Are You a Member of the “Ain’t it Awful” Club?

Let’s discuss one of the only clubs in the world that no one should ever want to be a part of, and that is the “Ain't it Awful” Club.

The "Ain’t it Awful" Club is populated by negative, judgmental, and pessimistic people who only focus on how bad things are and how it’s always other people who are responsible for their unhappiness and lack of success.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn

They tend to be blamers, complainers, and excuse makers. They constantly blame others for everything that doesn’t work in their lives. They blame the government, the latest wave of immigrants, their bosses, their employees, their coworkers, and their spouses, parents, and children for why they don’t have what they want in life.

They are also complainers. They complain about their job, the traffic, their neighbors, the economy, the media, the schools, today’s kids, the weather, their faulty equipment, and on and on.

They are also perennial excuse makers. Instead of getting things done, they make excuses for everything. It is never their fault. The printer was late, the traffic was terrible, they didn’t have enough time, they were underfunded, everyone else screwed up, the lack of clear instructions, and so on.

Nothing is ever their fault.

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The problem with blaming others

The problem with this kind of thinking is that instead of results, excellence, achievement, and success, you only end up with reasons why you didn’t create the desired result – for yourself or for your employer.

You may get a lot of agreement from other people. You may get to temporarily feel better, but what you don’t get is what you set out to produce - greater happiness, fulfillment, prosperity and abundance, and the achievement of your dreams and objectives.

Stop blaming others and take 100% responsibility instead

It’s critical to stop blaming others and replace complaining and excuse making with 100% responsibility thinking.

First, realize you are creating your current reality with your thoughts and your images.

One of the great positive affirmations to write down and put where you will see it every day is: “If it is meant to be, it is up to me!”

Learn to Ask Yourself Different Questions

You also have to start asking a different set of questions. Instead of, "Why can’t I?" or, "Why didn’t I achieve that result I wanted?" use positive affirmations and ask..."How can I achieve it?"

When something is not working the way you want, you can ask yourself any of these questions:

  • "How am I creating or allowing this to happen?"
  • "What am I doing that is working that I need to do more of, and what I am I doing that is not working that I need to do less of?"
  • "Am I working too much?"
  • "Am I talking too much and not listening enough?"
  • "Am I not asking enough questions?"
  • "Am I not inspecting other people’s work until the last minute and therefore, getting sloppy results?"
  • "Am I drinking too much alcohol, not getting enough sleep, gossiping too much?"
  • "What am I pretending not to know?"
  • "What yellow alerts that things are not right or not on track am I ignoring because it is uncomfortable to have to deal with them?"
  • "What actions are needed here?"
  • "If I don’t know or am not sure what to do, who can I ask for help, advice, or support?"
  • "When will I take action on the needed actions?"

Are you surrounded by negative people?

Finally, let’s look at what you should if you find yourself surrounded by members of the Ain’t It Awful Club…

Whether it’s at work, at the local bar, in your school, your sports team, or at home, the first thing is not to join into the negativity.

Don’t participate in the negative blaming, complaining, and excuse making. You can attempt to change the topic to what actions need to be taken to change things for the better, but if that doesn’t work, it is best to vacate the area and go about working on your goals and objectives.

Free Yourself From Negative People

Make a list of everyone you spend time with on a regular basis— your family members, coworkers, neighbors, friends, and so on. When you’ve completed your list, go back and put a minus (-) sign next to those people who are negative and toxic, and a plus (+) sign next to those who are positive and nurturing.

Next, make a decision to stop spending time with those people with a minus sign next to their name. If that is impossible (and remember, nothing is impossible; it is always a choice), then severely decrease the amount of time you spend with them.

You have to free yourself from the negative influence of others.

Are there people in your life who are always complaining and blaming others for their circumstances? Are there people who are always judging others, spreading negative gossip, and talking about how bad it is? Stop spending time with them as well.

Dedicate Yourself to Success

If you are going to be successful, you have to start hanging out with the successful people. Ask them to share their success strategies with you. Then try them on and see if they fit for you.

Leave a comment below and share with me one person who positively impacts your life and why!

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7 Tips to Strengthen Your Intuition and Take Soul-Inspired Action

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When we have a big question or an important decision to make, many of us look outside of ourselves for the answers.

We turn to Google. We get advice from our friends and family. We read books or consult the teachings of experts. Yet we often neglect to consult the most important authority of all: our own intuition.

Your subconscious mind is the source of your hidden genius and will always provide you with the knowledge you need to move forward in the right direction. This is true for all people, not just those who consider themselves to be psychic or highly intuitive.

Consider this: have you ever been thinking about someone – and out of the blue the phone rings and that exact person is on the line?

