, focus, and intention.

Write down every thought that you have for 3 days. This may surprise you. As you become more aware of your negative comments you’ll be able to clear your negative energy.

Finally, I want you to answer this….

What is your most common negative thought? “I can’t? I’m not good enough? If I do that I’ll fail? I can’t say what I really think? It’s too dangerous to stand up for what I believe?”

What would be the opposite thought that you could choose to think instead? Write it below in the comments.

If you want to learn more about the power of positive thinking and how to banish negative energy and thoughts, download my free guide Think This, Not That: Your Guide to Everyday Positive Thinking.

How to Believe in Yourself & Change Your Life in the Process

Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities in your life. At times you may find this difficult to do. The truth is that we’ve been conditioned throughout our lives to doubt ourselves. We must retrain ourselves to get rid of our fears and self-doubt in order to build self-esteem and self-confidence.

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Everything you have in your life is a result of your belief in yourself and the belief that it’s possible. Here are the four most important steps to learning how to believe in yourself. Practice them and you’ll be amazed at the results:

  • Believe it’s possible. Believe that you can do it regardless of what anyone says or where you are in life.
  • Visualize it. Think about exactly what your life would look like if you had already achieved your dream.
  • Act as if. Always act in a way that is consistent with where you want to go.
  • Take action towards your goals. Do not let fear stop you, nothing happens in life until you take action.

Let’s take a look at each of these steps…

Believe it’s Possible: You Always Have a Choice

In order to believe in yourself, you first have to believe that what you want is possible.

Scientists used to believe that humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world. But what we now know is that instead, we respond to what the brain — based on previous experience — expects to happen next.

In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want through the power of positive expectation.  

This is the importance of always holding a positive expectation that what you want is going to happen. It is simply a choice and a discipline of the mind.

CASE STUDY: Zander Fryer and The Power of Believing It’s Possible

Zander was an ordinary person, but he made the extraordinary decision that has led to him leading an extraordinary life. Zander worked for a large tech company whose technology was used by Disney, Facebook, NBC, Directv, and at 27 years old he decided to quit his job.

After reading the Success Principles, Zander realized that his job really wasn’t for him. His mentor asked him, “What would you do if you couldn’t fail?” Zander immediately said that he would be a trainer and a mentor to others.

Watch Zander’s powerful testimony below.

Does Zander’s story sound like you? Do you know that you need to make a change? Do you feel like you’re stuck in your job or feel like you’re unfulfilled in what you’re doing in your life?

Zander believed it was possible first, leaned into his dreams, and his path to success created itself.

During my 5-day Breakthrough to Success Live Training Event I’ll teach you how to believe that whatever you want it possible. I’ll show you how to live your purpose and fulfill that empty feeling you may have been experiencing.

Visualization: See What You Want, Get What You See

By adding a visualization practice to your daily routine, you will naturally become more motivated to reach your goals. You’ll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that move you closer to your ideal life.

Suddenly, you find yourself volunteering to take on more responsibility at work, speaking out at staff meetings, asking more directly for what you want, and taking more risks in your personal and professional life – and experiencing bigger pay-offs.

One way to do this is with a motivational vision board. A vision board is a graphic representation of exactly what you want in life. You look at it every day. Use it to visualize exactly where you want to go.

Acting as if: Where Do You See Yourself in 5 Years?

One of the most effective ways to establish a success mindset is to act as if you are already the kind of person who has created the ideal life you want to live.

Ask yourself: If you had already achieved your dream, what kind of person would you be? Who would you have as friends? What type of clothes would you be wearing? How would you act? How would you treat others? Would you tithe a portion of your income to your church or favorite charities?

Whatever actions you identify, start taking them now. By acting “as if,” you will become the kind of person who is capable of creating the kind of success you want – and this will trigger your subconscious mind to find creative ways to achieve your goals. You will start noticing anything that will help you succeed. Best of all, you will start acting on this opportunities, because you will have the confidence that your efforts will yield great results.

