4 Things Holding You Back From Greatness

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We all aspire to do, be, and have great things. Defining greatness is difficult because it encompasses not only how others view you, but how you view yourself.

Yet, it is easy to identify the things thwarting your self-development. Today, I want to touch on four things that might be holding you back from greatness, and how to correct them.

1. You've Surrounded Yourself With Negative People

First, you need to understand that you are strongly influenced by the people you surround yourself with and spend the most time with.

Without your being aware of it, being a member of the “Ain’t it Awful” club can hold you back from true greatness.

You know what I’m talking about!

Are there people in your life who are always complaining and blaming others for their circumstances? Who are always judging others, spreading negative gossip, and talking about how bad life is?

Do they constantly attempt to bring you back down to their level? Are they dream-stealers who try to dissuade you from believing in and pursuing your goals?

Surround Yourself With Encouraging People

Until you reach the point in your self-development where you no longer allow toxic people to hold you back with their victim mentality and their mediocre standards, you have to disconnect from their negative influences at all costs.

If you are going to be great, you have to start spending more time with great people.

I want you to make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive, nourishing, and uplifting people. People who believe in you, encourage you to go after your dreams and applaud your victories.

2. You're Holding on to the Past Hurts

The next obstacle that can be holding you back from greatness is holding on to the past.

Most people go through life as if they are dragging a big anchor behind them that is weighing them down. They’re holding on to past hurts, past incompletes, past anger or fear.

Releasing this anchor in the present is the final step to embracing the future.

I have students who forgive people, and a few months later double their income. They also double their productivity and double their ability to accomplish important goals.

Forgiveness Puts You Back in the Present

In any relationship, you need to make the choice to come from a place of love and forgiveness.

You don’t need to condone their past actions or even ever trust them again. You do need to learn whatever lessons you can take away from the experience, forgive the other person, and move on.

When you forgive, it puts you back in the present without all the emotional baggage you’ve been carrying. You can now forge ahead and create the future you want.

3. You're Not Accepting Change

Another key concept I want you to get is that creating your future means dealing with change.

If you don’t embrace change, you’re also holding yourself back from greatness.

Let’s face it. Change is inevitable.

The Earth, the weather, the economy, technology, our leaders, even the cells in your body are constantly changing. You can either resist change and eventually get run over by it or choose to cooperate, adapt, and enjoy it.

Surrender to the Change

Think back to a time when you experienced a change and thought it was the worst thing to ever happen to you. Things like a move, a job transfer, getting fired, a divorce, or a disruptive change in technology.

What happened once you surrendered to the change?

I bet you can look back now and say, “Wow, I’m glad that actually happened. Look at the good it eventually brought me.”

Expect the Best Rather Than the Worst

Perhaps it required you to grow, to develop qualities like courage, assertiveness, creativity, asking for help or perseverance. Maybe you ended up in a better career. Or maybe you ended up in a much more positive and nurturing relationship.

Remember that you’ve been through changes before that have ultimately worked out for the best. Approach change with the excitement and positive anticipation you should.

Expecting the best rather than the worst is a mental choice that you are in charge of.

4. Your Limiting Beliefs are Destructive

Lastly, limiting your beliefs about your own capabilities or what it takes to succeed could be holding you back from greatness.

One of the most destructive beliefs you can have is that you are not capable of accomplishing your goals. You might be thinking, “I can’t do that,” “I don’t know how,” “There’s no one to show me,” “I don’t know the right people,” or “I’m not smart enough.”

Many people don’t believe that they are competent to handle life’s challenges or that they are worthy of love. These two beliefs are the two main pillars of high self-esteem.

These are just beliefs. Beliefs are just thoughts you think over and over and over. You can consciously choose to think a different thought.

Believe You are Capable of Greatness

Use the power of habit to consciously keep thinking that new thought by repeating it as an affirmation. Post it on your bathroom mirror or your refrigerator. Make it into your screen saver. All it requires is consciousness, intention and the power of repetition.

Believing that you are capable of handling anything that comes up in your life will make you fearless.

Consider this:

Haven’t you handled everything that has ever happened to you so far?

