5 Ways to Increase Self-Confidence & Self-Esteem

Do people with high self-esteem achieve greater success?

“I need to increase my self-esteem” is a statement I hear often from my students. Their belief is that once their self-confidence and self-esteem is higher, they’ll be able to achieve more and become greater successes.

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While it’s true that a high self-esteem can assist you in creating the life you dream of, the mistake most people make is how they think about self-esteem. It’s not a thing to be increased or decreased, although that is the common terminology. Instead, self-esteem is a verb; it’s the process of esteeming yourself.

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, esteem means “to set a high value on: regard highly and prize accordingly.”

In other words, the process of boosting your self-esteem starts with deciding that you are valuable and treating yourself as such.

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5 Good Habits to Build Great Self-Esteem

1) Believe in Yourself  

The first step in creating greater self-esteem is to believe in yourself. It’s your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs – including belief in your worth, your talent, your abilities, and your potential.

2) Identify 9 Major Successes  

Research has repeatedly shown that the more you acknowledge your past success, the more confident you become in taking on and successfully accomplishing new ones. A simple way to start this process is to take an inventory of your major success. Divide your life into three time periods – from birth to 15, 16 to 30, and 31 to 45. The list three major successes from each time period.

Divide your life into three time periods – from birth to 15, 16 to 30, and 31 to 45. Then list three major successes from each time period.

To really convince yourself that you’re a successful person who can continue to achieve great things, keep going with your list.

See if you can identify 100 or more of your life successes.

3) Keep a Victory Log

Recall and write down your successes each day. This will log them into your long-term memory, enhancing your self-esteem and self-confidence. Whenever you need a boost of self-confidence, reread what you have written. Keeping and referring to your victory log keeps you focused on your successes instead.

Keeping and referring to your victory log keeps you focused on your successes instead.

4) Display Success Symbols

What you see in your environment has a psychological impact on your moods, attitudes, and behavior. Surround yourself with awards, pictures and other objects that remind you of your successes. Create a special place in your home – such as a hallway, shelf or even the top of your refrigerator – to display your symbols. This will subtly program you to see yourself as someone who has consistent successes in life.

5) Keep Your Agreements

One of the most commonly overlooked ways to boost self-esteem is to keep your word. Every agreement you make is to yourself, ultimately, even those that involve other people. Your brain registers agreements as commitments. If you don’t follow through, you learn to not trust yourself. You lose integrity and faith in your ability to produce a result. Don’t undermine your sense of personal power – keep your commitments.

Increase Your Capacity to Take a Risk

To understand the importance of esteeming yourself, imagine you were playing poker. If you have 10 chips and I have 200 chips, who do you think will play more conservatively?

You will, of course, because the stakes are higher for you. Two losing bets of five chips each would put you out of the game. I, on the other hand, could lose five chips 40 times before I was out.

Your self-esteem is like a stack of poker chips. The higher it is, the more willing and able you are to take the risks that will lead you to greater success.

Use the ideas shared in this article to create and maintain the high levels of self-esteem you need to get where you want to be.

Self-Confidence and Your Ideal Future is Within Your Grasp

Your ideal future is within your grasp – you simply have to reach out and grab it. I want to give you the tools you need to make that happen.

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The Greatest Leadership Trait of Successful People

Our lives improve only when we take chances—and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves - WALTER ANDERSON, Editor of Parade magazine for 20 years

I want to really dive into the one common trait that all successful leaders share and that trait is the ability to identify what’s not working and deal with it quickly.

As someone in a leadership position – whether you’re a trainer, corporate manager, MLM distributor with a downline, owner of a small business, manager of a sports team, or parent – you want your team to thrive while working together to generate great results.

That means you need to have a strong understanding of what’s working – as well as what’s not.

It’s sometimes tempting to focus only on the positives and ignore the negatives in the hope they’ll magically resolve themselves. On rare occasions, that actually happens. But, far more often, a negative situation left untreated will fester and grow into something that threatens the health and performance of your entire team.  

