How to Show Appreciation to Others

Learning how to show appreciation daily for everything is one of the highest emotional states you can experience. Many people find that it requires great diligence to cultivate a persistent attitude of appreciation. That’s because we’ve been culturally conditioned to focus on what we don’t have, rather than appreciation for what we’ve already received and achieved.

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"Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.." - Oprah Winfrey

When you make being grateful a habit, you’ll feel true joy and contentment, no matter what you have or don’t have in your life. And since the Law of Attraction states that like attracts like, being grateful will naturally attract more into your life that you can be grateful for. When you learn how to show appreciation, it’s a never ending cycle of positivity!

We do dozens of things every day on autopilot, such as eating our meals, taking showers, or doing the dishes. We don’t have to spend time visualizing these activities or putting them on our to-do lists. We simply do them out of habit. Playing The Appreciation Game on a daily basis is a great mindfulness training and will help you turn gratitude into a daily habit, so you can attract more joy and abundance into your life all year long.

How to Show Appreciation Daily 

1. Set a time every day

First, set a specific time each day to consciously appreciate everything you encounter. An ideal time to do this is on your way to or from work.

2. Appreciate everything you encounter

Second, appreciate the people you pass, the road you walk on, the cars that let you merge into a different lane, the street signs that make it easy for you to know where you’re going, the rain that’s nourishing the plants and trees, and so on.

3. Look for the good in every situation

Third, look for the good in all situations – even those you would normally view as negative. As the saying goes, “Every cloud has a silver lining.” For example, when my wife was in a car accident a few years ago, she could have chosen to berate herself or question her judgment. Instead, she learned how to stay focused on her gratitude for suffering only minor injuries and for the help she received from other drivers.

Remember, new habits take 30 to 60 days to lock in.

Show Appreciation at Least 10 Times a Day

Express your appreciation to at least 10 people a day, both individuals you know intimately, as well as virtual strangers who touch your life. Experiment with the different forms of appreciation and observe how much more deeply your appreciation is received when you find the right way to deliver it for each individual. Then keep track of everything you’ve appreciated on your scorecard.

I don’t go to bed without achieving my daily appreciation quota. I appreciate my wife and children, write letters to my mother or stepfather, or email my staff. Do this every day for 6 months or until you no longer needed the card as a reminder.

As you build the habit of appreciation, it helps to expand the circle of people whom you appreciate. Think bigger. Our society flourishes because of connections. We literally couldn’t survive without other people.

Nobody pumps their own petroleum, turns it into gas, and trucks it into their own town. Other people do it. The food we eat probably has 30 to 40 people involved in it before it gets to our tables. Although they may be strangers, the people who serve us by doing their part in making our society function deserve our thanks, too.

Try it for Yourself

Grab an index card, a journal, or keep a note in your phone to start writing down at least 10 things you appreciate daily for the next 30 days. It may not feel natural at first to focus on appreciating what you already have, especially when you're first learning how to show appreciation.

But by faithfully practicing The Appreciation Game, you’ll begin to change your conditioning. And to help keep you more accountable, comment below how you plan on building an attitude of gratitude and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

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Using the Law of Attraction for Joy, Relationships, Money & More

The Law of Attraction is the most powerful law in the universe. Just like gravity, it is always in effect, always in motion. It is working in your life at this very moment. You are always in a state of creation. You are creating your reality in every moment of every day. You are creating your future with every single thought: either consciously or subconsciously. You can’t take a break from it and decide not to create because creation never stops.

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Understanding just how the Law of Attraction is a fundamental key to your success. If you want to change your life, and empower yourself to create an amazing future, then you need to understand your role in the Law of Attraction.

Expect miracles. 

The Law of Attraction allows for infinite possibilities, infinite abundance, and infinite joy. It knows no order of difficulty, and it can change your life in every way.

In order to really understand how the Law of Attraction works in your life, we need to look at a few things. I will explain the Law of Attraction, how to use it in your life to attract success in many areas, a meditation technique, and some tips for abundance.

Let’s start at the beginning.

Learn how to use the Law of Attraction from my FREE guide. Click here to get it.

What is the Law of Attraction?

Simply put, the Law of Attraction says that you will attract into your life whatever you focus on. Whatever you give your energy and attention to will come back to you.

So, if you stay focused on the good and positive things in your life, you will automatically attract more good and positive things into your life. If you are focused upon lack and negativity, then that is what will be attracted into your life.

Here’s how it works:

Like attracts like. If you are feeling excited, enthusiastic, passionate, happy, joyful, appreciative, or abundant, then you are sending out positive energy.

On the other hand, if you are feeling bored, anxious, stressed out, angry, resentful, or sad, you are sending out negative energy.

The universe, through the Law of Attraction, will respond enthusiastically to both of these vibrations. It doesn’t decide which one is better for you, it just responds to whatever energy you are creating, and it gives you more of the same. You get back exactly what you put out there.

Whatever you are thinking and feeling at any given time is basically your request to the universe for more of the same. Because your energy vibrations will attract energy back to you of the same frequencies, you need to make sure that you are continually sending out energy, thoughts, and feelings that resonate with what you want to be, do, and experience.

Your energy frequencies need to be in tune with what you want to attract in your life.

If love and joy are what you want to attract, then the vibrational frequencies of love and joy are what you want to create.

How to Use the Law of Attraction

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Once you understand the Law of Attraction, and how it works, you can begin to consciously and intentionally create a better life.

You can choose to respond differently to the situations that arise during your day.

You can choose to think differently.

You can choose to focus and think about the things you want more of in your life.

You can choose to experience more of the things that make you feel good.

You can choose to deliberately participate in the creation of your future by managing your thoughts and feelings.

Using the Law of Attraction is a three-step process: ask, believe and receive. Let’s go into detail on each aspect.

1. Ask for what you want, not for what you don’t want

Every day, you send out requests to the universe—as well as to your subconscious mind—in the form of thoughts: literally, what you think about, read about, talk about, and give your attention to. Unfortunately, what we give our attention to is often random and not deliberate, you simply respond to situations.

Because the Law of Attraction states that you’ll attract into your life whatever you give your energy, focus, and attention to—wanted or unwanted.

You must become more deliberate about what you think and feel.

To become more intentional about the thoughts you offer the universe, you’ll need to decide what you want—but also practice feeling those emotions you’ll experience when you have it.

Perhaps you want to change career, move to another state, win a major professional award, have your own TV show, or recover from a major illness.

  • How would you feel once you’ve “arrived” at your goal?
  • What would you be doing throughout your day?
  • Who would you be spending time with?

The more you focus on and talk about what you DO want (instead of what you don’t want), the faster you will manifest your dreams and goals.

2. Believe that you’ll get what you want, then take action

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It means maintaining a positive expectancy, going about your day with certainty— knowing that you’ve put your future in the hands of powers that are greater than yours. It’s deciding with conviction that what you want will absolutely happen.

This is not always easy. 

Many people have limiting beliefs which keep them from allowing abundance and happiness into their lives. If this describes you, realize that you must first change your limiting beliefs into thoughts that you are deserving, worthy, lovable, desirable, and capable—as well as smart enough, strong enough, attractive enough, rich enough, good enough, and “enough” in every other way that matters to you.

Once you believe that you’ll get what you want, the second part of the equation is to take action.

Taking the actions that would create your desired result affirms your belief that what you want is within reach.

3. Receive what you want by becoming a vibrational match for it

In order to receive that which you are intending, you must become a “vibrational match” for what you want to attract into your life.

The easiest way to become a vibrational match is to focus on creating positive emotions of love, joy, appreciation, and gratitude throughout your day. You can also practice feeling the emotions you would be experiencing if you already had what you wanted. You can also create these emotions through the thoughts that you think. In fact, your thoughts are creating feelings all the time, so it’s important to catch yourself when your emotions turn negative and turn them to positive emotions.

As with everything, this takes time and practice. However, the more you put a conscious effort into attracting what you want, and following these steps, the easier it will become.