CASE STUDY: Jake Heilbrunn and the Power of Acting as if

Jake realized that he had chosen a path that didn’t align with what he really wanted. He decided to take a leap of faith and pursue his dream of traveling the world and helping people. Jake hopped on a plane to Guatemala and spent four months teaching English to children. He found a sense of peace and purpose within himself.

Listen to his testimony here:

Take Action Toward Your Goals

I’ve noticed this is where a lot of people get stuck. You can understand all these principles, and you can set your goals, and say your affirmations and do your visualizations, but ultimately nothing happens if you don’t act on them.

The biggest reason most people don’t achieve their goals and realize their dreams is that they don’t take action, and the number one reason people don’t take action is fear. And, what I tell them is that fear is normal, and as soon as you experience fear, you need to take action.

CASE STUDY: Austin Bauer and the Power of Taking Action

Austin was living a pretty good job and had a good life. He realized he was in a career that he didn’t want to be in. His mentor told him that he couldn’t run from his problems, what he realized was that he needed to find a community of like-minded people and attended Breakthrough to Success. Ultimately Austin was empowered to be himself and live a life that made him happy. Listen to Austin’s story here:

Take Action and Join Me Live!

Now is your chance. If any of these stories inspired you, it’s time for you to take action. I want you to join me for my Breakthrough to Success Live Training.

Remember, when you believe in yourself and believe success is possible for you, and take action on that belief, your life will begin to magically unfold. And you’ll discover that the universe will guide you and support you.

Consciously and subconsciously you’ll begin to recognize opportunities that you would have normally not seen in the past. I want to tell you about an opportunity that can help you jumpstart that breakthrough in your life.

Now it’s your turn to experience those same breakthroughs to be yourself. I want to strongly encourage you to take the next step today and join me for this live training.

I will personally be leading every session of this experiential training. It’s not a pitch fest or sales seminar disguised as something else. It’s truly a unique, 5-day live training with me, where I’ll take you in-depth through all of the concepts and strategies we barely scratched the surface of today.

During my 5-day Breakthrough to Success Live Training Event, I’ll teach you how to believe that whatever you want it possible. I’ll show you how to live your purpose and fulfill that empty feeling you may have been experiencing.

If you have put your passions to the side for too long, or you have yet to find them, at Breakthrough to Success you’ll learn how to align your passions with your personal and professional life.

With my help, you’ll begin to create new successful habits that replace the ones that no longer serve you.

And by learning how to more skillfully apply the Law of Attraction and taking more inspired action, you’ll attract the people, wealth, and abundance you deserve into your life.

Most importantly, you’ll learn to listen to your intuition, be more positive and mindful each day, and have the power to ask for what you want, making you unstoppable in any situation. Thanks for reading about how to believe in yourself and for more information on Breakthrough to Success, click the link below.

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Get Motivated By Learning the Importance of Taking Action

There’s an enduring axiom of success that says,“The Universe rewards action, not thought.” Yet as simple as this principle seems, it’s surprising how many people get bogged down in the analyzing, planning and organizing stages when what they really need to do is to simply take action.

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“What we think or what we know or what we believe is, in the end, of little consequence. The only consequence is what we do.” – John Ruskin

When you take action, not only do additional resources come your way, but you get feedback that helps you adjust your course and refine your approach.

In my seminars, I conduct a very illustrative exercise. I hold up a $100 bill and ask participants if any of them would like to have it.  I stand in front of the room, and wait until they “get it.” 

Usually, after several seconds, someone jumps out of their seat and rushes forward to pluck the $100 bill out of my hand. I then tell the rest of the audience that they, too, could have been the one to get the money if only they had taken action.

The Importance of Taking Action

The truth is, while most of us know a lot about earning money, making things happen and bringing about change in the world, only a surprising few get to have all the abundance, glory and satisfaction this world has to offer—simply because they are the select few who consistently take action.

Taking action is the one thing that separates the winners from the non-winners…the haves from the have-nots…and the high achievers from the everyday people.

Perhaps you’ve already seen someone create a big win in their life, only to grumble to yourself, I could have done that. Or perhaps you’ve watched as a co-worker launched a new project that included your ideas—only to conclude that you stood by while they took action.

How to Start Taking Action

The simple fact remains that, in life, we are not rewarded for what we know, but for what we do.