Great Leaders Deal With What Isn’t Working As Soon As Possible

To create an environment where all of your team members work in complete alignment with each other, genuinely care for each other, and work together to accomplish incredible goals, there’s one incredibly important step you need to take:

You’ve got to face what isn’t working and deal with it as soon as possible.

Do you defend or ignore how toxic your work environment is?

Do you make excuses for your team members’ poor performances?

Are you in denial about a personal conflict between individuals that’s negatively impacting the dynamics of the team?

Has a team member developed a bad attitude that’s affecting others?

Great leaders face these circumstances squarely, heed the warning signs, and take appropriate action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it might be.

Great Leaders Pay Attention

Pay attention to the “yellow alerts”.

Yellow alerts are the little signals you get that something’s not right. People aren’t speaking up in meetings. Team members talking in low voices fall silent when you enter the room. When you make a presentation, people looked bored and disengaged. Sales are down for the third quarter in a row. Great Leaders Face the Uncomfortable Situation Head On

Sometimes we choose to acknowledge these alerts and take action, but more often than not, we simply choose to ignore them. We pretend not to notice that something’s amiss.

Why?

Because to face what’s not working in your team, organization, or own personal leadership means you’re going to have to do something uncomfortable.

You might have to confront somebody, risk not being liked, demand respect, let someone go, or maybe even quit your job. But if you aren’t willing to do these uncomfortable things, you’ll end up tolerating a situation that doesn’t work to the point where it causes serious damage.

To learn more about the traits of great leaders, check out my article about the 5 habits of successful people.

You might also enjoy this leadership qualities infographic by Brian Tracy.

Become a More Inspiring and Effective Leader

Keeping this leadership trait in mind, I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete. Write down at least 5 things that aren’t working in your organization right now. Then, resolve to talk to the appropriate people to get find a solution for those issues. To hold yourself accountable, leave a comment below with 1 thing that you could improve upon from your list. I’ll follow up with you guys to make sure you’re staying on track!

If you are committing to becoming the best possible leader you can be, I encourage you to take my leadership quiz. It will show you your leadership potential and help you identify your talents so that you can strengthen them to higher levels.

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How to Stay Focused on Your Core Genius

Would you like to learn how to stay focused on the activities that are most essential to your success? I think you'll agree that sometimes it can be tough to focus on anything. And it can be even tougher to focus on your core genius, which is an essential ingredient in the recipe to success.

Fortunately, there are a few quick and easy ways to do so! You see, I believe you have inside of you a core genius. One thing that you love to do, and do so well, that you hardly feel like doing anything else. It’s effortless for you and a whole lot of fun. And if you could make money doing it, you’d make it your lifetime’s work.

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What is Your Core Genius?

In most cases, your Core Genius is directly tied to your passions and life purpose.

Successful people believe this, too. That's why they put their core genius first. They focus on it and delegate everything else to other people on their team.

For me, my core genius lies in the area of teaching, training, coaching and motivating. Another core genius is writing and compiling books. Over my 35 year career, I have written, co-authored, compiled and edited more than 150 books, and I love to do it! I do it well, and people report that they get great value from it.

Compare that to the other people in the world who go through life doing everything, even those tasks they’re bad at or that could be done more cheaply, better, and faster by someone else. They simply can’t find the time to focus on their core genius because they fail to delegate even the most menial of tasks.

How to Stay Focused on Your Core Genius

Delegate tasks that aren’t directly related to your core genius. Delegate completely, which simply means that you delegate a task once and completely - rather than delegating it each time it needs to be done.

When you delegate the grunt work—the things you hate doing or those tasks that are so painful, you end up putting them off—you get to concentrate on what you love to do. You free up your time so that you can be more productive.

And the best part is you get to enjoy life more.

Surprisingly, most people are afraid of looking wasteful or being judged as being above everyone else. They are afraid to give up control or reluctant to spend the money to pay for help. Deep down, most people simply don't want to let go.

