5 Steps to Develop Maximum Self-Confidence

If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to have self-confidence and believe that you are capable of making it happen.

How do you develop self-confidence like this?

You have to believe you have the right stuff, and that you are able to pull it off. Self-confidence is a deep-seated belief that you have whatever it takes. You have the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.

Here are 5 tips that can help you develop maximum self-confidence.

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1. Make the Choice to Believe in Yourself

That’s right, believing in yourself is a choice.

It is an attitude you develop over time. Although it helps if you had positive and supportive parents, the fact is that most of us had run-of-the-mill parents who inadvertently passed on to us the same limiting beliefs and negative conditioning they grew up with.

To be successful, you have to remember, the past is the past and there is no payoff for blaming your parents for your current level of self-confidence. It’s your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs.

You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to, because the reality is, you can.

2. Use Positive Self-Talk and Positive Visualizations to Persuade Yourself

The latest brain research indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with proper training, coaching and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.

If you choose to believe in yourself and act as if anything is possible, then you will do the things that are necessary to bring about the result.

On the other hand, if you believe that it is impossible, you will not do what is necessary, and you will not produce the result. Either way, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

3. Give Up the Words “I Can’t”

If you are going to develop maximum levels of self-confidence and success, you need to give up the phrase “I can’t” and all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”

The words “I can’t” disempower you.

They actually make you physically weaker when you say them. Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it, and the words you think and say affect your brain and body.

Let me give you an example:

When you were a toddler, there was no stopping you. You thought you could climb up on anything. No barrier was too big for you to attempt to overcome.

But little by little, your sense of invincibility was conditioned out of you by the feedback you received from your family, friends, and teachers, and by the decisions you made in response to that, until you no longer believed you could.

To undo your past conditioning and move towards a future of confidence and success, you must take responsibility for removing the words “I can’t” from your vocabulary, and replacing them with the words “I can” and “I will.”

4. Ignore What Others Think of You

If having others believing in you and your dream were a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything.

You need to base your decisions about what you want to do on YOUR goals and desires--not the goals, desires, opinions, and judgments of your parents, friends, spouse, children, or co-workers.

Quit worrying about what other people think about you and follow your heart.

In fact, most of the time, nobody’s thinking about you at all! They are too busy worrying about their own lives, and if they are thinking about you, they are wondering what you are thinking about them.

Meanwhile, all that time you’re wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home, could be better spent focusing on doing the things that will actually get your closer to achieving your goals.

5. Constantly Acknowledge Your Positive Past

Most people in our culture remember their failures more than their successes.

One reason for this is the “leave ‘em alone -- pounce” approach to parenting, teaching, and management that is so prevalent in our culture.

When you were a young child, your parents left you alone when you were playing and being cooperative, and then pounced on you when you made too much noise, were a nuisance, or got into trouble.

There was almost always more emotional intensity around your errors, mistakes, and failures than there was around your successes.

And because the brain more easily remembers events that were accompanied by strong emotions, most people underestimate and underappreciate the number of successes they’ve had, compared to the number of failures they’ve had.

The best way to counteract this phenomenon is to consciously focus on and celebrate your successes. Research has shown over and over again that the more you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you become in taking on and successfully accomplishing new ones.

Remembering and acknowledging that you have had successes in the past, will give you the self-confidence that you can have more successes in the future.

Create a Victory Log for Yourself

Keeping these 5 strategies in mind, I want you to create a victory log.

A victory log is a list of all your daily successes. You can keep your list in a notebook, your iPad, your smartphone, or on your computer, but the point is to keep a running list that you can add to each day.

Begin by writing down your successes from yesterday and those from today, and keep the list going in order to log these victories into your long-term memory. As simple as this exercise is, it is extremely powerful in building your maximum confidence.

To hold yourself accountable, leave a comment below with the first 5 items in your victory log. I’ll follow up with you in the comments to make sure you’re staying on track.

Develop Maximum Self-Confidence

Imagine exuding self-confidence in any situation, asking for what you want, believing anything is possible... and, taking more risks. Now imagine you have already achieved any goal you desire. What would it feel like? How would you be thinking?

This simple imagination exercise is something you can do right now to take you faster to the actual manifestation of that experience.

That's because when you feel good about yourself, you begin to attract the people and events that empower you to achieve the exact success you imagined.

 

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  • Good read. The piece about acknowledging your positive past and celebrating wins is a big one for me. Stopping to honor even the smallest of wins goes a long way, but is so easy to forget to do . Thanks for the reminder.