Of course, many people don’t take action because they’re fearful of the consequences. 

Perhaps they feel they don’t have permission or perhaps they’re more afraid of failure than they are of success.

Successful people realize that failure is an important part of the learning process. They know that failure is just a way we learn by trial an error. Not only do we need to stop being so afraid of failure, we need to be willing to fail.  I call this kind of instructive failure “failing forward.” 

Simply get started, make mistakes, listen to the feedback, correct and keep moving forward toward the goal.

Of course, one major benefit of taking action is that it’s a key factor in putting The Law of Attraction to work in your life. 

Step 1: You have to ask for what you want.

Step 2: You have to believe it will come about

Step 3: You have to create a vibrational or emotional match in order to receive the results when they come your way.

When you’re in action—doing research, connecting with people, finding ways to accomplish a goal—you are sending a powerful signal to the Universe that you expect and anticipate meeting that goal or enjoying that experience soon.

After all, you wouldn’t be doing all that work if you didn’t expect to be living that new life sometime soon, would you?

How to Learn to Take Action: The Rule of 5

A powerful strategy to get you in action and keep you in action is something I call The Rule of 5.

Here it is:

Every day, do five things that will move you closer to your goal – 5 concrete action steps.

If you’re self-employed, do five things to grow your business.

If you want a promotion at your job, do five things a day to improve your skills and knowledge so you’ll be eligible to be promoted.

Even if you accomplish just 5 things each week, that’s more than most people do in a month to achieve their dreams.

I remember back when I was building my speaking career, I would send 5 letters a day to school districts and program directors for educator conferences for teachers, counselors and school administrators.

And later, when Chicken Soup for the Soul was published, I would send out 5 books a day to companies who could hire me to speak at their next industry event or sales meeting.

Practice your “5 Things a Day” habit and after three weeks – not only will you have taken major action toward your life goals, you will have developed a new habit of being pro-active in creating your future.

Without action, nothing happens. So to help you get into action, I want to invite you to tune in to my webcast, which will teach you how to set and accomplish your biggest goals and create the life you want. I’ll teach you how to create awareness for where you want to go, see the big picture, and create an action plan to get there.

Try This Simple Night Meditation Called “The Evening Review”

Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps that will get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than on all the other distractions that life presents to them. They think about their successes in the morning and practice day and night meditation as well.

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Successful people are constantly proactive in the pursuit of their chosen objectives.

An important part of any focusing regimen is to set aside time at the end of the day—just before going to sleep—to meditate on your successes, review your goals, focus on your desired ideal future successes, and make specific plans for what you want to accomplish the next day.

Why Meditate at Night?

So, why do I suggest night meditation?

The reason is, whatever you read, see, listen to, talk about, and experience during the last 45 minutes of the day has a huge influence on your sleep and your next day.

According to some recent research, during the night, your unconscious mind replays and processes this late-night input up to six times more often than anything else you experienced during the day.

This is why cramming for school exams late at night can work and why watching a scary movie before bed will often give you nightmares.

This is also why reading good bedtime stories is so important for children—not just to get them to fall asleep, but because the repeated messages, lessons, values, and morals of the story become part of the fabric of the child’s consciousness.

Sleep Meditation

As you drift off to sleep, you enter into the alpha brainwave state of consciousness—a state in which you are very suggestible. If you drift off to sleep after watching the late news, that is what you’ll be imprinting into your consciousness—war, crime, automobile accidents, rape, robbery, murder, gang wars, drive-by shootings, kidnappings, natural disasters and corporate scandals.

Think how much better it would be to read an inspiring autobiography or a self-improvement book instead.

Imagine the power of meditating, listening to a self-help audio program, or taking the time to plan your next day right before you go to sleep.

Nighttime Meditation Techniques

Here are two exercises that will keep you positively focused and moving forward at the end of the day.

1. The Evening Review

The first is a very impactful night meditation technique called “The Evening Review”.

This is a powerful exercise to help you more quickly install a new positive behavior like punctuality, a new habit, like listening more, or a new quality, like patience or mindfulness. You’ll be amazed at how fast this technique can lead to permanent change.

