Do You Know What You Really Want from Your Life? Decide Today!

Young woman by the water's edgeWhen Sarah was just a small child, she was very curious and had a strong will. With a big world to explore, she got into everything—from pulling out the linens in the closet to feel how the various materials rubbed against her skin, to tugging up the flowers in the garden to find out how deep the roots went. Sarah was definitely a handful of energy as she plunged headfirst into whatever she had decided to do.

Rather than asking Sarah why she did the things she did, her parents felt that discipline would set her straight. So, with stern voices they would chastise her, rather than seek to understand her:

Don’t touch that!

Stay out of there!

Don’t do that!

You should be ashamed of yourself, Sarah!

To avoid being reprimanded, Sarah quickly learned how to do the things that her parents wanted her to do, rather than those that she wanted for herself. As she grew older, this way of living—operating to satisfy others at her own expense—became the norm and she forgot the simple joys of making up her own mind about what she wanted to do and how she wanted to do it.

Does this story sound familiar to you?

Can you relate with the way Sarah began to live her parent’s vision for her life—or rather was limited by their lack of vision—instead of deciding what she wanted from life and who she truly wanted to be? Her early childhood programming got in the way of discovering what she really wanted in life.

My book The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be asks the child in all of us an important question: Do you know what you want from your life?

Deciding What You Want

The subtitle of my book is “How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.” The implication, of course, is that to find success, you not only have to know where you are now, but you also need to know where you want to end up. You need to be able to imagine what that place—your place of success, that place you want to be in life—feels like, sounds like, smells like, tastes like. You need to clarify your destination so you will be sure to know it when you arrive.

Clarifying exactly what you want in life is no easy task. As it guides you to a more refined sense of self-awareness, The Success Principles™ offers a wealth of wonderful suggestions to help you on your journey. Here is a sampling of ways to help you decide what you want from your life.

Stop Settling for “I Don’t Care, I Don’t Know, and It Doesn’t Matter to Me.”

It doesn’t matter how small the decision, to begin reclaiming your right to decide what you want, have a preference. Yours is just as important as anybody else’s so speak up, voice yourself.

30-30-30

If you are having a hard time figuring out the one thing you want from your life, why not choose thirty? That’s right. On a piece of paper, write down a list of 30 things you want to do, 30 things you want to have, and 30 things you want be before you die. Sometimes when the pressure to find just one thing is removed, the floodgates open and you discover that there are a multitude of things that you want to do with and in your successful life.

Make an “I want” List

For 10-15 minutes have a friend record your answers to the simple question, “What do you want?” During the allotted time, have your friend ask you the question over and over again. If you’re like most people, your list will range from the very material things to matters of the heart and the true revelations of who you are and what you want from your most true self. Go ahead, start asking: What do you want? What do you want? I want! I want!

Don’t Worry, The Money Will Come

Is worrying about making a living keeping you from deciding upon what you want in life? Are you afraid that you won’t be able to survive if you follow your bliss? Make a list of 20 things you absolutely love to do. Then, try and imagine ways you can make a living doing these things. For example, if you love books, you could be a writer, a librarian, a clerk in a bookstore, a teacher, a desktop publisher, and on and on. Don’t worry—you can do it. You only have to believe, trust, and act.

Dream Big

When you are deciding what you want from your life, there is no reason to think small. Take a risk and dream big, shoot for the stars. This is your opportunity to write the script to your life—you are the star, not a bit player. Have the courage to write the role of a lifetime and, imagine this, yours will be the name shining on the marquee for all to see. Dream big because amazing things can and do happen to people just like you each and every day!

Share Your Vision—It Will Help You See

When you share your vision of success with trusted others, family and close friends, you will gain the support of your loved ones. In addition, each time you verbalize your goals, you are affirming to yourself and the universe that you know what you want in life, where you want to go, and that you are deserving of the successes you will find when you arrive.

Don’t delay. Decide what you want and begin transforming your life starting today!

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Equip yourself for victory in your life with The Success Principles™How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be, the essential guidebook for those serious about learning who they are, who they can be, and where they want to go. You’ll discover 67 proven principles the world’s top achievers use to excel in business, finances, relationships, career and more.