You can begin to expect miracles. 

Money and the Law of Attraction

If you want to create financial abundance in your life, then start by focusing on prosperity and money flowing into your life.

Envision the checks coming in the mail. Write yourself a check for the sum of money you wish to manifest this year, and post it in a visible location. Every time you see it, believe that it is possible.

Remember to take a moment to be thankful for everything that you already have. By doing this, you are creating a vibrational match for the financial abundance that you want to attract into your future life.

The Law of Attraction in Love and Relationships

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If you want to create an abundance of love in your life, then focus on love. Be the love you want to attract.

Become more loving and generous with others and with yourself. By creating the vibration of love, you will automatically draw more love into your life.

Focus on whatever it is that you want to create more of in your life, and remember to be grateful for that which you already have.

Gratitude itself is a form of abundance, and the vibrational frequency of gratitude and appreciation will automatically attract even more to be grateful for.

A Law of Attraction Meditation for Guidance

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Take time each day to step away from the clutter and the noise. A daily commitment to spend time in this still, quiet place is a commitment to clarity and inner peace.

We need this time and space in our lives in order to remember who we really are, what’s important, and where our personal truth lies. It is our time to calm the spirit and soothe the soul.

You can learn how to meditate in many different ways, but in general, they consist of simply being still and quiet for a period of time and focusing your attention on either your breath or a mantra of some sort.

If you are new to the practice of meditation—your thoughts will drift, and your mind will wander at first. Remember not to be hard on yourself when this happens. This is just part of learning how to meditate.

If you have never meditated before, here’s a simple structure you can use to begin.

  1. Find a quiet place, close your eyes, and focus on slowing down your breathing.
  2. Repeat an uplifting word or phrase.
  3. Move into a state of quiet.
  4. Imagine yourself surrounded by a sphere of light.

The regular practice of meditation will help clear your mind of distractions, cleanse your thoughts, and enhance your spiritual connection. It renews the spirit, relaxes the body, and calms the soul.

Law of Attraction Success Stories

The Law of Attraction states that you will attract into your life whatever you focus on. There are thousands of stories of people using it to achieve success, miracles, and things that they never though possible.

Let me tell you my story...

My mentor was a man named W. Clement Stone, who was worth $600 million when I worked for him.

He coached me about the Law of Attraction when I was a teacher in Chicago making $8,000 a year. He told me, "I want you to set a goal that's so big that if you achieve it, you'll know it's because of the secret I am teaching you."

I decided that that goal was to make $100,000 that year. I created an image of a $100,000 dollar bill and hung it on the ceiling above my bed. Every morning I'd see the image. I'd visualize what it would be like to have $100,000. Everything I did was to achieve that goal. At the end of the year, I had made $97,000. This would never have been possible without the Law of Attraction, these visualization techniques, and meditation.  

I have since gone beyond that goal by using The Law of Attraction, in my life.

Watch this video for some other Law of Attraction Success Stories:

Law of Attraction Quotes

Throughout history, the greatest minds and spiritual teachers and leaders have been pointing to this simple truth. These people knew the power that our thoughts have over our lives. Here are 10 Law of Attraction quotes for some added inspiration.

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“Your future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow.” - Robert Kiyosaki

“The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it.” - Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.” - Anthony Robbins

“To let life happen to you is irresponsible. To create your day is your divine right.” - Ramtha

“You are what you think about all day long.” - Dr. Robert Schuller

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” - Buddha

“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

“I admit thoughts influence the body.” - Albert Einstein

“It has been proven now scientifically that an affirmative thought is hundreds of times more powerful than a negative thought.” - Michael Bernard Beckwith

“What the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind of man can achieve.” - Napoleon Hill

3 Law of Attraction Tips for Letting it Work in Your Life

blog-sidebar-250px-width350pxNow that you understand a little bit more about how you participate in the process of the Law of Attraction, you can begin to take responsibility for everything that you are currently in the process of attracting into your life.

Now that you are aware of the role you play in creating your life, you can no longer create your future accidentally or by default!

Take this to heart, because this is your moment, your time to begin consciously, intentionally, and deliberately participating in the creation of the future you desire.

1. Your Thoughts Determine Your Desires

Your thoughts are powerful. They are real, they are measurable, they are energy. Every single thought you have is a statement of your desires to the universe.

The thoughts you think today, feelings you feel today, and actions you take today will determine your experiences tomorrow.

So it is imperative that you learn to think and behave in a positive way that is in alignment with what you ultimately want to be, do, and experience in life.

2. Dream Big

Don’t censor your dreams or vision with practicalities and probabilities. You don’t need to know every single step that it will take to achieve your goals. Just decide what you want. Know that you deserve it.

Believe you can have it, then release it, and let it go.

Open yourself up to infinite possibilities. Watch the miracles unfold. Now, consider this possibility—if you can figure it all out on your own, then your dream may not be big enough!

3. Use Positive Affirmations

Affirmations simply affirm your positive beliefs about yourself and about life. Every thought you think and every word you say is an affirmation. Your thoughts and words are declarations of who you think you are and how you perceive the world to be.

Strong, positive affirmations are powerful means of self-transformation and they are a key element in the creation of the life you desire.

They work by purposely replacing the limiting ideas, negative beliefs, and self-talk that you have taken on and internalized over the years with positive statements that assert who you want to be and how you want to experience life.

4. Clarify Your Goals

There are no limits on your dreams and goals. The whole world is out there just waiting for you. This is an inspirational technique that you might want to try as well.

A great process for clarifying some of your more long-term life goals and dreams is to make a list of 101 goals that you would like to accomplish before you die—101 things you would like to do, be, or have.

I wrote my life goals list in 1989 and you can read my personal life goals list for inspiration.

Take Positive Action!

Start by opening your mind and your heart.

Strive to become more aware of the amazing synchronicity that already exists in your life. Sweep away any lingering negative thoughts or emotions.

Sweep away any doubt. And then take actions each and every day that will move you toward your purpose and the fulfillment of your dreams.

The Law of Attraction allows for infinite possibilities, infinite abundance, and infinite joy. It knows no order of difficulty, and it can change your life in every way if you let it. Download my free guide to learn more!

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5 Things to Help Spruce Up Your Morning Routine

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The way you start your day from the moment you wake up sets the precedence for how the rest of your day, and ultimately how the rest of your life, will go. This is because creating a morning routine is a healthy habit that benefits both the body and mind.

Sometimes it is difficult to have a positive attitude first thing in the morning. Especially when you have a hectic day before you. It is easy to slip into a worried mindset when considering your to-do list. For this reason, I have come up with five tips to help you spruce up your morning routine and cut the negativity.

1. Eliminate Negative Thoughts

The first thing you should do in the morning is absolutely eliminate is your negative thoughts.

You should eliminate them from your life entirely, but again, it’s best to nip this in the bud at the start of your day. They’re not going to get you to where you want to go.

Instead, always look for a better feeling thought.

Become a “Vibrational Match” for the Things You Want

Everything on Earth vibrates at a specific frequency, and you must become a “vibrational match” for the things you want.

Think of yourself as a radio station. If you want to listen to jazz, you have to tune your dial to a jazz station, not a heavy metal one. Likewise, tuning your thoughts and feelings to a positive frequency will bring you positive things.

2. Don’t Think About What Could Go Wrong

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Don't dread having to find a parking space or think about being late to your appointment.

Instead, I want you to close your eyes for a few moments every morning. Visualize your day going exactly the way you want it to go.

You’re going to find a parking spot. You’re going to make your appointment. Your meeting is going to go well. You are going to make that sale and you are going to finish that project.

Every single thing is going to go exactly the way you want it to.

This is what I call "intending the day."

3. Start Your Day With a Purpose

The third thing you shouldn’t do in your morning routine is start without a purpose.

What is your bigger purpose?

Know why you get out of bed in the first place.

