Are You Lying to Yourself?

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The person most likely holding you back from success is you.

How? Self-deception. Lying to yourself is the simplest way to ignore the challenges and situations that push you to achieve more.

Today, I’m going to talk to you about how to get out of denial and come to terms with the things that are holding you back from success.

Face What Is Not Working in Your Life

If you are going to be successful, you have to get out of denial and face what isn’t working in your life.

Do you make excuses for the lack of results in your business or your career? Do you defend or ignore how toxic your work environment is?

Maybe you make excuses for a bad marriage? Are you in denial about your lack of energy, your excess weight, your ill health, or your level of physical fitness?

Successful people face these circumstances head on. They heed the warning signs and take appropriate action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it might be.

How to Recognize Denial

What does denial look like?

Though some situations in our lives can be uncomfortable, embarrassing, and painful, we often live with them. Worse, we hide them behind myths, accepted views, and platitudes.

We don’t even realize we are in denial.

We use phrases such as, “It’s just what guys do.” “You can’t control teenagers these days.” “He’s just venting his frustrations.” “It’s got nothing to do with me.” “It’s none of my business.” “It’s not my place to say.” or “I don’t want to rock the boat.”

Lying to Yourself is NOT the Easy Route

Occasionally, we'll even pretend a situation is working when it isn't. We don't realize that if we acknowledge the bad situation sooner, it is often less painful to resolve.daily-affirmations-for-success-guide-2

Acknowledging the situation is cheaper, and the circumstances might be more beneficial. Likewise, the problems would be easier to solve and we could be more honest with everyone concerned. In turn, we would feel better about ourselves, and we would certainly have more integrity.

The problems would be easier to solve and we could be more honest with everyone concerned. In turn, we would feel better about ourselves, and we would certainly have more integrity.

But in order to accomplish this, we have to get past our denial.

Acknowledge the Bad Situation

Successful people are more committed to finding out why things are going wrong and fixing them. They do not defend their own position or maintain their ignorance.

A big part of not lying to yourself is recognizing bad situations and then doing something about them.

Often denial is the notion that something even worse will happen if you stop lying to yourself and take corrective action.

In other words... We’re afraid to face the truth.

Solutions Do Not Always Require Drastic Change

Therapists can tell you that in spite of overwhelming clues that their spouse is having an affair, many patients will not confront their cheating partner.

They simply don’t want to face the fact that the marriage might be over.

It could be they don’t want to deal with the emotional stress and the physical inconvenience of a divorce. Or they don’t want to deal with the financial upheaval or the possibility that they might have to move or get a job.

Many of the situations I described may require drastic changes in how you live, work, and relate to others. Remember that the solution to your problems isn’t always to quit your job, get a divorce, fire the employee, or ground your teenager.

It may be more productive to choose less extreme alternatives.

These alternatives can be a discussion with your boss, marriage counseling, setting boundaries with your teenager, coworkers, friends and family, scaling back your expenditures, or seeking competent professional help.

Face Your Fears and Take Action

Of course, these less drastic solutions still require you to face your fears and take action.

But you have to face what isn’t working first.

The good news is that the more you face uncomfortable situations, the better you get at it. When you face one thing that isn’t working, the next time you face a challenge, you are more likely to take immediate action.

And the sooner you take action, the easier it is to handle.

Choose an Area of Your Life to Improve

As usual, I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete. Take the time right now to make a list of what isn’t working in your life.

Start with the seven major areas where you would normally set goals:

  1. Financial
  2. Career or Business
  3. Free Time or Family Time
  4. Health and Fitness
  5. Relationships
  6. Personal Growth
  7. Contribution or Making a Difference

Make a Plan 

Ask yourself:

“What’s not working? How can I improve it? What requests can I make? What action steps can I take to get each of these situations to work out the way I would like them to?”

Do you need to talk to someone? Call a repair person? Ask someone for help? Learn a new skill? Find a new resource? Read a book? Call an expert?

Just choose one and make a plan to fix it. Hold yourself accountable, and leave a comment below of at least one thing you’re going to fix right now. I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

Affirmations can help you to improve all areas of your life. They will help you attract into your life all the love, appreciation, success, and abundance you desire and deserve. Learn more from my step-by-step affirmations guide to replace your limiting beliefs and achieve success. Click below to learn more. 

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The Secret to Achieving Your Biggest Goals and Dreams

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As you probably know, I have achieved an enormous amount of success in my life, and I owe it all to two things:

The first is that I have learned how to access my intuition and tune into my inner guidance, which comes from both my own subconscious mind and the Higher Power that created this Universe and wants us to thrive. I have learned how to meditate, use guided visualization, and read the kinesthetic signals from my body (what some people call “trusting your gut feeling”).

The second is that I have learned to take immediate action on my inner guidance—the quicker, the better!

The power of asking for inner guidance

Asking for inner guidance through meditation has provided me with some very powerful ideas, ones that have accelerated the rate and magnified the size of my personal and professional success.