How You Can Actually Save Money By Delegating

Others (potentially you) have simply fallen into the habit of doing everything themselves. "It's too time-consuming to explain it to someone," you say. "I can do it more quickly and better myself anyway." But can you?

If you’re a professional earning $75 per hour and you pay a neighborhood kid $10 an hour to cut the grass, you save the effort of doing it yourself on the weekend and gain one extra hour when you could profit by $65.  Of course, while one hour doesn’t seem like much, multiply that by 52 weekends a year and you discover you’ve gained 52 hours a year at $65 per hour —or an extra $3,380 in potential earnings.

Always Stay Focused on Your Core Genius

Unfortunately, most entrepreneurs spend less than 30% of their time focusing on their core genius and unique abilities.

In fact, by the time they've launched a business, it often seems entrepreneurs are doing everything but the one thing they went into business for in the first place.

Don't let this be your fate!

Identify your core genius, then delegate completely to free up more time to focus on what you love to do.

Keeping this idea of delegating tasks so you can stay focused on your core genius in mind, I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete.

Write down 5 tasks that you can delegate and get off your plate today. Then list the people or person that you can delegate those tasks to so that you can focus on your Core Genius.To hold yourself accountable, leave a comment below with the 3 tasks you plan to delegate. I’ll follow up with you guys to make sure you’re staying on track!

To hold yourself accountable, leave a comment below with the 3 tasks you plan to delegate. I’ll follow up with you guys to make sure you’re staying on track!

Stay Focused With This Success Planner

Always remember that successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps that they need to take to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life presents to them.

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How to Stay Focused in the Face of Negativity

Unfortunately, many people find it difficult to maintain focus in today’s world, where we’re bombarded by negative messages from the media, co-workers, friends, relatives and even clients.

The good news is that you can take action to shield yourself from motivation-sapping, fear-instilling negativity.

Here are 5 easy ways to stay focused in the face of negativity.

Tip #1: Accept 100% Responsibility

The most critical principle to master if you want to create greater success is to accept 100 percent responsibility for your life – including the type and amount of negativity to which you allow yourself to be exposed.

Your job is to take care of yourself. This includes creating environments that are conducive to success. Take note of how negativity manifests in your life, and then consider ways that you can reduce your exposure.

For instance, do you watch or read the news every day? Try abstaining, and trust that if anything major happens, such as a natural disaster, someone will tell you. At that point, you can choose to read an article or two to bring yourself up to date.

Do you have well-meaning relatives who urge you not to follow your dreams because they fear the consequences of the risks you’ll take to achieve your goals? You may want to limit the time you spend with these individuals.

Alternatively, recognize their advice for what it is: an expression of their love and concern for you. The simple truth is that many people are blind to their limiting beliefs and how it colors their view of the world. Simply thank these well-meaning individuals for caring enough about you to share their thoughts, then turn your attention back to your goals.

 Tip #2: Release Negative Feelings

To attract what you want in life, you must live in a state of love, joy and gratitude. Negative environments stir up feelings of fear, anxiety and doubt, which must be released so that you can return to a higher state of feeling and vibration.

The Sedona Method, created by Hale Dwoskin, offers a fast and effective solution to the need to release negative feelings.

Start by tuning in to the feeling that is disturbing you. Really feel the emotion – welcome it and let it flood your body.

Then ask yourself, “Could I let it [the feeling] go?” Both “yes” and “no” are acceptable answers.

Next, ask, “Would I let it go?” If your answer is “no,” ask whether you would rather have this feeling or would you rather be free.

Finally, ask, “When?” This is an invitation to let the feeling go now. You can make the decision to release a feeling anytime you want. Repeat the entire process as often as needed until you feel free of that particular feeling.

Most people either wallow in their negative emotions or they try to resist experiencing negative feelings. Neither approach works. Use the Sedona Method to allow your emotions to flow through you, so that you can return to a positive state.