It is very easy to do. You start by sitting with your eyes closed, and taking a few deep breaths., After you feel more relaxed, give yourself one of the following directions:

 Show me where I could have been more effective today…

 Show me where I could have been more conscious today…

 Show me where I could have been a better (and then fill in your profession— a better manager, teacher, coach, salesperson, etc.) today…

 Show me where I could have been more loving today. …

 Show me where I could have been more assertive today. …

 Show me where I could have been more (and just fill in any quality or characteristic) today…

As you sit calmly in a state of quiet receptivity, you’ll see that a number of events from the day will come to mind.

Just observe them without any judgment or self-criticism. When no more events come to mind, take each incident and replay it in your mind the way you would have preferred to have done it had you been more conscious and intentional at the time.

For example you might see yourself being more patient in the checkout line at the supermarket or more patient with your young daughter as you were getting her to help clean up her room, or being more assertive and speaking out more boldly in your staff meeting at work.

This little bit of effort to visualize yourself doing a more conscious and intentional job in alignment with your chosen values and goals creates a subconscious image that will help to more easily evoke the desired behavior the next time you find yourself in a similar situation.

2. Visualize Your Next Day the Night Before

Another powerful tool to keep you focused on creating your life exactly as you want it to be is to take a few minutes after you have planned your next day’s schedule and visualize the entire day going exactly the way you want it to.

Visualize everyone being there when you call them, every meeting starting and ending on time, all of your priorities being handled, all of your errands being completed with ease, making every sale, and so on.

See yourself performing at your best in every situation you will encounter during the next day.

This will give your subconscious all night to work on creating ways to make it all happen just as you have visualized it. We also now know that every thought you think is broadcast out to the universe on what my friend and success coach Robert Scheinfeld calls the “inner-net.”

So when you are visualizing your ideal day, you are also sending out your intention to the other people and into the universe!

Try This Night Meditation for Yourself!

Get into the habit now of nighttime meditation. It will make a huge difference in your life. If you want to learn more about meditation click the button below to download my free 4 Step Meditation for Beginners.

Try this “Evening Review Meditation” before you go to bed tonight. And then take a few moments to visualize yourself completing all of your goals for the next day. Come back and share your experience of how it felt in the comments section.

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How to Overcome the Fears That You Create

Fear is the single biggest thing that holds us back. Overcoming fear is an essential step in achieving our goals and dreams.

“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

It’s one of most common reasons people procrastinate on taking action toward their goals. We fear failure, or rejection, or being embarrassed, or disappointing or angering other people, or getting hurt. So we play it safe and avoid taking risks or trying new things.

Fear is natural. But where does it come from?

The answer is that it comes from US – from our own minds and imagination. it’s important to remember that, as humans, we’ve evolved to the stage where almost all of our fears are now self-created.

We scare ourselves by imagining negative outcomes to any activities we pursue or experience. But just because we imagine these things happening, that doesn’t mean they WILL happen, or that they will be as painful as we think.

That’s why psychologists like to say that fear stands for “Fantasized Experiences Appearing Real.”

Because fear is all about what MIGHT happen – not what WILL happen.

Overcoming Fear

The good news is, since we are the root source of our fears, that means we have the power to overcome them.

Instead of allowing ourselves to imagine a worst-case scenario and be a victim of our fears, we can take control of our own minds and consciously decide to visualize a best-case scenario instead.

Here’s a simple exercise to help you gain more control over your fears – and show you how unfounded they really are.

Make a List of the Things You Are Afraid to Do

These are not things you are afraid of, such as spiders, but instead, the things you are afraid to do, such as skydiving.

Your list might include things such as: leaving my job, going back to school, talking to my spouse about our relationship, asking for a raise, and so on.

Once you have completed your list, restate each fear in the following format:

I want to ____, and I scare myself by imagining ____.

For example:

I want to start my own business, and I scare myself by imagining that I would go bankrupt and lose my house.

Or:

I want to talk to my husband about our relationship, and I scare myself by imagining that if he knew how I really felt and what I really wanted, he would leave me.