So after visualizing your day, visualize your bigger, long-term goals coming true. And take a few moments to say your affirmations, too.

Describe Your Goals in a Completed State

Try statements that describe your goals in their already completed state. Things like, “I am celebrating feeling light and alive at my perfect body weight of 135.”

I keep each of my goals and affirmations handwritten on a 3x5 index card. I read them after I wake up in the morning and before I go to sleep at night. Doing this consistently will activate your subconscious mind’s power to fulfill the achievement of your goals.

Your subconscious will look out for anything — people, opportunities, activities, and events — that can help you achieve your goal.

4. Remember to be Grateful

Next, remember to be grateful.

It’s easy to get up, jump right into working on getting things done, and take for granted the things that brought you to this moment. Take a few minutes to write down what you’re grateful for, that’s what I do every day.

I promise you that this simple technique will work miracles in your life.

A state of appreciation and gratitude puts you in one of the highest emotional states possible.

Remember, the Law of Attraction states like energy attracts like energy.

Our thoughts are made up of energy. If you think that way, you’ll attract more abundance, which will give you more to be thankful for.

5. If You Get Inspiration, Act Immediately

The fifth and final thing you should not do in your morning routine is ignoring your inspired actions.

If you get an inspiration to do something...

Act on it immediately.

As opposed to “obvious actions,” like changing your diet if you want to lose weight, “inspired actions” are more intuitive. Like a hunch or gut feeling.

You know, those random thoughts you have? Things like “I don’t know why, but I have this urge to call my college roommate” or “I have a strong feeling that I should attend that event tonight.

You may be presented with an opportunity you would never have imagined by taking that action.

Listen to Your Gut

Most of the time you won’t see the whole plan, but if you get an inspiration, act on it!

Don’t put it off or let it go. Pick up the phone and make the call, go down to the coffee shop, or go to the event that you thought of.

I remember being at a conference in Connecticut with my wife. I felt attracted to go to a session on doubling your income. My wife questioned my decision because service, not money, had always been my primary motivator in life.

I told her I didn’t know why, but I felt compelled to go it.  When I arrived at the session, I sat down next to a woman and introduced myself. It turned out she was a veterinarian, and she had just discovered a cure for feline leukemia.

My cat had recently been diagnosed with feline leukemia. Because I had followed my inspiration to go that session, my cat went on to live many more years.

See a Positive Difference in Your Day and Your Life

I’m going to leave you with a homework assignment. Eliminate at least one of these 5 things from your morning routine and replace them with their opposite. Positive thoughts are greater than negative thoughts.

Remember to visualize your day going well instead of badly. Focus on your larger purpose and your long term goals. Take a few moments to focus on what you are grateful for.  Act on your inspirations.

If you do, I guarantee you’re going to see a dramatic, positive difference in how the rest of your day, and your life, plays out.

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How to Believe in Yourself & Change Your Life in the Process

Learning how to believe in yourself will open up endless possibilities in your life. At times you may find this difficult to do. The truth is that we’ve been conditioned throughout our lives to doubt ourselves. We must retrain ourselves to get rid of our fears and self-doubt in order to build self-esteem and self-confidence.

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Everything you have in your life is a result of your belief in yourself and the belief that it’s possible. Here are the four most important steps to learning how to believe in yourself. Practice them and you’ll be amazed at the results:

  • Believe it’s possible. Believe that you can do it regardless of what anyone says or where you are in life.
  • Visualize it. Think about exactly what your life would look like if you had already achieved your dream.
  • Act as if. Always act in a way that is consistent with where you want to go.
  • Take action towards your goals. Do not let fear stop you, nothing happens in life until you take action.

Let’s take a look at each of these steps...

Believe it’s Possible: You Always Have a Choice

In order to believe in yourself, you first have to believe that what you want is possible.

Scientists used to believe that humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world. But what we now know is that instead, we respond to what the brain -- based on previous experience -- expects to happen next.

In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want through the power of positive expectation.  

This is why it's so important to always hold a positive expectation that what you want is going to happen.  It is simply a choice and a discipline of the mind.

CASE STUDY: Zander Fryer and The Power of Believing It’s Possible

Zander was an ordinary person, but he made the extraordinary decision that has led to him leading an extraordinary life. Zander worked for a large tech company whose technology was used by Disney, Facebook, NBC, Directv, and at 27 years old he decided to quit his job.

After reading the Success Principles, Zander realized that his job really wasn’t for him. His mentor asked him, “What would you do if you couldn’t fail?” Zander immediately said that he would be a trainer and a mentor to others.

Watch Zander’s powerful testimony below.

Does Zander’s story sound like you? Do you know that you need to make a change? Do you feel like you’re stuck in your job or feel like you’re unfulfilled in what you’re doing in your life?

Zander believed it was possible first, leaned into his dreams, and his path to success created itself.

During my 5-day Breakthrough to Success Live Training Event I’ll teach you how to believe that whatever you want it possible. I’ll show you how to live your purpose and fulfill that empty feeling you may have been experiencing.

Visualization: See What You Want, Get What You See

By adding a visualization practice to your daily routine, you will naturally become more motivated to reach your goals. You’ll start to notice you are unexpectedly doing things that move you closer to your ideal life.

Suddenly, you find yourself volunteering to take on more responsibility at work, speaking out at staff meetings, asking more directly for what you want, and taking more risks in your personal and professional life – and experiencing bigger pay-offs.

One way to do this is with a vision board. A vision board is a graphic representation of exactly what you want in life. You look at it every day. Use it to visualize exactly where you want to go.

Acting as if: Where Do You See Yourself in 5 Years?

One of the most effective ways to establish a success mindset is to act as if you are already the kind of person who has created the ideal life you want to live. Ask yourself:

Ask yourself: If you had already achieved your dream, what kind of person would you be? Who would you have as friends? What type of clothes would you be wearing? How would you act? How would you treat others? Would you tithe a portion of your income to your church or favorite charities?

Whatever actions you identify, start taking them now. By acting “as if,” you will become the kind of person who is capable of creating the kind of success you want – and this will trigger your subconscious mind to find creative ways to achieve your goals. You will start noticing anything that will help you succeed. Best of all, you will start acting on this opportunities, because you will have the confidence that your efforts will yield great results.

CASE STUDY: Jake Heilbrunn and the Power of Acting as if

Jake realized that he had chosen a path that didn’t align with what he really wanted. He decided to take a leap of faith and pursue his dream of traveling the world and helping people. Jake hopped on a plane to Guatemala and spent four months teaching English to children. He found a sense of peace and purpose within himself.

Listen to his testimony here:

Take Action Toward Your Goals

I’ve noticed this is where a lot of people get stuck. You can understand all these principles, and you can set your goals, and say your affirmations and do your visualizations, but ultimately nothing happens if you don’t act on them.

The biggest reason most people don’t achieve their goals and realize their dreams is that they don’t take action, and the number one reason people don’t take action is fear. And, what I tell them is that fear is normal, and as soon as you experience fear, you need to take action.

CASE STUDY: Austin Bauer and the Power of Taking Action

Austin was living a pretty good job and had a good life. He realized he was in a career that he didn’t want to be in. His mentor told him that he couldn’t run from his problems, what he realized was that he needed to find a community of like-minded people and attended Breakthrough to Success. Ultimately Austin was empowered to be himself and live a life that made him happy. Listen to Austin’s story here:

Take Action and Join me for my Live Training

Now is your chance. If any of these stories inspired you, it’s time for you to take action. I want you to join me for my Breakthrough to Success Live Training.

Remember, when you believe in yourself and believe success is possible for you, and take action on that belief, your life will begin to magically unfold. And you’ll discover that the universe will guide you and support you.

Consciously and subconsciously you’ll begin to recognize opportunities that you would have normally not seen in the past. I want to tell you about an opportunity that can help you jumpstart that breakthrough in your life.

Now it’s your turn to experience those same breakthroughs for yourself. I want to strongly encourage you to take the next step today and join me for this live training.