Tip #3: The Evening Review

Whatever you read, see, listen to, talk about and experience during the last 45 minutes of your evening has a huge influence on your sleep and your next day. During the night, your unconscious mind replays and processes this late-night input up to six times more often than anything else you experienced during the day. Use the following process to focus your unconscious mind.

Sit with your eyes closed, breathing deeply. Ask your mind to show you where you could have been more effective, more conscious, more loving, more assertive, or more of any other characteristic you want to focus on. (Note: review only one characteristic at a time).

You’ll see that a number of events from the day will come to mind. Observe them without any self-criticism. Then take each incident and replay in it in your mind the way you would have preferred to have done it. This will help you form the desired behavior the next time you face the same situation.

Tip #4: The Daily Success Focus Journal

Another way to stay focused on your goals and on the positive is to create a Daily Success Focus Journal.

Each evening, identify 5 accomplishments you made throughout the day. Next, identify why each accomplishment is important to you. Then, identify how you can make further progress in the same area. Finally, write down a specific action step that will lead to this progress and enter the to-do item into your schedule.

Tip #5: Create Your Ideal Day

Before you leave work or go to bed, take a few minutes to plan your schedule for the following day. Doing so sets you up for success, as you’ll be able to get right to work as soon as you begin your day.

After planning your schedule, take a few additional minutes to visualize your day going exactly as you want it. See yourself performing at your best in every situation you will encounter. This gives your subconscious all night to work on creating ways to make it all happen just as you visualized it.
Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what else is happening. They choose to concentrate on their success, rather than their failures, and on the next action steps they need to take. Use the tips outlined in this article to stay positive and proactive as you create your ideal life.


 

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The 4 Best Kept Secrets To Success & Happiness

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People often ask me to share with them the basis of my own success.  I think the secret to success involves 4 things. Here they are:

1) Always Listen to Your Inner Guidance

First, I have always listened to my inner guidance. I listened to what I was interested in and pursued it with all of my heart and soul. I was always willing to let go of where I was literally and figuratively in order to follow my dreams and achieve my life goals.

By the time I was 39 I had lived in nine states, attended three universities, built three businesses, taken more than 100 workshops, read over 1,000 books, and listened to more audio programs than I can count. I have always been a voracious learner, and by honoring my desire to increase my own self-awareness, I also discovered ways to help others be more successful in every area of their lives.

You were born with an inner guidance system that tells you when you are on or off purpose by the amount of joy you are experiencing. The things that bring you the greatest joy are in alignment with your purpose.

Follow the things in your life that bring you the most joy, and dedicate yourself to always improving.

If you'd like to learn how to access your inner guidance, check out my meditation tips for clarity and guidance.

2) Work Hard and Passionately for What You Want

Second, I was willing to work hard. Because I was passionate about my work. I worked long hours, approached every task with excellence, and devoted myself to never-ending improvement in every area of my work and my life.

Whenever you set out to improve your skills, change your behavior, or better your family life or business, beginning in small, manageable steps gives you a greater chance of long-term success. Doing too much too fast not only overwhelms you (or anyone else involved in the improvement), it can doom the effort to failure—thereby reinforcing the belief that it’s difficult, if not impossible, to succeed.

When you start with small, achievable steps you can easily master, it reinforces your belief that you can easily improve.

3) Surround Yourself With Great People

Third, I learned early on that life is a team sport. I always surrounded myself with partners, co-authors, and great staff with whom I shared generously.

One of the main secrets of success and successful people is that they constantly seek out guidance and advice from experts in their field. You can do the same and find great partners and mentors. Set aside some time and make a list of the people you would like to ask to mentor you. Then approach them and ask for their help.

Be prepared to give your mentors something in return. Even if it’s something simple such as keeping them updated on industry information or calling with new opportunities that might benefit them, look for ways to give to your mentors. Help others, too. What a great reward to any mentor—to eventually have their former protégé out in the world mentoring others!