Here’s an example:

When Mark Victor Hansen and I needed a title for the book of inspirational and motivational stories that we had compiled, I decided to meditate an hour a day in search of the perfect title. My approach was simple: I asked God to give me a title – and then I sat in silence waiting for it.

Nothing came to me the first two days... But on the third day, a green chalkboard suddenly emerged in my mind. I watched as a hand appeared and wrote the words, “Chicken Soup” on the board.

I contemplated that for a moment, then I asked what I assumed was God’s hand: “What does chicken soup have to do with this book?”

I heard, “Your grandmother used to give you chicken soup when you were sick as a kid.”

I replied, “But this book isn’t about sick people.”

The voice responded, “People’s spirits are sick.”

This was in 1992, during the recession that accompanied the first Gulf War, and many people were indeed living in fear, hopelessness, and resignation.

I played with the title “Chicken Soup for the Spirit,” but that didn’t sound quite right, and then it morphed into “Chicken Soup for the Soul” – and I immediately got goose bumps (what Mark likes to call “God bumps”). They almost always seem to accompany an idea that is deeply aligned with what is for my highest good.

I immediately got up from meditation and told my wife, who also got goose bumps. Then I called Mark, who got goose bumps, and our agent, who got goose bumps as well. By the end of the day the full title had emerged—Chicken Soup for the Soul: 101 Stories to Open the Heart and Rekindle the Spirit.

And the rest, as you know, is history.

Inspiration must be followed by ACTION

Sometimes inspirations occur without expectation or warning. Other times, we have to consciously ask for them – and then create the quiet space within ourselves to receive them.

Inspiration can strike when you’re lying in bed in a semi-conscious dream state, taking a shower, or walking along a beach or through the woods. But however and whenever it comes, it should be acted on as soon as possible.

I have come to believe that when inspiration strikes, it comes in a certain window of time that is ideally suited for the action to begin at that moment.

So once we had our divinely inspired title, Mark, our agent, and I headed off to New York City to sell our book.

Unfortunately, during the three days, we were in New York City, no one at the fifteen publishing houses we visited was as excited about our book as we were. Everyone told us that nobody bought collections of short stories and that our title was stupid. Our agent became so discouraged that he gave us the book back and said he could not sell it.

Action must be consistent and persistent

We found ourselves having to choose between believing in our dream and trusting our inner guidance or believing the naysayers in the publishing industry and trusting their judgments.

One of the secrets of success that I have learned over the years is to never give up on the dreams that come from deep in your heart. And by this time, our dream had become more of a divine obsession. We couldn’t let it go.

So we took more action.

Over the next five months, we were rejected by 144 publishers. Eventually, we went to the American Booksellers Association Convention and walked the floor of the exhibit area for three days asking hundreds of publishers, “Will you publish our book?” It wasn’t until late in the third day that Health Communications, Inc., a little publisher in Deerfield Beach, Florida, decided to seriously look at our book. A month later they decided to publish it.

The Rule of Five

When the book finally came out in July 1993, it was not an overnight success. It wasn’t until a year later that it hit its first bestsellers list. But it was during that year that Mark and I came up with what we dubbed the Rule of Five.

We agreed to take five action steps every single day, except on holidays and vacations, to promote and sell our book. One day, we called five radio stations and asked them to interview us about the book. On another, we sent out five free review copies to book reviewers and influential people.

One of those people was the producer of the hit television show Touched by an Angel. She was so taken by the book that she required all of her writers, directors, cameramen, and other crew members to read the book. She said that the feelings generated and evoked by our stories were the same ones she wanted to create in their TV episodes. That story made it into Variety and later onto the Associated Press wire and generated thousands of book sales.

We also bought the book 1001 Ways to Market Your Book, by John Kremer, and wrote each way on a Post-it note and stuck them all on a long wall in our office. We did five of those suggestions every day. Eventually, Chicken Soup for the Soul reached number one on the New York Times list and stayed there for almost three years, selling ten million copies along the way.

Stop for a moment and ask yourself, “What are the five action steps that I need to take every day—no matter what—to achieve my number one goal?”

Perseverance is key

My last piece of advice to you is this: NEVER GIVE UP.

If we had stopped trying to sell the first Chicken Soup for the Soul book after one hundred rejections, I would not be sitting here writing this today. If we had stopped trying to promote, market, and sell the book after six months of no major results, I would not be a multimillionaire who has traveled to more than forty countries speaking and training people on the principles contained in that book and my other books.

It has taken more than fifteen years to build a brand that has generated more than a billion dollars in retail sales and has created more than twenty licensed products, including Chicken Soup for the Pet Lovers Soul dog and cat foods.

So also remember to be patient!

If you follow your heart, believe in your dreams, trust your inner guidance, take action, and persevere no matter what, you will eventually find yourself living a life far greater than you ever could have imagined.

How to fast-track your journey

If you have some ambitious goals and dreams that you would like to accomplish sooner as opposed to later, I invite you to join me at Breakthrough to Success this August.

During this life-changing five-day event, I will teach you how to look inside yourself to find the wisdom that’s already there – so you can get clear on what you really want in life and what you need to do to not only achieve more success and career in your business, but also create the joyous and meaningful life you desire.