I will personally be leading every session of this experiential training. It’s not a pitch fest or sales seminar disguised as something else. It’s truly a unique, 5-day live training with me, where I’ll take you in-depth through all of the concepts and strategies we barely scratched the surface of today.

At Breakthrough to Success, you’ll learn how to take control of your life and inject it with unprecedented levels of clarity, confidence, joy and abundance. This is what you’ll walk away with after 5 impactful days with me.

CLICK HERE TO FIND OUT EXACTLY WHAT YOU’LL LEARN DURING BREAKTHROUGH TO SUCCESS

If you have put your passions to the side for too long, or you have yet to find them, at Breakthrough to Success you’ll learn how to align your passions with your personal and professional life.

With my help you’ll begin to create new successful habits that replace the ones that no longer serve you.

And by learning how to more skillfully apply the Law of Attraction and taking more inspired action, you’ll attract the people, wealth, and abundance you deserve into your life.

Most importantly, you’ll learn to listen to your intuition, be more positive and mindful each day, and have the power to ask for what you want, making you unstoppable in any situation. Thanks for reading about how to believe in yourself and for more information on Breakthrough to Success, click the button below.

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Are You Lying to Yourself?

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The person most likely holding you back from success is you.

How? Self-deception. Lying to yourself is the simplest way to ignore the challenges and situations that push you to achieve more.

Today, I’m going to talk to you about how to get out of denial and come to terms with the things that are holding you back from success.

Face What Is Not Working in Your Life

If you are going to be successful, you have to get out of denial and face what isn’t working in your life.

Do you make excuses for the lack of results in your business or your career? Do you defend or ignore how toxic your work environment is?

Maybe you make excuses for a bad marriage? Are you in denial about your lack of energy, your excess weight, your ill health, or your level of physical fitness?

Successful people face these circumstances head on. They heed the warning signs and take appropriate action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it might be.

How to Recognize Denial

What does denial look like?

Though some situations in our lives can be uncomfortable, embarrassing, and painful, we often live with them. Worse, we hide them behind myths, accepted views, and platitudes.

We don’t even realize we are in denial.

We use phrases such as, “It’s just what guys do.” “You can’t control teenagers these days.” “He’s just venting his frustrations.” “It’s got nothing to do with me.” “It’s none of my business.” “It’s not my place to say.” or “I don’t want to rock the boat.”

Lying to Yourself is NOT the Easy Route

Occasionally, we'll even pretend a situation is working when it isn't. We don't realize that if we acknowledge the bad situation sooner, it is often less painful to resolve.daily-affirmations-for-success-guide-2

Acknowledging the situation is cheaper, and the circumstances might be more beneficial. Likewise, the problems would be easier to solve and we could be more honest with everyone concerned. In turn, we would feel better about ourselves, and we would certainly have more integrity.

The problems would be easier to solve and we could be more honest with everyone concerned. In turn, we would feel better about ourselves, and we would certainly have more integrity.

But in order to accomplish this, we have to get past our denial.

Acknowledge the Bad Situation

Successful people are more committed to finding out why things are going wrong and fixing them. They do not defend their own position or maintain their ignorance.

A big part of not lying to yourself is recognizing bad situations and then doing something about them.

Often denial is the notion that something even worse will happen if you stop lying to yourself and take corrective action.

In other words... We’re afraid to face the truth.

Solutions Do Not Always Require Drastic Change

Therapists can tell you that in spite of overwhelming clues that their spouse is having an affair, many patients will not confront their cheating partner.

They simply don’t want to face the fact that the marriage might be over.

It could be they don’t want to deal with the emotional stress and the physical inconvenience of a divorce. Or they don’t want to deal with the financial upheaval or the possibility that they might have to move or get a job.

Many of the situations I described may require drastic changes in how you live, work, and relate to others. Remember that the solution to your problems isn’t always to quit your job, get a divorce, fire the employee, or ground your teenager.

It may be more productive to choose less extreme alternatives.

These alternatives can be a discussion with your boss, marriage counseling, setting boundaries with your teenager, coworkers, friends and family, scaling back your expenditures, or seeking competent professional help.

Face Your Fears and Take Action

Of course, these less drastic solutions still require you to face your fears and take action.

But you have to face what isn’t working first.

The good news is that the more you face uncomfortable situations, the better you get at it. When you face one thing that isn’t working, the next time you face a challenge, you are more likely to take immediate action.

And the sooner you take action, the easier it is to handle.

Choose an Area of Your Life to Improve

As usual, I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete. Take the time right now to make a list of what isn’t working in your life.

Start with the seven major areas where you would normally set goals:

  1. Financial
  2. Career or Business
  3. Free Time or Family Time
  4. Health and Fitness
  5. Relationships
  6. Personal Growth
  7. Contribution or Making a Difference

Make a Plan 

Ask yourself:

“What’s not working? How can I improve it? What requests can I make? What action steps can I take to get each of these situations to work out the way I would like them to?”

Do you need to talk to someone? Call a repair person? Ask someone for help? Learn a new skill? Find a new resource? Read a book? Call an expert?

Just choose one and make a plan to fix it. Hold yourself accountable, and leave a comment below of at least one thing you’re going to fix right now. I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

Affirmations can help you to improve all areas of your life. They will help you attract into your life all the love, appreciation, success, and abundance you desire and deserve. Learn more from my step-by-step affirmations guide to replace your limiting beliefs and achieve success. Click below to learn more. 

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How to Meditate for Clarity, Intuition & Guidance

Learning how to meditate can help you to achieve success faster, because when your mind is clear and focused, and your body is relaxed and calm, you can access information, both internal and external, that can help you make better decisions.

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Do you ever find yourself irritated and it gets in the way of your performance? Are you ever so stressed out that you can't sleep at night? Are you ever so overwhelmed you just can't seem to stay focused? Do you ever have to make a major decision and just don't know which way to go, or you're looking for a solution to a problem and you just can't find it? Meditation can help with all of these things.

The more you meditate, the more access you have to your intuition. Keep reading and I’ll show you how to meditate with a guided meditation exercise that I enjoy using. This is something that even beginners can use.

What is Meditation?

block quote, meditation is a powerful tool Meditation is a practice where you train your mind or induce a state of consciousness. You can meditate to realize some benefit, such as relaxation, stress reduction, healing, or strengthening your life force. Or for developing certain qualities such as love, patience, generosity, and forgiveness.


Focusing on breathing, visualizations, mantras or meditation music can help bring mindfulness to the present moment. This sets the stage to calm your mind.

Meditation can also be used to access inner wisdom and insight from your own higher unconscious or from a Universal power often referred to as God, infinite Intelligence, Universal Consciousness, or Source.

It is also a powerful tool for accessing your creativity, your inner wisdom, and developing your intuition.

For most people, this means to close your eyes, slow down your breathing, focus your goals by repeating a phrase without being distracted by anything else.

Does Meditation Work?

Most people have a resistance to meditation. They think it's too weird at first. Or they say they're too busy to take the time to learn how to meditate.

After reading this post, and discovering the simplicity, and many benefits of meditation, my hope is that you will try it in your own way.

Three of the sources of my greatest successes came to me while I was meditating – the title for Chicken Soup for the Soul, which has become a brand worth several hundred million dollars and the inspiration for the creation of the Transformational Leadership Council and for our Online Train the Trainer Program which teaches people how to teach the success principles.

There are many different forms of meditation that have been developed over thousands of years in many diverse cultures. I teach several of them in my Awakening Power audio program and you can learn one technique from the guide below.

Learning to meditate is a journey, this guide will help you take the right steps. Download my free 4-Step Meditation Guide.

The Benefits of Meditation

In general, through meditation, you can do many things better. You make better decisions. A few of the mental health benefits of meditation include greater productivity and focus, less stress throughout the day, anxiety relief, and better sleep at night. Meditation helps reset your hormones, promotes faster healing, and getting sick less.