You’ve been through the death of a loved one, a divorce, being broke? Maybe the loss of a friend, your job, your money, your reputation, your youth?

These were all temporary, and no matter how painful or challenging, you survived them. You are still here, and you have the time and the resources to achieve greatness.

You Have the Ability to Create Your Life

Once you believe you deserve better and that you DO have the ability to achieve greatness, your confidence will begin to soar. You will do whatever it takes – one step at a time - to create the ideal life for yourself.

I want to leave you with a bit of homework. Identify one of your limitations, and make a change. See how much further you’ll go toward greatness.

To help hold you accountable, take a moment to comment below on what you plan on changing. I’ll make sure to follow up with you to keep you on track.

If you are looking for a roadmap to achieve any goal and create the life you want, look no further than Your Extraordinary Life Plan Program. 

This powerful, brand-new, video course is my ultimate training program in setting and achieving your biggest goals. I’ll walk you through the steps needed to create a crystal clear vision of what you want, choosing a BIG, ambitious goal, and putting together a complete plan of action and achievement. 

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Here's How to Make More Money

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There are really only two ways to earn more money.

One, you can spend less. Two, you can make more.

Personally, I’m a fan of making more. I would rather earn more money and have more to spend than always be denying myself things I want.

Think About Earning Money Differently

In our lifetime many of us have been confronted head-on with having to figure out a way to spend less money. In school, you learn how to set and live off budgets.

You think about what you can cut out here or what you can cut back on there. You’re constantly focusing on what you have to “get rid of.”

But what if you thought about money differently? What if instead of focusing on how to cut back, you focused on how to make more?

There are many possibilities to do so.

The first step in making more money is to decide how much more you want to make. 

Develop an Idea that Generates More Money

Once you have decided how much more you want to make, ask yourself “What product, service, or additional value can I deliver to generate more money?”

What does your employer, your customers, or the world need that you could provide?

Once you’ve identified that, it’s time to develop and deliver that product, service, or extra value.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

5 Ideas to Earn More Money

1. Become an Intrapreneur

Today, many of America’s biggest and smartest companies are cultivating entrepreneurship amongst their employees and executives. Companies such as Google encourage their employees to spend up to 20% of their work week to pursue projects of their choice.

They are encouraged to “think outside the box” and come up with new ideas and innovations.  

Intrapreneurs are the ones who created the Post-It note for 3M, the Java programming language for Sun Microsystems, and even Yahoo's Search offering.

Does your company have customers it isn’t selling additional goods to? Maybe there’s a piece of machinery, a vendor relationship, or an overlooked marketing idea that your employer isn’t taking full advantage of.

Can you create a plan to turn this asset into cash? Approach your employer with a proposal to work on an asset-maximizing project off-hours for extra pay.

This could even garner you a well-deserved promotion.

2. Identify a Need and Find the Solution

Many of the most successful people throughout history have identified a need in the marketplace and provided a solution for it.

If you want to earn more money, identify a need that isn’t being met and determine how to meet it.

Have you seen ABC’s hit show The Shark Tank?

A panel of five investors listens to pitches for some of the best business and product ideas from some of America's brightest entrepreneurs. The ideas come from stay-at-home moms and dads to students, to people who want to be their own boss. They present innovative ideas covering children's products, music, sports, cars, and even the nightclub scene.

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Though some of the ideas are kooky (hey, it is television, after all!) there are also a handful of brilliant ideas coming from people who have found a need and filled it.

On a recent episode, two ambitious college students created a successful “coffee of the month” business. They realized there was a market for people looking to sample coffee from around the world.  In turn, they capitalized on that using a subscription-based model. They found a need and filled it.

They received the capital to start their company with a successful Kickstarter Campaign and have now solidified themselves as coffee connoisseurs with a taste for unique blends found all around the world. Their company is a “wine of the month” club for coffee lovers.  

There are always needs you can find to create a business or service around you.

Many of these former “met needs” are inventions and services we now take for granted.

The fact remains that people discovered something needed in their own life, or others', then created the gadgets and services we enjoy today.