To learn more, visit: Breakthrough to Success

What is your inner guidance telling you to do?


 

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You can, as long as you include this complete statement with it: Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul® and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

10 Ways I'll Help You Succeed This Year

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Happy 2016! I hope your heart is filled with excitement for the year ahead!

The New Year is bursting with countless opportunities for you to create a life that fulfills your soul’s purpose and your heart’s deepest desires.

THIS can be the year when you dream bigger dreams... plan bigger outcomes... take action in a much bigger way... and experience a ton of joy, professional fulfillment, and personal accomplishment! 

All you have to do is say YES – and commit to taking the actions that will make your biggest ambitions a reality!

If you’re ready to make the leap from where you are now to where you want to be, I’m here to help you every step of the way.

Here are the top 10 ways I can support you in the pursuit of your dreams and achieve your goals in 2016:

1. Looking for daily inspiration and motivation?

Follow me on  Facebook. I post inspirational sayings and links to articles that contain valuable advice on practical steps you can take to experience more success in all areas of your life.

2. Want to overcome the biggest obstacles that are holding you back?

Start off the New Year right by taking my FREE Success Principles 10-Day Transformation challenge. Every day you’ll receive a new lesson and activity that will help you get clear on what you really want from life – and what you need to do to make it a reality.

3. Longing for a personal Success Principles cheerleader to keep you on track?

Get a Canfield Personal Coach in your corner and have a trained Success Principles expert work with you one on one to help you transform any area of life and accomplish your most ambitious goals. Sign up for a free introduction to coaching here.

4. Want to radically transform your life in five days?

Join me at Breakthrough to Success 2016 this February or August – and create a detailed roadmap that will help you fulfill your soul’s purpose and create the ideal life you’ve always wanted, while overcoming any obstacles with grace and ease.

5. Dreaming of becoming a leader worth following?

Join my friend and colleague Kathleen Seeley for our ground-breaking leadership training program, Leadership Worth Following: How to Build Cultures That Inspire, Motivate, & Thrive this February in Newport Beach, CA. You’ll learn how to become a leader who inspires people to come together as a highly motivated team and accomplish more than they ever thought possible.

6. Searching for ways to re-energize your life and business – and bring more success and fulfillment into your life?

If you’re a successful entrepreneur looking for ways to take your life and business to the next level, join me at my next Private Client Luxury Retreat at the beautiful Bacara Resort in Santa Barbara – and work one-on-one with me and my top business advisors to create a detailed plan to create a life of deeper joy, abundance, and purpose. (Application only – call my team for info: 805-881-5192)

7. Want to fulfill your dreams of success while helping others and making the world a better place?

If you're a speaker, trainer, coach, consultant or up-and-coming author (or simply dream of becoming one), work with me in person and become and Advanced Certified Canfield Trainer during my 2016 Train the Trainer Live program. You’ll learn how to have a profound transformative effect on the people you work with so you can make a bigger positive impact on their lives – and your career. (Application only) 

8. Want to teach the Success Principles to others – but can’t afford the travel and expense of Train the Trainer Live?

If traveling to the US for my Train the Trainer live program doesn’t fit your schedule or budget, you can receive the exact same training and become a Certified Canfield Trainer at a fraction of the cost with my new Train the Trainer Online program. If you work with people in any capacity, this training will teach you how to make a bigger impact on others and inspire them to become their best selves. It’s the best possible decision you can make to advance your speaking, teaching, coaching, consulting or management career!

9. Searching for fun and affordable ways to create your own vision of success – in the comfort of your own home?

Master the Success Principles and learn how to create the life of your dreams with any of these popular home-study programs available on my website. You’ll discover how to feed your mind, open your heart, and visualize your way to achieving higher levels of success in all areas of your life.

10. Looking for permission to just go for it?

You’ve got it! You have my permission – and the permission of the Universe and whatever Higher Power governs it – to pursue your biggest dreams.

I truly believe that we are not given dreams that we lack the capacity to achieve. So if you are capable of dreaming it, then YOU CAN ACHIEVE it.

All you have to do is say YES and take action to make those dreams come true!

You have all of the talent and the resources you need to start right now and create anything you want. 

You just have to make the decision to ACT.

I know you can do it.  And I think that deep down, you know you can do it too.

So don’t let fear or uncertainty hold you back!  Get clear on what you want – and what you need to do to make it happen. And then take one small step after another to get from where you are to where you want to be. That’s how success happens.

If you decide to enroll in any my programs, I can guarantee that you will reach your goals faster.  But even if you don’t, you still have the capacity to make your dreams come true.

So this January, once the New Year celebrations are over, I challenge you to roll up your sleeves and make it happen!


I'm here for you!And please don’t forget that I’m here for you, and eager to support you in any way I can.  

In fact, my team is standing by to answer your questions about the above programs. Contact us at:  805-881-5191


P.S. What do you want to create for yourself or your business this year?  I'd love to hear what your ambitions are in 2016!  Declaring your goals publicly is an important first action step.

Post your goals below and let’s create an avalanche of momentum together!

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