By completing this statement for all of the things we are afraid to do, you can see how you are the one creating your fears by imagining negative outcomes in the future.

Take More Control Over Fears

I want you to take the last part of that statement – the fearful outcome you imagined – and transform it into something positive.

For example:

“Instead of scaring myself by imagining that I will go bankrupt and lose my house, I will work hard to do whatever it takes to make my business a success.”

Or:

“Instead of scaring myself by imagining that my husband will leave me, I will work with him to cultivate greater love and intimacy in our relationship.”

Do you see how each of these statements flips the fear on its head and transforms it into a powerful positive vision?

I encourage you to try this for yourself – and transform all of your fears into empowering visions of success!

7 Strategies to Move Past Fears

After you complete this exercise, you will still experience fear from time to time. It’s part of being human. But to help you in the process of overcoming fear faster, I have seven strategies to share with you today:

1. Become More Aware of Your Thoughts

Thoughts produce emotions – so if you want to change how you feel, change your thoughts. Whenever you feel fear, retrace your mental steps and observe what you were thinking.

What thoughts led to your feelings of fear? Once you identify them, it will be easier to resolve them.

2. Choose More Positive Thoughts

You can’t rid yourself of negative thoughts simply by not thinking them. The Law of Replacement dictates that you can’t replace something with nothing – you have to replace it with something else.

So when you notice yourself experiencing a negative, fear-producing thought, replace it with a positive thought instead – like I did in the exercise I just showed you.

For example, if you want to become a best-selling author, be on the lookout for thoughts like, “What if publishers reject my manuscript?

Instead, visualize what will happen when a publisher DOES accept your manuscript and agrees to bring your book to market.

3. Notice the Physical Effects of Fearful Thoughts

Observe the physical sensations you experience when you think a fearful thought. You may feel fear as a sinking feeling in your stomach, a tightening in your shoulders and chest, or an elevated heart rate.

Notice what you feel and then consciously replace them with sensations you’d rather be experiencing.

Focus on how positive emotions, such as peace and joy, show up your body – as a rush of warmth or a tingle of delight. Imagine yourself experiencing those sensations instead, and your fears will be neutralized.

4. Use Positive Affirmations

Utilize affirmations to create a more positive, success-oriented mindset. Affirmations are powerful statements that describe the reality you want to create – and they are a powerful antidote to fear.

Here’s how they work: Imagine the reality you would like to create then form a positive statement that describes it as already being achieved. For example: “I am so happy and grateful now that I am a New York Times bestselling author.”

By stating it as already being achieved, you create a tension between what you are saying and experiencing physically, and what your mind knows to be true.

Your subconscious doesn’t like this tension and will begin to work overtime to resolve it, prompting you to take more action and become more aware of resources that will help you achieve your goal.

As you practice your daily affirmations, you may find yourself thinking, “What if this doesn’t work?”  If that happens, I encourage you to ask yourself instead,

“What if this does work?”

“Why will this work?”

“How will it work?”

By shifting your questions to focus more on action and solutions, you will find it easier to maintain your forward momentum.

5. Charge Your Visualizations with Powerful Positive Emotions

Take this affirmation for example:

I am so happy and grateful now that I am a New York Times bestselling author.”

When you include a positive emotion in the statement – such as happiness or gratitude – you open yourself to experiencing that emotion in your body, giving your affirmation far more impact.

Just as the emotion of fear can paralyze you, intense positive emotions can motivate you toward greater success.

6. Be Realistic About Risk

A practical – and often overlooked – strategy for overcoming fear is to make sure you’re not risking more than you can afford to lose.

To grow and achieve greater success, you have to risk something. Just make sure that you can bear the loss if you don’t succeed the first time. My advice is to begin by taking on smaller challenges and work your way up.

If you want to start your business but you need a guaranteed income each month to pay your mortgage and stay out of debt, maybe run your business as a side gig until you have enough clients to quit your job for good.

If you’re starting your first job in sales, call on prospects or customers who will be the easiest to sell to. If you’re eager to take on new responsibilities at work, start by asking to do parts of a project you’re interested in.

If you want to run a marathon, start slowly with a simple “couch to 5K” app. Master the skills you need to learn, move through your fears, and then take on bigger challenges.