3. Do Some Out-of-the-Box Thinking

When Dave Liniger, founder, and CEO of RE/MAX, was a successful young real estate agent, he grumbled about paying 50% of his commissions to the broker whose office he worked in. 

As an out-of-the-box thinker be began to look for a better way to sell homes and keep more of what he earned at the same time.

He could have rented a desk in an office building for $500 a month.  But, that didn’t offer outstanding management, a large brand name, lots of offices, or the ability to share expenses across thousands of agents.

He thought, why not create a hybrid? A firm that offers more independence to agents and lets them keep more than 50% of their sales commissions.  But, still, provides more support than going at it alone.

And from that, RE/MAX was born and is now one of the largest networks of real estate agents in the world.

Liniger’s out-of-the-box idea was backed up with hard work, perseverance, and passion, and it met a need for thousands of real estate agents. His dream has grown into a billion-dollar-a-year business.

How far might you go if you were willing to do some out-of-the-box thinking?

4. Create Your Own Internet Business

Today, an internet business is one of the fastest and easiest ways to get started, even while keeping your current job.

You can find a need and fill it for thousands of people with that interest across the world.

If you are creative and artsy, Etsy.com is a fast-growing e-commerce website where people can sell photography, artwork, jewelry, quilts, knick-knacks, and toys to people all across the world.

If you have great information to share with others, you can sell e-books, audio files, training materials, how-to courses, and other informational products online easily, without needing to ship a single box. Website platforms like WordPress.com make it easy to have a website up and running in no time.

If you have clothing or items around the house that you are no longer using, start a small business and sell them through Ebay.com.

If you enjoy bargain shopping, I know a woman who made her entire living off of purchasing children’s clothing and toys from discount stores and selling them on eBay to make a profit.

You don’t need to have a big marketing machine behind you to successfully sell through the internet.

Hundreds of websites, blogs, newsletters, and clubs already have visitors, subscribers, and members who could be perfect prospective customers for you. Talk to the site or blog owners and offer them a percentage of anything you sell to their readers or members.

This becomes a win-win for everyone involved.

5. Join a Network Marketing Company

There are more than 1,000 companies who sell their products and services through network marketing and direct sales.

From health and nutritional products to cosmetics, cookware, toys, educational materials, and phone services there is something for everyone!

I've been a consumer, representative, and trainer to many great companies. Companies who not only have amazing products to offer but great compensation plans and training programs to support you. There is an unlimited opportunity for growth and compensation.

The sky's the limit!

Find a company that has been around for a while and has a good reputation. Try the products and make sure you love them.

If you are passionate about the products and the people, you can earn more money through the leverage that building a downline provides you.

Act on Opportunities That Feel Right For You

Just remember, wherever you decide to put your energy, the key is to become more valuable to your current employer, customer, or clients. You can do this by getting better at solving their problems, delivering products, and adding services that they want and need.

Make it a part of your vision and your goals. Visualize and affirm that you earn more money from your ideas because they provide value to others.

Start reading books and articles about it and talking with your friends about it. You will start attracting all kinds of opportunities and ideas.

Then, act on the ones that feel most right for you. You will earn more money in no time. 

Make More Money By Training Others

Are you good at teaching others how to do something? Or leading groups?

Would you be interested in teaching my Success Principles to others to make more money? Could you teach seminars locally? Can you offer a class at the local high school or community college? Could you lead a workgroup at the office to incorporate these principles on the job or in your department?

Or could you boost your existing career as a professional trainer?

If you can envision yourself as a dynamic and powerful presenter you should watch my free webinar The 7 Pillars of True Life Transformation. In it, I'll show you how you can transform your life and your career, by training others. 

You don't have to be a master of implementing these principles to lead a group, since I’ll help you become a master trainer as part of this immersive professional program.

Imagine the workgroups, clubs, sales teams, women’s groups, entrepreneurs, or companies where people could be working together to support each other in actively living these principles. The results would be miraculous. And YOU can be the person that makes that happen. Click the button below to learn more.

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The Importance of Networking & Masterminding

While you may be able to create tremendous success on your own, traveling the path of success through networking and a mastermind group makes the journey more enjoyable. Plus, the added accountability will propel you to success faster and further than you originally envisioned. This is where the importance of networking and a masterminding comes into play.