It can help create longevity for a better life, build intuition, and discover your higher purpose.

Some of the spiritual benefits of meditation include, greater awareness of the world around you and a deep connection to yourself and your purpose.

All those things sound pretty great, right?

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What Happens During Meditation?

The reality is that you're focusing on one thing so that everything else begins to drop away. During meditation, your mind quiets. You’re able to access your subconscious mind.

When you first start meditating, you may notice that your mind begins to wander. If you sit with your eyes closed, trying not to think a thought, you’ll probably end up pretty frustrated, because your mind will tend to wander and you’ll think you’re failing. This is ok.

Remember: Meditation takes practice.

It's much easier when you have a guidance, when there's meditation music, when someone's voice is guiding you through the steps.

Your mind doesn't wander as much, and it's much easier to follow along and not get lost in all the stories and the to-do lists and the thinking about the past and worrying about the future that we normally do.

That’s what I want to do for you.

The Best Meditation Positions

Let’s start by getting into a position to meditate.

What are the best meditation postures for success? It’s much simpler than you might think. You can meditate while sitting naturally in a chair.

You can meditate sitting on the floor. You can even do it lying down. If you lie down you have the tendency to fall asleep, but do whatever is most comfortable for you.

Benjamin Franklin used to meditate holding a hammer about half an inch above his head so that if he fell asleep the hammer would hit his head and wake him up. He didn’t hold it so high that it would hurt him, but he was that committed to meditation.

How to Meditate: The 4-Part Meditation Technique

There are hundreds of different forms of meditation.  I have explored in depth at least 20 different forms of meditation, including 10-day silent meditation retreats. I now practice 3 or 4 different forms on a regular basis.  Each of the meditation techniques accomplish different things in my experience.meditation-guide

Some are calming and centering. Some energize and analyze the body. Some develop neutral witness or allow insight and wisdom to emerge.

There is a form of meditation that combines all these into one that I teach in my Breakthrough to Success Training.  

I call it the Betty Bethard’s 4-Step Meditation. Since I learned it from Betty and have been teaching it in my groups ever since.

I find this technique to be one of the most simple ways to meditate.  It is also, profoundly effective.  May it support your inner peace and wisdom.

Let me talk to you about what each step entails, then I’ll guide you through the entire meditation.

Step #1: Preparing to Meditate

Physical Preparation: Avoid meditating on a full stomach, when overly tired, or while wearing restrictive clothing.  Do not meditate while under the influence of alcohol or drugs.  Use your own judgment when using prescribed medication.

Mental Preparation: It is helpful prior to meditation to prepare yourself mentally.  For example: you may read, discuss, or listen to or think about something of an inspirational nature.

Environmental Preparation: Find a quiet time when you will not be disturbed by the telephone, doorbell or other interruptions.  When you have moved into the inner stillness, all your senses are heightened, and a sudden noise can be a shock to your system.

This meditation can be done sitting cross-legged on the floor, or as most people find more comfortable, sitting in a chair. Keep your body erect, feet flat on the floor, hands together in your lap. Let your hands touch together, fingertip to fingertip.

Relax.  It is helpful if your spine is straight. It is surprisingly easy to relax in an upright position. Imagine a string tied to the top of your head pulling straight up toward the ceiling.

Take several deep breaths through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Then let your breathing become steady, rhythmic and relaxed.

Imagine a pure white light coming up through your left foot, up the left side of your body, all the way to the top of your head, across to the right side of your body, and down the other side. Do this three times.

You can also ask to be shown the way to truth, wisdom, and understanding.

Step #2: Repetition

Repetition is simply the focusing of your mind on a single point. It is an essential part of meditation. It clears away the mental cobwebs and stills your active conscious mind.

You can do repetition with your eyes open or closed, whichever proves better for you. If you use the eyes open method, fix your gaze on a single object.  

A tiny light or candle in a darkened room, a picture, a religious symbol, a mandala, the word Love. These and many other things have been used successfully as the focal point of repetition.

A great many people, including myself, have better success in concentration with their eyes closed, visualizing a word, face, object or symbol in their mind’s eye. It can be a religious symbol, a mandala, a flower, or a peaceful scene in nature such as a still lake.  You may wish to focus on a word, a seed thought, or a phrase that has special meaning to you.

There are many, many phrases that come from different spiritual traditions. If you don't want to go into that, you can simply imagine inhaling the sound "re," exhaling, "lax." Like "relax." You're giving yourself a subliminal command.

Ones that I have used, with great success, are “I Am Love, or Sat Nam," or simply, "Re-lax”. You can just inhale as you say to yourself "Re" and exhale as you say to yourself "lax."

Repeat the phrase over and over without letting any other thoughts come into your mind.  Whatever focal point you choose on which to concentrate, let it represent your highest spiritual idea, never something materialistic.

At first, your mind will quite likely want to stray. Bring it gently back to the focal point of your concentration.  As it strays again, bring it back again. Almost everyone finds their mind much too active to settle down to a single point at first.  But, soon you will find your ability to discipline your mind to one point growing stronger and stronger.

Step #3: Receptivity

meditation-guideAfter a few minutes of repetition, you shift gently to receptivity for the next few minutes. Separate your hands and turn them palms upward in your lap. Keep your body erect and relaxed.  

Now let the mind you have been disciplining so vigorously relax. Do not exert any conscious effort to think about anything.  

Just set your mind free. If you did repetition with your eyes open, you must close them as you go into meditation. You have opened the various consciousness centers of your being.  Remain relaxed and passive, yet alert.

Thoughts and mental images may cross your consciousness.  Examine them placidly as they come and go.  You may “see” images and scenes or “hear” mental messages.  

An image that helps me is to imagine I am standing on the bank of the river simply watching boats fly by.  I am just watching the thoughts and sensations that arise.  The trick is to "watch" the thoughts and sensations as they arise.  

If you get lost and suddenly realize you are thinking rather than watching, just "climb out of the boat", get back on the bank and become the watcher, the observer or the witness once again. It takes a while to develop this witness position, but the rewards of peace, calm, and insight are well worth the effort.

Step #4: Closing Down from the Meditative State

At the end of your meditation, close both hands into fists and imagine a luminous white light surrounding you, filling, you and protecting you.

The main idea is that you are learning to place yourself in an environment of protection, guidance, and control. This can be done in a variety of ways. For example, imagine yourself in a ball of white light, or in a white balloon, just so long as the white environment totally surrounds you. This procedure will close down the centers of your consciousness that you have opened during concentration and meditation, leaving your inner being protected from outside influences.

Use this phase to visualize yourself achieving any goal you might choose. You could simply visualize yourself whole and healthy, or you might visualize yourself having achieved a particular goal. If you use an affirmation during the repetition phase and do a related visualization during this phase, this is very powerful.

Your Inner Wisdom: After a while of meditating you will begin to discover that you have a great deal of wisdom inside. It is simply a matter of taking the time to listen to what is within, and your intuition, sensitivity, and alignment with the universe all begin to grow.

It is as though all the powers of your mind and the secrets of the universe start to become available to you. You will grow in strength in these gifts so long as you seek them for service to your fellow man rather than for selfish, material ends.

How Long Should You Meditate For?

You can divide any amount of time into these 4 segments.  I usually meditate for about 20 minutes during the week and for 40-60 minutes on the weekend. On a 20 minute session might look like this: Preparation (3 minutes), Repetition (7 minutes), Receptivity (7 minutes), and Closing Down (3 minutes).

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Summary of The 4-Step Meditation for Beginners

1) Find a quiet place, close your eyes, and focus on slowing down your breathing

First, find a quiet place, close your eyes, focus on slowing down your breathing by taking four long, deep, slow breaths, and then imagine white or golden light starting in your left foot slowly moving up through the entire left side of your body and then down your right.

2) Repeat an uplifting word or phrase

Repeat an uplifting word or phrase such as "re-lax," "so-ham," "I am love," or, "I am in the universe and the universe is in me," silently over and over, for about 3 to 4 minutes.