7. Celebrate Your Successes

You’ve overcome countless fears to become the person you are today, whether it was learning to ride a bike, driving a car, or kissing someone you liked for the first time. Taking risks and opening yourself to new experiences is always a little scary.

But when you face your fears and take action anyway, you build up confidence in your abilities.

The situation you’re facing now and how your fear is manifesting may be different than what you’ve experienced in the past, but you already know how to overcome your fears. You’ve spent a lifetime doing it! So I encourage you to follow Emerson’s advice and do the thing you fear.

It is the best possible way to grow as a person and achieve more success in life. Every successful person I know has been willing to take a leap of faith even though they were afraid. Because they knew that if they didn’t act, the opportunity would pass them by.

Recognize Fear For What It Is: a mental trick your ego uses to protect you from the negative outcomes it imagines. You create your fear and you have the power to dissolve it as well.

Think about something that you’re afraid to do. Now replace that fear with:

 I want to ____, and I scare myself by imagining ____.

Then transform the second part of that statement into a more positive outcome by saying,

“Instead of scaring myself by imagining ____, I will ____.

Repeat that to yourself a few times and see how you feel.

Learn how to reclaim your happiness and reach your goals without feeling stress with my Positive Thinking Guide. Discover how to overcome negative thoughts and feelings with ease.

How are you overcoming fear today? I challenge you to do something that scares you today. Do you have any questions or comments? If so, leave a comment below!

How to Use Tapping Therapy To Eliminate Fear, Anxiety & Achieve Your Goals

Tapping Therapy is an intensely powerful tool that can help you quickly get over your biggest fears and help achieve all of your goals.

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Thirty-four years ago, clinical psychologist Dr. Roger Callahan—the originator of tapping therapy—discovered that you could stimulate the instant release of stored emotions.

The instant release occurs by ty tapping along these meridians in acupressure-like fashion while focusing your mind on the past hurt or current stress (phobia, fear, or anxiety).

He called his method Thought Field Therapy or TFT, and today Dr. Callahan’s institute trains practicing therapists, healthcare professionals, and everyday people in how to use tapping therapy both in clinical settings and at home. Others have brought TFT to the masses as the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT Tapping) and Meridian Tapping Therapy.

What Can You Use Tapping Therapy For?

You can use tapping therapy to free yourself from these stored anxieties, stresses, depression, and emotional hurts, and focuses on helping you to better implement positivity and energy into your life.

This can be done by tapping away any limiting beliefs, fears, and internal obstacles that arise when you face obstacles.

When TFT tapping was first used in the 1970s, TFT tapping theory was based on the energy meridians of acupuncture. It was thought that clearing those energy meridians would clear a disruption in the body’s energy system, and so remove negative emotions. However, we have a new understanding based on recent scientific studies.

It has been discovered that the brain does not become fixed by one’s early adult years, but rather, it can be changed at any age. New neural connections can always be formed.

Unfortunately, this can work against us. When we experience a trauma or something that triggers a negative emotion, we create neural pathways that support re-triggering that negative emotion.

As an example, if you have an experience that causes you to believe that people are mean or dangerous, you will look for evidence to support this belief and ignore evidence to the contrary.

We also create pathways that support limiting or disempowering beliefs that we may have created in the moment of a trauma.

Conditions like phobias and PTSD (post-traumatic stress syndrome) exist because the brain creates a feedback loop that builds and enhances neural pathways.

Some fears are so strong that they can actually immobilize you. If you have a full-blown phobia, such as fear of flying or fear of being in an elevator, it can seriously inhibit your ability to be successful.

Fortunately, there is a simple solution to most phobias by just doing tapping therapy.

Here’s a video from my YouTube channel of everything in action:

The Process of Tapping Therapy

The process uses a simple but precise pattern of tapping on 9 acupressure points of the body while you simultaneously imagine the object or experience that stimulates your phobic reaction.

It acts in much the same way as a virus in a computer program by permanently interrupting the “program” or sequence of events that occur in the brain between the initial sighting of the thing you are afraid of and the physical response you experience.