4) Love What You Do, and Teach Others What You Know

Fourth, I have always sincerely cared about the people I serve, sometimes to a fault. But, I truly love people, and I love how I feel when I watch them wake up and successfully apply the principles and strategies I have taught them. I love what I do, and I love the people for whom I do it.

I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete. Make a list of all of the things that make you feel the most joyful and alive. What are the common elements of these experiences? Can you figure out a way to make a living doing those things?

Leave a comment below on what brings you the most joy, and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

Transform Yourself For Success One Day at a Time

Remember that successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. I'd like to offer you my 12-Month Success Planner. This free gift gives you free fill in the blank templates to tackle challenges and provides you with daily guidelines for success. Put this free planner to use to transform your life beyond your wildest dreams!

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Achieve Financial Freedom By Becoming Mindful About Your Money

Most people are unconscious when it comes to their money. For instance, do you know your net worth? Do you know how much money you have in savings? Do you have a financial plan? These are just a few of many questions you should be asking yourself regularly in order to achieve financial freedom.

If you want to achieve financial freedom, you have to become conscious about your money. Not only do you have to know precisely where you are, but you also need to know exactly where you want to go and what’s required to get you there.

Here are 4 tips to financial freedom that will make you more mindful about your money.

1) Determine Your Net Worth

If you don’t know your net worth, you can work with an accountant or a financial planner to calculate it or use any of the free tools available on the internet. Knowing your net worth will give you a baseline for where you currently are.

2) Determine How Much You Need to Retire

Calculate what your financial needs will be when and if you retire.

Be aware that retirement, by its very nature, requires that you have financial independence. A good financial planner can tell you how much in savings and investments would be required to produce enough in interest, dividend, rental, and royalty income to live your current or future lifestyle without having to work.

Financial freedom frees you up to pursue your passions, travel, engage in philanthropic endeavors and service projects—or do whatever else you might wish.

3) Become Aware of What You’re Spending

Most people aren’t aware of what they really spend in a month. This is a very important step to developing a millionaire mindset.

If you’ve never tracked your expenditures, start with these steps:

  1. Write down all your normal fixed monthly expenses such as your mortgage or rent, car payment, any other installment or loan payments, insurance bills, cable bill, Internet provider, health club membership, and so on.
  2. Go back over the last 6 to 12 months and calculate average monthly expenditures that fluctuate—utilities, phone bills, food bills, clothing expenditures, automobile maintenance, medical expenses, and so on.
  3. Keep a record for 1 month of everything you spend money on during that month, no matter how big or small—from gas for your car to coffee at Starbucks.
  4. Add up everything at the end of the month so that you are consciously aware—rather than unaware—of what you’re spending.

Finance apps for budgeting, like Mint or LearnVest, allow you to easily track this information by connecting directly to your bank accounts.

Check off those items you must pay for and those things you have discretion over. This exercise will make you aware of what you’re currently spending and where you could cut back if you chose to.

4) Become Financially Literate

Not only should you stay conscious around money by reviewing your financial goals every day and tracking your spending every month, but I recommend that you also proactively learn about money and investing by reading at least one good financial book every month for the next year.

Some examples of finance books are Phil Town’s: Rule #1: The Simple Strategy for Successful Investing in Only 15 Minutes a Week! and Tony Robbins’: Money: Master the Game.

Go online and do some research on books that will teach you about money and help improve your financial literacy. Commit to reading at least one of them this month.

Leave a comment below and share one resource, website, or book you use to stay on top of your money that may be helpful to others.

Finally, I’d like to give you a free gift…

You can achieve your financial goals through the power of daily affirmations. If you want to learn more about affirmations, click the link to get my step-by-step guide. In it, I provide affirmations exercises that will help you achieve all of your financial goals. This free guide will ensure you begin to live your life with purpose, joy, and fulfillment. Click the button below to learn more.

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The 3-Step Formula to Build Successful Habits

As I’ve said countless times before, “Success leaves clues.” This means that if you want to be successful, then you simply have to look at what successful people have done before you. All successful people have successful habits - habits that they have created and refined over time because they helped them to reach their goals. Learning how to develop a habit can be as simple as observing others who are already successful.