3) Move into a state of quiet

Third, you stop the repetition of your word or phrase and just move into a state of quiet, receptive observation, just noticing any thoughts, feelings or physical sensations that arise in your consciousness.

4) Imagine yourself surrounded by a sphere of light

Fourth, spend a few minutes imagining yourself surrounded by a spotlight or sphere of white light. After a minute or two of that spend the remaining minute or two visualizing your life goals as already achieved.

Learning How to Meditate Effectively Takes Practice and is a Natural Progression

The thought of learning how to meditate can be intimidating to some beginners as there are several types of meditation, such as Mindfulness, Concentration Transcendental, Kundalini, Qi Gong, Zazen and Vipassana... but new practitioners should not get lost in complicated details. What I’ve just taught you is a combination of all of these meditations. It is extremely simple to learn and practice so you won’t become overwhelmed.meditation-guide

Just focus on improving one session at a time.

Whatever form of meditation you do, remember that you can’t do it wrong. Whatever you are experiencing is fine. Don’t expect to have a totally clear mind or to achieve enlightenment overnight. Meditation is a daily discipline that you practice for years, but the benefits are so profound.

When you first start, a few minutes is plenty. Over time you will find that you will want to meditate longer. It is a natural progression. I usually set the timer on my iPhone for 20 minutes.

If you don’t have 20 minutes, just 5 minutes of concentrating on the sensation of your breath either by focusing on the sensation of the air coming in and out of your nose or the sensation of the rise and fall of your chest is better than nothing.

Eventually, you will notice these instructions become second nature and your mind will be easier to calm by using the exercises. Be sure to focus on your breath and the sensations of inner peace and relaxation will follow closely.

Meditation Will Help Calm Your Mind

Try it for yourself. Get into a comfortable position and focus on your breath. You can focus your mind on one of your personal affirmations.

Another way to calm the mind is by visualizing a peaceful scene such as clouds floating by or the waves on a windy lake growing calmer and calmer. Start by doing this for at least 5 minutes every day, then build on the amount of time you spend meditating, and in a few weeks, reassess how you feel mentally and physically.

In addition to peace of mind, I guarantee you’ll notice increased clarity and energy in your life when you figure out how to meditate.

Leave a comment below and let me know if you’ve ever tried meditation and, if so, in what ways it has it benefited you?

Learning how to meditate is a journey, this guide will help you take the right steps

The process of figuring out how to meditate correctly doesn’t need to be overcomplicated. Due to its simple nature, the proven psychological benefits will gradually grow stronger and stronger, improving your emotional and mental health with every session. As a result, you will make room for more success in your life by removing mental clutter that weighs down your cycle of completion.

If you would like to start practicing meditation, then I strongly encourage you to download my free 4-Step Meditation Guide. It will help you understand the techniques used to reduce stress, overcome anxiety, clear your mind and listen to your intuition so you can tackle any challenge in life with clarity and ease.

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Stop Using These Affirmations Now

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Life is full of obstacles and roadblocks. It is easy to slip into negative self-talk when faced with these setbacks. This pessimistic outlook has a greater impact on your mindset than you’d think. I want to share a few common affirmations that you should stop using immediately and some positive replacements for them.

The Law of Attraction is at Work Right Now

The Law of Attraction is the most powerful law in the universe. Like gravity, it is always in effect, always in motion. It is working in your life at this very moment.

Simply put, the Law of Attraction says that you will attract into your life whatever you focus on. Whatever you give your energy and attention to will come back to you. If you focus on lack and negativity, then that is what you will attract into your life.

Replace These Negative Affirmations Now!

The negative messages that you feed yourself can lead to depression, lack of self-esteem and low self-confidence.

If you are using any of these affirmations you should stop, and replace them right now, instead choose from this list of positive affirmations.

1) "Money is the Root of All Evil."

The first affirmation you need to stop using now is “Money is the root of all evil” or “Having money creates more problems in life.”

There is nothing wrong with desiring financial wealth. You can do a lot of good in the world with greater financial assets. It is only the attachment to money that becomes problematic.

Replace this with:

"My life is abundant in every way."

2) "I Don't Want to Be Angry."

The second affirmation to stop using now is “I don’t want to be angry.”daily affirmations for success guide 2 offer

It’s important to focus on what you do want, not on what you don’t want. State your desires in a positive way.

Your mind works in pictures. If you say “I don’t want to be angry,” you are creating the picture and the vibration of being “angry.” The universe only receives the frequency of “angry” and responds to that.

You must focus on the opposite of what you don’t want. In this case, it would be a better choice to say

“I want to be more loving and accepting of the way things are.”

3) "I Don't Want to Get Sick."

The third affirmation to stop using now is “I don’t want to get sick.”

We have a tendency to focus on what we don’t want in so many areas of our lives, even when it comes to our own health.

When faced with an illness or disease, we become completely preoccupied with the problem rather than the desired outcome. We tend to give our complete focus to the illness, and all that it entails, instead of focusing on being healthy.

Use an affirmation like

“I always enjoy being vibrant, healthy, energetic and strong.”

Since what you focus on expands, you want to direct your energy and thoughts to those of being well. Keep your thoughts positive and optimistic, and see yourself as healthy and whole.

Your positive energy, thoughts, visualizations, affirmations, prayer and meditation combined with whatever holistic, natural integrative or traditional medical treatments you choose to seek will serve to enhance the healing process.

4) "I'm Losing Control."

The fourth affirmation to stop using is, “I am losing control.”

There are times in life where you may feel like you can’t control the things that are happening around you. Remember that you are always responsible for how you react to the things happening around you.

Negative thoughts often cause feelings of hopelessness and distance. Begin to think positively about the things happening around you and acknowledge that you are responsible.

A positive affirmations to replace this is:

“I am grateful for every experience in my life.”

Think Differently and Positively

I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete upon reading this post.

Leave a comment below of a negative affirmation that you’ve been using and what you’re going to replace it with. I’ll be sure to follow up with you!

Make a conscious effort to restructure the way you think and speak. Avoid giving any unnecessary energy to the things you don’t want in your life. Avoid subjecting yourself, your thoughts, and your emotions to the negative people and influences in your life.

Conclusion

Now is your chance to begin thinking differently! Changing from negative to positive affirmations is the first step in the right direction.

Remember, nothing will change for the better until you do. I've created a step-by-step, daily affirmations guide to help you learn to use affirmations and recharge your inner power. Click the banner below to learn more.

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How To Find Your Soulmate Using the Law of Attraction

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There is something to be said about the power of positive thinking. 

The basic definition of the Law of Attraction states: "What you think about, you attract." 

Positive thoughts have the power to transform our lives for the better, especially our love lives. Today I want to share a simple technique that focuses on using the Law of Attraction to find your soulmate. 

How to Find Your Soulmate By Focusing On What You Want 

In our romantic relationships, we tend to focus on the things we don’t want in a partner rather than the things we do.

Give deep thought to what you want to create in your life. Consider the relationships in your life and focus on what you do want, not what you don’t.

Get in touch with your inner truth, your authentic dreams, your goals, and your heartfelt desires. Honor these and own them without fear, shame, or inhibition.

Define Your Dreams

Your dreams and desires are not subject to anyone else’s approval.

They are yours and yours alone, but you have to define them to achieve them.

Your dreams and aspirations should serve to ignite the passion within you. This passion will not only inspire you to achieve them, but will also send a positive vibrational frequency out into the world.

Through the Law of Attraction, the universe will respond accordingly.

Learn to Activate The Law of Attraction, Achieve All of Your Goals, and Find Happiness.