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It’s Not Just What You Know, It’s Who You Know

Success is a team sport.

It’s not what you know, it’s also who you know.

In my career, success in any undertaking has come down to not just who I know—but also who I have on my team.

Along the way, I’ve learned many success principles that can help you build your own network of influencers, mentors, and experts. Developing a business network of people can help you succeed.

Nurture Your Network

One of the most important skills for success in today’s world, especially for entrepreneurs and business owners, is networking.

In my life, this has proven to be true.

The more time I have spent consciously building and nurturing my business network of advisers, colleagues, clients, students and fans, the more successful I have become.

Businesses and careers are built on relationships. Relationships form when people meet and interact with each other in an authentic and caring way.

Effective Networking is Dependent on Trust

Statistics confirm over and over that people prefer to do business with people they know, respect, and trust.

"Effective networking is all about developing relationships."

In creating your own personal network groups, your job is to seek out people who know things you don’t. These people can help you connect where you can’t.

Developing Relationships Takes Time

Initially, your goal shouldn’t be to make a sale. Instead, it should be to seek advice, connections, recommendations and insights. To the extent that you can provide something in return, do so.

Remember that developing genuine relationships takes time and consideration.

It requires careful thought and a mindfulness for others.

Three Steps to Building a Reliable Networking Group

Think of these three steps:  

  1. Visibility
  2. Credibility
  3. Profitability

First show up, participate, and get seen,

Second, ask others how you can help them and then deliver on their requests if you can.

Then, when you have developed a relationship of trust and service, you can ask for referrals and assistance.

Two Heads Are Better Than One

Networking and building meaningful relationships with others brings success quickly.

This is where mastermind groups come in.

We all know that two heads are better than one when it comes to solving a problem or creating a result.

Imagine having a permanent group of five or six people who meet once every week or two to problem solve, brainstorm, network and motivate each other.

This is masterminding.

The Basic Philosophy of Masterminding

The basic philosophy of a mastermind group is that more is achieved in less time when people work together.

A mastermind group is made up of people who come together on a regular basis (weekly, biweekly, or monthly) to share ideas, thoughts, information, feedback, contacts, and resources.

Getting the perspective, knowledge, experience, and resources of the others in the group greatly expand your own view of the world. It can also advance your own goals and projects more quickly.

Find People Outside of Your Field

When you form your mastermind group using your networking skills, consider bringing in people from different professional arenas.

Find people who are “above” or “ahead” of you professionally or financially. These people can introduce you to a network of people and resources you normally wouldn’t have access to.

Though the benefits of masterminding with people outside your field may not seem obvious now, the truth is that we all tend to get stuck in our own field of expertise.

We see through the same narrow lens and do things the same way everyone else in our industry does.

Build Your Own Mastermind Group

When you assemble people from different industries, professions, or fields of study, you get lots of different perspectives on the same subject.I don’t know anybody who has become super successful without employing the principles of both networking and masterminding.

I don’t know anybody who has become super successful without employing the principles of both networking and masterminding.

This is because building meaningful relationships with others both inside and outside of your field of expertise forms valuable connections and expands your resources.

You never know when these connections will come in handy on your journey to success.

Take Action

Make a list of 5-6 people who you know that you could potentially build a mastermind group with, and ask them if they are interested. 

One of the most powerful ways to learn anything is to teach it to others. That's why having a mastermind is so important.

Teaching forces you to clarify your ideas, confront inconsistencies in your own thinking, and more closely walk your talk. But most importantly, it requires you to read, study and speak the information over and over again. The resulting repetition reinforces your own learning. I've created a free webcast for people who want to learn to train others, lead mastermind groups, and conduct powerful learning sessions with others. 

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5 Overlooked Steps on Your Path to Success

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The path to success does not look the same for every person. However, there are milestones for success that are common on everyone's paths. These are milestones that let you know that you're on to something amazing. People often tend to make the same mistakes on their paths to success which block the road ahead.  

Today I’m going to share the 5 steps many people overlook on their journey towards success.