    • You're welcome, Michael. We all need reminders to do that! Unfortunately, focusing on your downfalls rather than your accomplishments is an easy cycle to get caught in.

  • Henzi Andalas Nusantara

    My Victory Log :
    1.Became a Professional Magician
    2.Became a Professional Actor
    3.Became a Professional Mentalist
    4.Became a Professional Emcee
    5.Became a Professional Stuntman

  • Prachi

    In My Victory Logs, I would like to put the victories from my school, every year, continuously for 12 consecutive years, I stood 1st in my class! And then went on to get excellent grades in my high school too!

    I always forget these initial years of huge success that I had!

    • That's why it's great to remind yourself, Prachi! Being 1st in your class is absolutely something to be proud of. Remember that next time you aren't feeling your best.

  • Chris

    Fixed the rearview mirror in my car
    On day/ lesson 22 of A Course In Miracles
    Reached out to friends from school that own their own businesses to collaborate on a beer
    Tackling competitor SWOT even though business plan writing has proven to be my dragon... I can do this!
    Finally, I looked at potential locations for my Brewery Lounge

    • You CAN do this, Chris! With accomplishments like that, you're already on your way.

  • Chi

    1. Spent the first hour of my day exercising, meditating, praying and affirming the goals in my vision board;

    2. I was able to meet up with friends from graduate school to update, cheer and help each other out on some of our respective personal and professional challenges.

    3. Finished in advance, two of the work reports that I have been meaning to accomplish for next week’s meeting.

    4. Drank 8 glasses of water.

    5. Spent an hour of my day reading Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles.

    • Awesome job, Chi! Keep up the list going, it sounds like you are already on the right path.

  • bhumika sharma

    your articles really help me a lot to stay on right track in my life. thank you so much

  • Alurigo Ravusiro

    Hi Jack, I am grateful for signing up and thank God for being able to connect with you. I love your books "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series with other authors and it is surreal connecting with such a world famous author and a Godfearing brother at that. Thank you so much, I am now applying what I am learning, actually committing myself to doing. Thank you so much... Alu in Papua New Guinea.

    • That's great to hear, Alurigo. Taking action is a critical step in your success. Keep at it!

  • Great job, Joy! There is a lot to be proud of in that list.

    • Joy

      Thanks Jack!

  • Mauricio Ferrari

    Jack, look the e-mails that I sent for you. I want that the Brazilians learn from you, you have a lot to teach us. Thank you for doing what you do. I got a lot of things because of what I learned from you. Thank you.

  • Jennifer Lin

    Jack, I have a question for you. You said we should step outside of comfort zone. You mentioned an example that you bought a better-quality expensive shirt in Westwood. However, you also said do not spend more than you make. So now, I am going to Bali. Do I stay in the $1,000 a night villa on the cliff, or I stay at the $30 a night IBIS Style that comes with free breakfast which I would earn 15,000 points after 5 stay for a stay of minimum 2 nights per stay, and 15,000 is equal to $300 euro value? I am going to a conference which I enjoy the subject, and I might meet new friends and they might ask me where I stay.

    p.s. The picture was taken in a five-star resort in Phuket in an upscale Italian restaurant with an ocean view in the afternoon. Me, pizza, and Success Principles.
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/f0ffaff93307f3567eb62879d0d2a489add9cfce097c3c1bc2f11621a8e68517.jpg

    • Great view, Jennifer! Clearly, you know how to appreciate the finer things in life 🙂

      To your question, I recommend choosing the option that will contribute most to your long-term success. If staying in the $1000/night cliffside villa is the inspiration you need to continue working towards your goals - then that may be a good choice for you. However, if staying in that $1000/night villa is going to set you back from achieving your financial goals - it might not be. You need to assess that for yourself.

  • Gerardo Morillo

    Very Nice Article Jack!

  • Seham Alsaleh

    1. finishing the principle no.10 from success principles book.
    2.reading till page 85 from secrets of the millionaire mind.
    3.finishing day 10 of Jack course.
    4. taking notes of Chandlers videos ( how to publish first book in 90days)
    5.joined startup club with Eben Pagan to start on line business.

  • Thapelo Ntsiki

    Yesterday I:
    -submitted an assignment in time
    -had an electronic business meeting with actual and potential partners
    -inquired about my business back home and the feedback was positive
    -improved my reading and comprehension skills
    -listened to motivational recordings