Study the habits of successful people, and then ask yourself which of their habits would help you to reach YOUR goals.

Once you have that list, then it’s time to actively work on building those habits and making them a consistent part of your daily life.

Now what I’m about to tell you is a step-by-step method to help you create better habits.

It works because it’s simple. You don’t need complicated strategies. This template can be applied to any area of your life: business or personal. If applied consistently, it will help you achieve everything you want.

Learning how to develop a habit involves three fundamental steps:

1) Clearly Identify Your Bad or Unproductive Habits

It’s important that you really think about the future consequences of your bad habits.

These may not show up tomorrow, next week, or next month. The real impact could be years away. And when you look at your unproductive behavior one day at a time, it may not look so bad. The smoker says, “What’s a few cigarettes today? It helps me relax. I’m not wheezing and coughing.” However, the days accumulate and twenty years later in the doctor’s office, the X-rays are conclusive.

Consider this: If you smoke 10 cigarettes a day for 20 years, that’s 73,000 cigarettes. Do you think 73,000 cigarettes could have an impact on your lungs? Of course!

In fact, the consequences can be deadly. So, when you examine your own bad habits, consider the long-term implications. Be totally honest with yourself. Your life may be at stake.

2) Define Your New, Successful Habits

Usually, this is just the opposite of your bad habits.

In the smoker’s example, it would be, “Stop smoking.”

When defining your new habit, what are you actually going to do? To motivate yourself, think about all the benefits and rewards of adopting your new successful habit. This helps you create a clear picture of what this new habit will do for you. The more vividly you describe the benefits, the more likely you are to take action.

3) Create an Action Plan

This is where the rubber meets the road and it's a crucial step for those who want to be successful

In the smoking example there are several options:

  • Read how-to-stop-smoking literature.
  • Start hypnosis therapy.
  • Substitute something else when the desire for a cigarette arises.
  • Place a bet with a friend to keep you accountable.
  • Start a fresh air exercise program.
  • Use a nicotine patch treatment.
  • Stay away from other smokers.

When learning how to develop a new habit, the important thing is to make a decision about which specific actions you are going to implement and then you must take action.

Start with just one habit that you really want to change in any area of your life. Focus on your three immediate action steps and put them into practice. Remember, nothing will change until you do.

Now, here’s your homework.

Write down one unproductive habit you’d like to change, as well as the new one you’d like to create. Then, create your 3-step action plan, in writing, of how you’re going to take action to create this new habit. Give yourself a check-in date of when you’ll assess your progress to see how far you’ve come on creating this habit.

One of my favorite habits is practicing a daily meditation to stay grounded and clear-minded. If you'd like to replace a bad habit with this great one, you can learn how to meditate here.

To hold yourself accountable, leave a comment below with the bad habit you’re going to change and the one you’re going to replace it with. I’ll follow up with you to make sure you’re staying on track!

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Daily Affirmations for Positive Thinking

Daily affirmations are simple, positive statements declaring specific goals in their completed states. Although they sound rather basic at that level, these empowering mantras have profound effects on the conscious and unconscious mind.

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Affirmations also hold a key to unlocking the Law of Attraction and creating the life of your dreams!

Successful people, from top salespeople and entrepreneurs to bestselling authors and Olympic athletes, have figured out that using willpower to power their success isn’t enough.

You need to let go of any and all negative thoughts and images and bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images that are positive and stated in the present tense.

How do you do this?

The technique you use to do this begins with daily affirmations, which are simply statements that describe a goal in its already completed state.

Two examples of affirmations would be:

I am joyfully walking across the stage as I receive my MBA degree from Wharton.

I am so happy and grateful that I am now crossing the finish line of the Boston Marathon.

In addition to all of the feedback I have received from hundreds of thousands of students from around the world about the effectiveness of their daily affirmations, there’s now new academic research that shows in high-stress level environments those who do use them have lower stress levels and more success than those who don’t.