If you feel like you’ve veered off from your plan, don’t panic! Find out what went wrong and get back on track using these clues for success.

The Clues to Success Are Right in Front of You

Students ask me all the time, “Jack, how do I know if I’m on the right path? Am I doing the things I should be doing to be successful?”

These are good questions to ask, but the fact is, the clues to success are always hiding in plain sight.

You need to be aware of how to identify them.

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Recognize “Yellow Alerts”

The first way to train yourself to see these clues to success is to recognize and respond to all the yellow alerts in your life.

When I say, “yellow alerts,” what I’m talking about are the advance warnings you get. They come in the forms of telltale signs, gut instincts, intuition, and comments from others that alert you to problems and impending danger.

These signs give you time to prevent the unwanted outcome from happening.

You know when you suddenly get a “bad feeling” about something, or you become aware that people are acting differently around you? Or you develop a niggling awareness that there’s something you’re ignoring or overlooking?

THOSE are yellow alerts.

Trust Your Gut

The faster you’re able to recognize and respond to yellow alerts, the easier you’ll be able to avoid obstacles, overcome challenges, and reach higher levels of success.

The 5 Overlooked Steps on the Path to Success

Now that we’ve identified how to recognize yellow alerts, let’s talk about what those missed steps might be and how to correct them to get back on your accelerated path to success.

Step 1: Face Problems Head On

The first step you might be missing is that you’re not facing a problem head-on.

Many people choose to ignore yellow alerts because they don’t want to feel any sort of discomfort. Acknowledging and responding to yellow alerts usually involves doing things you would rather not do – such as...

Having an awkward or difficult conversation with someone.  Admitting that you made a mistake or that something isn’t working. Taking the time to have that mole on your shoulder checked out by a doctor. Or taking your car to the mechanic to check out that noise in the engine that doesn’t sound right.

Be Willing to Ask a Challenging Question

You pretend not to see the yellow alerts. Maybe because it’s easier, more convenient, or less uncomfortable. Ignoring them protects you from having to take what feels like a risk.

Successful people, on the other hand, face problems head on.

They’re willing to experience being uncomfortable, ask a challenging question, ask for feedback, or have a difficult conversation.

They know that yellow alerts are signals that if ignored, often develop into much bigger problems that can fester and grow into huge roadblocks that can prevent you from moving forward toward your goals.

Step 2: Respond to Problems QuicklyPower_Of_Believing_Webcast_Blog_Sidebar_250x300 

The second step you might be missing is that you aren’t responding quickly when a problem arises.

When you develop the habit of responding quickly and decisively to yellow alerts as they happen, life becomes easier. You’re able to eliminate problems before they occur and achieve greater levels of success much faster.

But, learning how to recognize and respond to yellow alerts isn’t always easy.

It requires awareness, dedicated discipline, and a willingness to experiment and take risks.

You have to prepare to look at your own shortcomings and be willing to hear uncomfortable truths. It’s only when you face what isn’t working that you’re able to explore better options. You can come up with a better way of getting the results you want.

Step 3: Take Responsibility For Your Life

The third step you might be missing on the path to success is that you aren’t taking 100% responsibility for your life and your results.

We both know that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you are living.

And that person is you!

Everything you are experiencing is a result of your doing or not doing; your income, your debt, your relationships. Your health and your level of fitness. Even your happiness or lack of happiness.

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If you’ve been ignoring the yellow alerts in your life, take responsibility for that. And if you’ve been dragging your feet about taking action on those yellow alerts, take responsibility for that too.

It’s only you that you are scaring by imagining negative outcomes instead of positive outcomes by taking those actions.

Successful people take full responsibility for their thoughts, images, and actions. They don't waste their time and energy blaming and complaining.

Instead, they evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. Successful people face the uncomfortable and take the necessary actions to create the life they want to live.

Steps 4 & 5: Believe It’s Possible & Believe in Yourself

The next steps you might be missing are that you don’t believe it’s possible and you don’t believe in yourself.

If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that YOU are capable of making them happen.

Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence, or self-assurance, it is a strong belief that you have what it takes. You have the abilities, inner resources, and talents to create your desired results.