Make an “Ideal Relationship” List 

One effective way to activate the Law of Attraction in your love life is to create a dream list of your ideal relationship. Your dream list will be a comprehensive overview of your dreams, goals, and desires. It will represent what you want to be, do, have, and achieve in all areas of your life including relationships. Here are the steps to make an ideal relationship list:

1. Create a T-Chart for Your Ideal Relationship

The first technique is the creation of “T-chart.” This type of chart is a very effective way to identify what you do want in your life by looking at the things you don’t want in a soulmate.

Start by drawing a line down the middle of a sheet of paper. Label the left column “What I don’t want.” and the right column “What I do want.”

For instance, within the relationship category of your life, you may want to focus on a topic such as “My Ideal Romantic Relationship.” Start by writing down what you don’t want in one column. Then in the other column, turn it around into an opposite statement, saying what it is that you do want.

2. Cross Off the "Don't Want" List  

Begin to fill out your T-chart. If you don’t want a partner who smokes, write that down on the left. Then write the opposite of that on the right side: a partner who lives a healthy lifestyle. If you want a partner who enjoys an active outdoor lifestyle, write that down on the right.

When you have completed your list, go back and cross off the “don’t want” list on the left side of your chart.

From now on, use the right side of each list and stay focused on what you do want in your life. There is no need to give any further attention or energy to the list of what you don’t want.

By the way, the simple act of crossing out what you don’t want is empowering, and it feels good!

Realize What You Want in a Soulmate

Completing this exercise will help activate the Law of Attraction in the relationship area of your life. Completing this also helps you to realize what you want in an ideal partner.

I suggest completing your own “T” chart for the relationships that you want to attract in your life.

Remember to remain focused on what kind of person you do want in your life, rather than on the person you don’t. Once you release your positive thoughts into the universe, you give it the power to transform your dream mate into a soulmate.

Conclusion

Was it easy or was it difficult to construct this dream list? Why? Let me know in the comments, and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

Positive thoughts have a wonderful way of not only shaping our love lives but every aspect of our lives. To fully utilize the Law of Attraction in your life, you have to become a vibrational match with whatever it is you want to attract into your life. This means creating and maintaining an emotional state that matches the one you will experience when you actually get the thing you are focusing on. You can do this by appreciating what you already have, and continually finding more and more things to be grateful for.

I've written a short FREE guide to help activate the Law of Attraction in YOUR life.

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3 Keys to My Successful Marriage

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A successful marriage is one of the most wonderful things you can share with another person.

Throughout my career, I’ve emphasized the importance of creating intimate connections with others. The same holds true with your marriage.

Because of this, I have developed 3 keys to my successful marriage that can also help YOU create more fulfilling and authentic relationships with your spouse, family members, or anyone in your life. In turn, you will see that achieving happiness in this sphere of your life will bring you success in all other areas.

The Greatest Source of Joy in My Life

My relationship with my wife, Inga, is the greatest source of joy in my life. I adore her for how much she understands me and what I am about in life:

My purpose, my mission, and my priorities.

Additionally, for her unceasing love, support, humor, and encouragement.

My 3 Keys To Maintaining a Successful Marriage

Partners often drift apart because they never develop the deep sense of connection required to overcome the stumbling blocks that happen in every relationship.

They share a bed…but not a life.

They sit next to each other… but never share their deepest thoughts and feelings with each other. Then one day they wake up to a stranger sleeping beside them.

Good relationships are key to getting what you want from life. But what most people don’t understand is creating and maintaining a successful marriage or relationship takes commitment, time and energy.

Key #1: Express Your Authentic Self

So the first key to stronger, happier, and more fulfilling relationships is committing to being and expressing your authentic self.

And that’s a lot easier said than done.

The truth is that most people put on masks and different personas depending on the people they are with and the situations they find themselves in. They become chameleons in order to be accepted, liked or loved.

Finding the Courage to Voice Your Feelings

In addition to time and energy, it takes courage and the willingness to be vulnerable – to tell the truth about your thoughts, feelings, and desires to maintain a successful marriage.

It takes courage to admit that you feel lost, scared, overwhelmed and discouraged if you are supposed to be the boss at work or the breadwinner at home.

It takes courage to admit you are unhappy or dissatisfied with the relationship, that you are not getting your needs met, or that you are thinking about quitting your job or that you find yourself being attracted to another person.

Revealing Your Flaws is Worth It

Revealing your flaws makes you more appealing to your partner and to others. And taking off all your masks to express the parts of yourself that you’d rather keep hidden is going to naturally bring up feelings of awkwardness and discomfort—even fears of rejection.

But it’ll be worth it because it’ll bring greater authenticity and awareness to your relationships.

I can remember a few years back being frustrated that my wife would often criticize my eating habits – the food I chose to eat, the amounts I was eating, and so on.

I began to feel irritated and resentful of her criticism, but in my commitment to being a positive person, I didn’t bring it up, but inside I was still feeling angry and like I wanted to get away from her when she did this.

Telling the Uncomfortable Truth

As uncomfortable as it was, I told her that I needed her to be less critical and more supportive of me whatever my behavior was, and that I would take responsibility for my body and she should take responsibility for hers.

At that point, she told me that underneath her critical comments were her fear about my health and my longevity. She didn’t want to lose me to a heart attack or an early death.

Her concerns and her fears touched me deeply. As a result, I started eating even more consciously than I had been, and she made a commitment to support me and accept me with less judgment in whatever I was doing.

The Formula For Effective Feedback

Now that I eat better she has become a lot less critical in every area of my life.  That uncomfortable conversation of truth-telling helped transform the quality of our relationship.

By the way, a powerful communication tool that we now both use, instead of criticizing the other person, is this formula for effective feedback that helps avoid defensiveness and counterattack.

It goes like this.

"When you ____, I tell myself ____, and then I feel ____, and my request is that you ____."

For example, instead of saying: "I hate it when you criticize my eating, especially in front of other people."

Say this instead: “When you eat bread and butter before dinner and then order dessert, I tell myself that you are going to have a heart attack, and then I feel scared that you are going to die and I will be left alone, and my request is that you eat fewer refined carbohydrates.”

It’s amazing how powerful this tool is for creating conversations that actually bring you closer together rather than creating separation.

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Key #2: Quality Time Forms Connections

The second key to my successful marriage is quality time.

You and your partner’s definition of quality time may be different, but you need to constantly set aside time to connect with each other in the best way that works for each of you to continually build upon your relationship.

When I spend quality time with Inga, I give her my full attention with the TV off, and my computer and phone put away. I give her full eye contact and actively listen and respond to what she is saying.

She loves going on long walks together with me or sitting by our pool and having long conversations. When we do this, she feels seen and heard and ultimately deeply connected.

Key #3: Set Goals

The third secret is to set goals.

It’s one of the most powerful of all the Success Principles, and while people use it at work and in their professional life, I notice people rarely use it in the context of achieving healthy intimate relationships.

Believe it or not, goal setting is sexy. Defining what you want and going for it with gusto is very appealing to your partner.

But remember…

It’s not enough to say that you want to spend more quality time together.

Setting Relationship Goals

As I’ve stated many times, vague goals produce vague results. If you want real results, you have to be specific and state your goal in a way that’s measurable.

You have to state how much or how many, and by when.

For example: “I will take my spouse out for dinner at least once a month and schedule one evening a week to hang out together without any TV or cell phones, so we can spend more time talking and enjoying each other’s company.”

Just like with being yourself, setting relationship goals means probably confronting some long-standing fears and roadblocks.

There is a Solution to Every Obstacle

Maybe setting the goal of spending more quality time with your spouse makes you realize that you’ll need to say “no” to your boss when he asks you to stay late or come in on the weekends.

Or maybe you’ll have to confront your fear of talking about your feelings.

It’s important to remember that there is always a solution to any obstacle — you just have to look for it. Perhaps you can ask your boss if you can come in a couple hours early on one or more of the weekdays so you can make sure you get your evenings and weekends off.

Give Each Year a Focus  

Every December, Inga and I take an afternoon or evening and set life goals for the next year.