Or have you ever felt like someone is watching you – and when you turn around you see someone staring at you from some distance away?

These are just two common examples of your intuition at work. Just like memory, critical thinking, and intellect, your intuition is a mental muscle you can strengthen and use to create success and become the best possible version of yourself.

Here are seven tips on how to develop your intuition and leverage it to make wiser, more soul-inspired decisions for your life.

1. Recognize when your intuition speaks

First of all, in order to be able to use your intuition, you must able to recognize it when it speaks to you. Intuition usually isn’t loud or demanding – it’s subtle and communicates in different ways for different people.

For example, you may receive visual messages, such as images that appear in quick flashes or visions that unfold slowly, like a movie.

Your intuition might speak to you as a hunch, a thought, or in words. You may even be able to enter into a dialogue with your intuition to get more information and clarity.

Alternatively, your intuition may speak to you in physical sensations, such as goose bumps, discomfort in your gut, a feeling of relief, or a sour taste in your mouth.

You may receive intuitive messages through your emotions, such as feelings of uneasiness or confusion when your inner wisdom is steering you away from something – or feelings of euphoria and profound peace when you’re being guided down a path that will lead you to greater personal joy and abundance.

Sometimes intuition messages are simply a deep sense of knowing and certainty. If you’ve ever felt that you knew something to be true in the depths of your heart or soul, chances are it was a message from your intuition.

2. Deepen your intuition through meditation

In order to access your intuition, you need to deepen your connection to it – and meditation is an excellent tool for this. Regular meditation will help you clear your mind of distractions and teach you how to better recognize the subtle impulses from within.

I recommend you set aside time each day to meditate on your own, or use guided meditations such as those found in my Awakening Power program.

It doesn’t have to be long – even 10 minutes a day will yield powerful results and will make it much easier for you to notice your intuition when it speaks to you through words, images, emotions, or physical sensations.

If you don't already practice meditation, you can learn how to meditate here.

3. Dedicate time to listen to your intuition each day

Life is busy, and in the rush to cross off items on our daily to-do lists, it’s easy to forget to stop and tune into our higher intelligence. But your most valuable wisdom comes when you are most open to receiving it.

That’s why I encourage you to devote time every day – multiple times a day, if necessary – to consciously give your intuition center stage. This is especially important when you’re being asked to make any important decisions. Be sure to take some time to sit with your intuition and look inside yourself for the answers before you choose which path to take.

4. Ask questions

Receiving wisdom from your intuition shouldn’t be a passive experience. Get specific about the information you need and what kind of answers you’re looking for. The more clearly you pose your questions to your innate wisdom, the clearer the answers will be.

5. Write down your answers

Intuitive messages are subtle and can fade from your conscious mind very quickly unless you take action to record them. In fact, neuroscience research indicates that intuitive insights not captured within 37 seconds will likely never be recalled again.

Journal writing is a highly effective way to access your intuition and capture its wisdom. I suggest you make a regular practice of journaling for just five or ten minutes a day – you’ll be amazed at the clarity of what comes through!

6. Take immediate action

The Universe rewards those who take action – and so does your intuition. When you act on the information you receive from your inner source of wisdom, you open the channel between your subconscious and conscious mind even wider and will receive more intuitive messages that are stronger and easier for you to hear and act on.

7. Trust yourself

The more faith you demonstrate in your intuition, the greater the results will be.

Whether you want to make better decisions, solve problems faster, or create winning plans for your life, you will achieve your goals faster and more effectively when you tune into your intuition and listen to what your inner wisdom has to say.

Trusting your intuition is all about trusting yourself – and the more trust you place in yourself, the more success you will have.

Easier said than done? I can help

Developing a strong connection with your intuition can be challenging, especially if you’ve spent a lifetime second-guessing yourself or not trusting your own decision- making skills, or if you have too many other “voices” in your head – voices of self-doubt, or blame, or judgment - drowning out your intuition.

If you feel like you need more help with this, I invite you to join me in person at Breakthrough to Success this August. In just five days, we’ll work together to quiet the voices that don’t serve you and strengthen your connection to your inner source of wisdom.

You’ll get clear on what it is you truly want from life – and the steps you need to take to make it happen. Plus, you’ll meet a huge group of supportive, highly motivated people who will cheer you on toward your goals, silencing those negative voices for good.

This is your best chance to work one-on-one with me as your personal mentor – and catapult yourself to a much higher level of performance in all areas of your life in just four short days.

Consider these two possibilities and ask yourself: what path is your intuition telling you to follow in order to create your ideal life and become the best possible version of yourself?

I look forward to working with you in person.

 


 

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