You have to choose to have an unwavering faith in yourself. Make the decision to embrace the belief that you create all your experiences—both the good and the bad. You will experience successes. However, you will also experience pain, struggle, suffering, and strife thanks to you.

Obstacles Are Part of the Process

I know that sounds a little strange, but accepting this level of responsibility is the only true path to success and in turn, personal power. It means you can do, change, and be anything you want. 

Stumbling blocks become little hills to hop over.

There will always be obstacles to overcome. They are there to test your commitment and to require you to get better to overcome them. They are there to help you grow.

Accepting that you have the power to create change and overcome obstacles is just a big a part of the puzzle as learning how to be successful.

Resisting a Goal is Resisting Your Growth

Every resistance to your goals is an assistance to your growth. And your growth – the achievement of personal mastery – is the ultimate goal in life.

Make a commitment to replace complaints with positive, encouraging language. Examine the things you complain about and do something about them.  

Take Action TODAY!

Remember to take a deep breath, and trust that gut feeling. Once you are able to recognize the warning signs, you can eliminate obstacles from impeding your path to success. Make the choice to believe in yourself and what you are doing. In the end, the “hurdles” you have faced will seem minuscule compared to your achievements.

Keeping these 5 overlooked steps in mind, I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete. Write down 2 yellow alerts you have been ignoring or 2 obstacles you are currently confronted with. Write down 2 ways you can begin taking action on them TODAY.

Hold yourself accountable and leave a comment below with the 2 solutions you plan on implementing. I’ll follow up with you guys to make sure you’re staying on track!

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How To Find Your Soulmate Using the Law of Attraction

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There is something to be said about the power of positive thinking. 

The basic definition of the Law of Attraction states: "What you think about, you attract." 

Positive thoughts have the power to transform our lives for the better, especially our love lives. Today I want to share a simple technique that focuses on using the Law of Attraction to find your soulmate. 

How to Find Your Soulmate By Focusing On What You Want 

In our romantic relationships, we tend to focus on the things we don’t want in a partner rather than the things we do.

Give deep thought to what you want to create in your life. Consider the relationships in your life and focus on what you do want, not what you don’t.

Get in touch with your inner truth, your authentic dreams, your goals, and your heartfelt desires. Honor these and own them without fear, shame, or inhibition.

Define Your Dreams

Your dreams and desires are not subject to anyone else’s approval.

They are yours and yours alone, but you have to define them to achieve them.

Your dreams and aspirations should serve to ignite the passion within you. This passion will not only inspire you to achieve them, but will also send a positive vibrational frequency out into the world.

Through the Law of Attraction, the universe will respond accordingly.

Learn to Activate The Law of Attraction, Achieve All of Your Goals, and Find Happiness.

Make an “Ideal Relationship” List 

One effective way to activate the Law of Attraction in your love life is to create a dream list of your ideal relationship. Your dream list will be a comprehensive overview of your dreams, goals, and desires. It will represent what you want to be, do, have, and achieve in all areas of your life including relationships. Here are the steps to make an ideal relationship list:

1. Create a T-Chart for Your Ideal Relationship

The first technique is the creation of “T-chart.” This type of chart is a very effective way to identify what you do want in your life by looking at the things you don’t want in a soulmate.

Start by drawing a line down the middle of a sheet of paper. Label the left column “What I don’t want.” and the right column “What I do want.”

For instance, within the relationship category of your life, you may want to focus on a topic such as “My Ideal Romantic Relationship.” Start by writing down what you don’t want in one column. Then in the other column, turn it around into an opposite statement, saying what it is that you do want.

2. Cross Off the "Don't Want" List  

Begin to fill out your T-chart. If you don’t want a partner who smokes, write that down on the left. Then write the opposite of that on the right side: a partner who lives a healthy lifestyle. If you want a partner who enjoys an active outdoor lifestyle, write that down on the right.

When you have completed your list, go back and cross off the “don’t want” list on the left side of your chart.

From now on, use the right side of each list and stay focused on what you do want in your life. There is no need to give any further attention or energy to the list of what you don’t want.

By the way, the simple act of crossing out what you don’t want is empowering, and it feels good!