Many past hurts get stored in the mind and even in the body—affecting all our future actions and decisions.

For many people in my training, getting past their “past” is difficult, painful, and—until the last decade or so—very difficult, particularly if they have experienced violence, trauma, or abuse early in life.

Tapping therapy helps soldier relieve anxiety from PTSD

The technique is so powerful that it has been used with genocide victims in Rwanda and Bosnia, for disaster victims in Hait and is used by a trainer of the British Special Forces in the Congo and with U.S. soldiers returning with PTSD panic attacks from the battlefield.

Tapping Therapy stimulates the body’s own ability to release stored pain of any kind. The results are nothing short of miraculous.

For thousands of years, Eastern cultures have focused their methods for healing medical conditions on stimulating energy “meridians” or pathways throughout the body.

These energy pathways send electrical impulses throughout the body to keep all systems working, but—in addition to moving and storing energy—it was discovered they also store emotions.

Some healthcare professionals even believe that an illness or chronic pain in a specific area of the body is the result of a specific emotional pain stored in that meridian.

How to Use TFT Tapping Therapy

There are the eight main tapping points and one point on your hand known as the karate chop spot on the heel of your hand.

The other 8 points are, your eyebrow, side of your eye, under your eye, under your nose, your chin, your collarbone, under your arm, and the top of your head.

There is a single point at the top of the head, but there are two eyebrow points: one at the start of the right eyebrow just above the nose, and the other at the start of the left eyebrow.

TFT Tapping was originally taught one-sided; you tap with either hand, on either side of the body. Most people tap with their dominant hand.You have completed a “round” of tapping when you’ve tapped on each of the points.

Tap lightly, but firmly. This isn’t massage, so tapping with force isn’t necessary. If you can’t tap a particular point due to an injury, just skip that point. Unlike acupuncture, tapping is a very forgiving process.

One reason it is common to tap using both the index finger and the middle finger together is that you’re tapping a fairly large area with both fingers on any particular spot.

Tapping points chart

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The first part of the tapping protocol is to close your eyes, focus on the fear, anxiety, emotion, pain, or belief that you wish to release, and then determine on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being high, how intense the feeling or belief is.

The basic TFT tapping sequence—to eliminate fears and negative beliefs and to neutralize negative events— then starts by tapping the “karate chop” spot on the heel of your hand 10 times, firmly enough to feel it, but not hard enough to bruise your hand.

As you tap your hand, repeat aloud the belief, physical pain, or experience of hurt you are dealing with as you—most important—tune in to the emotion that belief or hurt brings forth. Do this three times.

Tapping Therapy In Action

Follow your statement of the belief or hurt with the affirmation I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

For example:

“Even though I’m afraid to ask for a raise, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Or, Even though I believe I don’t deserve to be successful, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”

Once you’ve tapped the “karate chop” spot while you repeat that phrase 3 times, begin the tapping sequence below while continuing to focus on the past hurt, limiting belief, emotion, stress, pain, or source of anxiety.

Tap 5 to 7 times firmly at each point. Accompany each tapping point with a statement that keeps you focused on the emotion.

Like this:

Top of the Head: “My fear of asking for a raise.”

Eyebrow: “My fear of asking for a raise.”

Outside of Eye: “I’m afraid he’ll say no, and I’ll be embarrassed.”

Under the Eye: “My fear that I’ll be embarrassed.”

Under the Nose: “I’ll be so embarrassed if he says no.”

Chin: “I’ll be mortified if he says no.” 

Collarbone: “I’m afraid to ask for a raise.”

Under the Arm: “I’ll be so embarrassed.”

The exact words you say aren’t important; what’s important is that you are continually tuned in to your emotion. Additionally, you can tap the eyebrow, under the eye, collarbone, and under the arm spots on either side of your body.

Repeat the sequence repeating your phrase again and again until you feel the intensity has dropped down to a 1 or is totally gone.

Leave a comment below and let me know if you have you ever tried Tapping Therapy. How did you feel after you did it? If you’re interested in Tapping, this 4-Step Meditation Guide may also be perfect for you. Learn to meditate with my free 4 Step Meditation Guide, get it here