 

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  • Rosario Manangan

    thank you very much Sir Jack for all the help, I learned so much from you... about life... that i'm 100% responsible, E+R=O, and many more... because before I blame the event in my life when I fell from a high table when my brother and I was playing on top of the table, right side of my head hits the floor cement... and when i grew older, I said, "if ever that incident did not happened... maybe i will be intelligent like my brother..." and many other instances in my life that i blamed... I'ts a blessing that I known about you and your teachings... thou Sir John Calub and my officemate Sir Audemar Abarabar who gave the ticket of Sir John's seminar... again thank you very very much... good day... God bless... be well... take care... (",)

  • When your 57 and made redundant 2 weeks before Christmas its very hard to find the direction you would like to go , when the pressure to just find more work , is on your tail, its taken me 8 weeks of searching to find another 2 to choose from , both not in may area of interest but its work ! to keep paying the accounts , i am sure to take one of them, and will have to work on my goals for what i want while going to work ! and when you start to find that what you used to enjoy is now being made obsolete by newer technology or the role is changed to more younger people with newer skills , its sometime hard to take that you are no longer required although you are highly skilled , and have more knowledge than a younger person, it makes you sit and think now what should i really be doing ? , i am from an Architectural Retail and Aged care Facilities Back Ground.

  • Great tips Jack,

    I remember doing the "what do you want" exercise at a personal development workshop I attended a few years ago. It was a very powerful experience.

    Your book still remains one of my favorites, and I appreciate you for the good you do.

    Best of Success,
    Dan

  • Amy

    Just recently, after nearly four years of college, and only 13 elective credits to go, tuition runs out, so I happen to see this post and read it, and shazaam, I want to finish this degree, and I want to go onto finish my masters, and I want to enjoy the journey as much or even more than the first day of class to now.....

  • Sarah T.

    My name is Sarah...And this is what is going through my life right now. I believe it was not an accident that I saw this post it's as if it's what I needed to read at this moment in my life.

    • TruthBoy

      same here

      • Erdy Rezki Rezki

        cool

  • I've always had a hard time making "I want" lists, so I started with "I don't want" instead. It's amazing to see how much hard work we can put into getting things that we don't even want. Once we eliminate some of those, it's much easier to see what we do want!

  • Much time has passed since I sent my manuscript to james arthur ray and michael bernard. I prepared last four years to be a LOA writer. In Korea, the greater interest to the idea that no. I already sent an email to 90 publishers in Korea. They didn't say a word. I deserve your help. I believe in you and four years to prepare. Read my manuscript and constructive help. Please help!

  • Much time has passed since I sent my manuscript to james arthur ray and michael bernard. I prepared last four years to be a LOA writer. In Korea, the greater interest to the idea that no. I already sent an email to 90 publishers in Korea. They didn't say a word. I deserve your help. I believe in you and four years to prepare. Read my manuscript and constructive help. Please help! My email addres is "well_ks17@naver.com" please give me the answer. Jack

  • I also contact thesecret.tv. but don't receive reply.

  • Much time has passed since I sent my manuscript to james arthur ray and michael bernard. I prepared last four years to be a LOA writer. In Korea, the greater interest to the idea that no.
    I already sent an email to 90 publishers in Korea. They didn't say a word. I deserve your help.
    I believe in you and four years to prepare. Read my manuscript and constructive help. Please help! My email addres is "well_ks17@naver.com" please give me the answer. Jack

  • Tris James

    Unbelievable! Thanks for sharing list and I learned so much from you about life! Great article! If you are looking for the best online learning, inspiration and much more, come to Women Online Club. http://womenonline.club/

  • Very inspiring post, thanks! I have decided what I want, but my challenge now is focusing on one thing at a time because there are so many things I'd like to accomplish 🙂

  • Erdy Rezki Rezki

    life position is the important thing , therefore u gonna understanding how people think, and i agree what u write because the story lil bit like me too

  • Dear Mr Canfield,

    I am going to be a big fan of you. I am living now for almost six years with law of attraction, and knew Esther Hicks or Joseph Murphy. Shame on me, but till last month I never heard from you. But than I saw the secret full movie, and I was impressed of what you said there. So I started reading you books, and also got you ebook. You should work on getting more popular in germany.

  • Bruce

    I like the "30-30-30" approach to coming up with a list of goals. Some of the first items to come to mind are material items (e.g. first editions of certain books, some real estate). This list reminds me that there are other types of worthwhile goals.

    P.S. I'm receiving my copy of "The Success Principles" today - can't wait to read it.

    30-30-30

  • Lisa Rowlis

    Hi Jack, your work has really opened my eyes to why I have become who I have become. I now give myself permission to do the things I want to do rather than what I think I should do. With Great Thanks 🙂 L

  • sonia meshkabadi

    I know what I want from my life, but never can manage my goals. I learn so much from you about life. these days I know what I really want and how can success and reach may goals. With great thanks.

  • Monica

    Wonderful and helpful article .thank you so much!

  • Sarah Joanne Pickering

    Also a Sarah here! THANKYOU!