Realize What You Want in a Soulmate

Completing this exercise will help activate the Law of Attraction in the relationship area of your life. Completing this also helps you to realize what you want in an ideal partner.

I suggest completing your own “T” chart for the relationships that you want to attract in your life.

Remember to remain focused on what kind of person you do want in your life, rather than on the person you don’t. Once you release your positive thoughts into the universe, you give it the power to transform your dream mate into a soulmate.

Conclusion

Was it easy or was it difficult to construct this dream list? Why? Let me know in the comments, and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

Positive thoughts have a wonderful way of not only shaping our love lives but every aspect of our lives. To fully utilize the Law of Attraction in your life, you have to become a vibrational match with whatever it is you want to attract into your life. This means creating and maintaining an emotional state that matches the one you will experience when you actually get the thing you are focusing on. You can do this by appreciating what you already have, and continually finding more and more things to be grateful for.

I've written a short FREE guide to help activate the Law of Attraction in YOUR life.

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70 Million Americans Limit Their Success by Doing This. Are You One of Them?

30 Day Sobriety Solution: How to Cut Back or Quit Drinking

As you know, I'm an avid student of brain science and the psychology of success. But recently, I learned that over 70 million Americans are affecting their brain and its ability to support their success.

How?

By drinking alcohol excessively. 

Whether it's a working mom who drinks a "heart-healthy" bottle of red wine for dinner…

or an executive who relies on Scotch to unwind at the end of the day…

or a weekend warrior who "only" drinks during game time with friends...

excessive drinking can take a toll on your relationships, finances, career, health and family -- not to mention the guilt, shame and stigma that often goes along with this self-defeating habit. 

Did you know?

  • According to WebMD, heavy drinking shrinks key regions of the brain, contributing to memory loss and dementia.
  • Even more debilitating to your success path, however, are the subtle effects of excessive alcohol use such as difficulty with planning, judgment, problem-solving and higher intellectual functions that we need to live a successful life. 
  • Researchers have also linked alcohol consumption to more than 60 diseases including cancer, stroke, depression, gout, high blood pressure, nerve damage…and of course, heart disease.

Today, I'm writing to suggest an alternative to excessive drinking: cutting down or quitting in the privacy of your own home.

30 Day Sobriety Solution: How to Cut back or quit drinkingMy new book The 30-Day Sobriety Solution, written with sobriety coach Dave Andrews and in bookstores now, provides a way to replace drinking with healthy new success habits that will create the exciting and vibrant life you want. It's a uniquely liberating approach to releasing yourself (or a loved one) from the bonds of alcohol in your life. And if you're already in recovery, it will support your lifelong goal of staying alcohol-free.

What could your life look like in just 30 days -- free of excessive drinking?

  • "Brain fog" significantly decreases, helping you make better, more forward-thinking decisions. Plus, those generalized "aches and pains" start lessening, as does that sense of feeling lousy. "Brain fog" significantly decreases, helping you make better, more forward-thinking decisions.
  • You'll also begin to regain the respect of loved ones, colleagues, friends and even yourself. You'll no longer have to hide the evidence of your excessive drinking or waste valuable time on your "habit."
  • You'll even look better, feel better, wake up more refreshed, be more passionate with your mate, and begin to live life more richly with all your five senses operating at optimum levels.

After all, isn't a more rich and rewarding life what we all want -- instead of excessive drinking?

The 30-Day Sobriety Solution will help you cut back or quit drinking -- in the privacy of your own home and without the cost or stigma of rehab. In fact, with rehab costing up to $30,000 a month, this $28 book is a tremendous bargain -- costing you less than $1 a day.

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When you order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution, I'll help you over the next 30 days with a unique digital companion course I've prepared along with the book to keep you focused on your sobriety goal.

(Instructions for how to access this companion course can be found on page 27 in the book.) 

It's yours free when you order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution today.

Don't wait to quit drinking or cut back.

Order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution today
and start creating a more sober and successful 2016 now. 

amazon-buy-now

Also Available as an AudioBook!

If you live outside the United States, order the book and receive
FREE SHIPPING anywhere in the world at www.BookDepository.com