These include how many vacation days we are going to take, how many evenings we are going to schedule with friends, how many days we are going to spend with our children and grandchildren, how many days we are going to attend a meditation or spiritual retreat, and what quality we are going to focus on for the year—

Such as love, acceptance, authenticity, fun, or courage.

One year we agreed to reread Don Miguel Ruiz’s book The Four Agreements and practice implementing one of the four agreements (be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, and always do your best),

So that by working on one each quarter, we could master them in one year.

A Successful Marriage Takes Patience

Obviously, there’s a lot more that goes into creating more successful and authentic relationships, but I want you to try one of these as your homework assignment.

Whether you’re married, in a relationship, or just want to work on your general relationships overall, I guarantee this will bring more joy into them.

The main marriage tip for you to keep in mind on this journey: Be Patient!

It may take your spouse, partner, family member or friend time to face their own fears or roadblocks before being able to meet you halfway.

If you are committed to being your authentic self, spending quality time with your partner, and setting focused goals, you’ll solve the problem together.

Conclusion

Leave a comment below with one of the relationship goals you and your partner are planning to set for 2017. I’ll follow up with you to make sure you’re staying on track! 

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These Mistakes Are Costing You Your Happiness in Life

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I want you to ask yourself something: Are you genuinely happy? Take a moment to honestly think about that. Have you genuinely found happiness in life?

If your answer is no, or even maybe, let’s talk about the reasons why you aren’t happy, and the mistakes you might be making unknowingly that are costing you happiness.

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1) You Haven’t Transformed Your Inner Critic into Your Inner Coach

The first mistake you might be making that is costing you your happiness is that you haven’t successfully transformed your inner critic into your inner coach.

Research indicates that, on average, people talk to themselves about 50,000 times a day. Unfortunately, most of that self-talk is about yourself, and according to the psychological researchers, it is about 80% negative.

Some examples of this might be:

  • “I shouldn’t have said that.”
  • “I don’t like the way my hair looks today.”
  • “I’ll never lose weight.”
  • “I can never seem to get organized.”

… and the list goes on.

We know from this research that these thoughts have a powerful effect on us. Our negative thoughts actually control our behavior.

The first thing you have to do if you want to find happiness in life, is put a muzzle on that inner critic and transform it into an encouraging, loving, and positive inner coach.

One of the most powerful exercises for retraining your inner critic is to teach it to tell you the total truth. Just like your parents disciplined you for your own good, your inner critic really has your best interests in mind when it is criticizing you. It wants you to get the benefit of the better behavior. The problem is that it tells you only part of the truth.

Whenever you hear a part of you judging yourself, simply reply,

“Thank you for caring. What is your fear? What specifically do you want me to do? How will this serve me? and Thank you.”

Do not let the seeming simplicity of this technique fool you. It is very powerful if you use it.

2) You’re Letting Your Limiting Beliefs Control You

Another mistake you might unknowingly be making and therefore sabotaging your own happiness is allowing yourself to be controlled by your limiting beliefs.

Many of us have beliefs that limit our success -- whether they are beliefs about our own capabilities, beliefs about what it takes to succeed, or even beliefs about how we should relate with other people.

Moving beyond your limiting beliefs is a critical step toward becoming happier and more successful.

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To do this, you must first believe that you are capable of accomplishing your goals and that you are capable of being happy.

Here is a simple but powerful four-step process you can use to transform any limiting belief into an empowering belief:

Step 1: Identify a limiting belief that you want to change.

Step 2: Determine how that belief limits you.

Step 3: Decide how you would rather be, act, or feel. And…

Step 4: Create a turnaround statement that affirms or gives you permission to be, act, or feel this new way.

For example, a negative belief might be: “If I express my true feelings, people will think I’m weak and take advantage of me.”

The turnaround belief would then be:

“The more I express my true feelings, the more people love, respect, and support me.”

Once you have created a new belief, you will need to implant it into your subconscious mind through constant repetition for 2 or 3 minutes several times a day for a minimum of 30 days.

In conclusion, keeping these 2 possible mistakes in mind (listening to your inner critic without retraining it to be your inner coach and letting yourself be controlled by your unconscious limiting beliefs). Make a list of any beliefs that might be limiting you and follow the steps outlined above. 

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50 Inspirational Quotes for Joy & Abundance

If you want to be successful and joyful, you must think inspiring, motivational thoughts. Sometimes we all need some inspirational quotes to help us through a tough moment in our lives.

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Every thought you think and every word you say matters. Your thoughts and words are declarations of who you think you are and how you perceive the world to be.

In the new year, resolve to think and speak to yourself with inspirational words. When you do this you are literally reprogramming your beliefs about yourself and the world you live in with each positive thought. The best part is -- the universe will reward you when you change the way you speak to yourself.

I've compiled a list of my favorite inspirational quotes and motivational words to help you reframe the way you think for 2017 and beyond.

50 Inspirational Quotes for 2017

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1. “Whatever goal you give to your subconscious mind, it will work night and day to achieve.” Jack Canfield

2. “There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” - Edith Wharton

3. “Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.” - Dennis P. Kimbro

4. “You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.” - Jim Rohn

5. “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame them, it will not change you.” - Wayne Dyer

6. “Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.” - Charles Kettering

7. “Progress always involves risk; you can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.” - Frederick Wilcox

8. “I have lived a long life and had many troubles, most of which never happened.” - Mark Twain

9. “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou

10. “First you jump off the cliff and you wings on the way down.” - Ray Bradbury

11. “Every single second is an opportunity to change your life, because in any moment you can change the way you feel.” - Rhonda Byrne

12. “You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts.” - Brian Tracy

13. “The foundation stones for a balanced success are honesty, character, integrity, faith, love, and loyalty.” - Zig Ziglar

14. “Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being.” - Kevin Kruse

15. “Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” - Jim Rohn

16. “If you want to lift somebody else up, lift up yourself.” - Booker T. Washington

17. “Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” - Hellen Keller

18. “Success consists of going from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” - Winston Churchill

19. “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” - Milton Berle

20. “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” - Robert Collier

21. "Self-esteem is made up primarily of two things: feeling lovable and feeling capable." - Jack Canfield

22. “We come this way but once. We can either tiptoe through life and hope that we get to death without being too badly bruised or we can live a full, complete life achieving our goals and realizing our wildest dreams.” - Bob Proctor

23. "The big secret in life is that there is no secret. Whatever is your goal, you can get there if you are willing to work." - Oprah Winfrey

24. “The more you focus on and talk about what you do want. The faster you will manifest your dreams and goals.” - Stephen Covey

25. “The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.” - Ayn Rand

26. “A moment of gratitude makes a difference in your attitude.” - Bruce Wilkinson

27. “It’s always too soon to quit!” - Norman Vincent Peale

28. “He who stops being better stops being good.” - Oliver Cromwell

29. “You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” - John Maxwell

30. “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” - John F. Kennedy

31. “You’ve got to ask. Asking is, in my opinion, the world’s most powerful and neglected secret to success and happiness.” - Percy Ross

32. "If people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it wouldn't seem wonderful at all." - Michelangelo

33. “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” - Mark Twain

34. "The mind is everything. What you think, you become." - Buddha 

35. “No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world.” - Robin Williams

36. “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, and become more, you are a leader.” - John Quincy Adams

37. “If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.” - Jessie Potter

38. “I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.” - Arthur Rubinstein

39. “Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement.” - W. Clement Stone

40. "It doesn’t matter how slowly you go, so long as you don’t stop.” - Confucius

41. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

42. “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.” - Oprah Winfrey

43. “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.” - Oscar Wilde

44. “Action is the foundational key to all successes.” - Pablo Picasso

45. “The purpose of our lives is to be happy. - Dalai Lama

46. “Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your should, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.” - Napoleon Hill

47. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily.” - Zig Ziglar

48. “It’s time to start living the life you’ve imagined.” - Henry James

49. “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” - Howard Thurman

50. “People treat you the way you teach them to treat you.” - Jack Canfield

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