What are Daily Affirmations?

Daily affirmations are to the mind what exercise is to the body.

Repeating affirmations helps to reprogram the unconscious mind for success.

It helps eliminate negative and limiting beliefs and transforms your comfort zone from a limited one keeping you trapped in mediocrity to a more expanded one where anything is possible. It helps to replace your “I cant’s” with “I cans,” and your fears and doubts with confidence and certainty.

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How Affirming Phrases Can Keep You Focused

Affirmations are reminders to your unconscious mind to stay focused on your goals and to come up with solutions to challenges and obstacles that might get in the way.

They can also create higher vibrations of happiness, joy, appreciation, and gratitude that then, through the law of attraction, magnetize people, resources, and opportunities to come to you to help you achieve your goals.

Whether you know it or not, you are always using affirmations… but usually not ones that will bring you what you want.

These are things like:

  • "Everything I eat goes straight to my hips."
  • "I am never going to meet somebody I can love."
  • "I never catch a break."
  • "No matter what I do, I never seem to get ahead."  

How to Create Positive Affirmations

The daily use of positive affirmations interrupts and eventually totally replaces this barrage of negative thoughts and beliefs. To achieve this, you must continually flood your subconscious with thoughts and images of the new reality you wish to create.

I am going to share with you two sets of guidelines for creating powerful daily affirmations that work—the long form and the short form.

Here are the eight guidelines for creating effective affirming statements. You may want to write these down.  They are also in my book The Success Principles.

  1. Start with the words "I am." These are the two most powerful words in the English language.
  2. Use the present tense.
  3. State it in the positive. Affirm what you want, not what you don’t want.
  4. Keep it brief.
  5. Make it specific.
  6. Include an action word ending with –ing.
  7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
  8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.

Examples of Daily Affirmations

Here’s an example of an affirmation following these guidelines:

I am joyfully driving my new red Porsche Carrera convertible down the Pacific Coast Highway in Malibu.

Or if you are more ecologically minded, you can make that a new Tesla.

You can use the following simple formula: I am so happy and grateful that I am now ... and then fill in the blank.

Some examples would be:

I am so happy and grateful that I am now earning $150,000 a year.

I am so happy and grateful that I am now celebrating having achieved my ideal weight of 140 pounds.

One of my most famous affirmations is:

I am enjoying living in my beautiful beachfront villa on the Ka’anapali coast of Maui or somewhere better.

I started writing that affirmation in 1989 and in 2011 – that’s right, 22 years later, I had something better!

Make sure to take 5 to 10 minutes every day to repeat your affirmations – preferably out loud with high energy and enthusiasm.  The best times are early morning and right before you go to bed.

Action Item: Create New Positive Statements for Yourself

Write down 3 affirmations for yourself that affirm you having already achieved 3 of your goals and dreams.

Then, write down the time of day that you will commit to practicing your affirmations. Is it when you wake up in the morning? Before you go to sleep?

Mid-day when you need a pick-me-up?

Or maybe after your daily meditation when your subconscious mind is primed?

And to hold yourself accountable, go ahead and leave a comment below with your chosen time of day. I’ll follow up with you to make sure you’re staying on track!

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How to Turn Limp Affirmations Into Mantras for Success!

Actually, the true art of the affirmation is both subtle and profound. Despite the popularity of this technique, some people use affirmations that are bland and perhaps even self-defeating.

When creating your affirmation, remember that even minor variations in wording can make a huge difference in the results you get. Since your words literally have the power to create your circumstances, invest a few minutes now to take your affirmation skills to a higher level.

Consider the following statement:

I will quit smoking with ease and joy, remembering the effects on my physical and mental health and preparing to live a longer life.

Five Daily Affirmations Guidelines to Follow

By using the guidelines found below, you can transform limp affirmations like that into mantras for manifesting a huge change in your life!

The following points are key:

1. Enter the “now”

Start your affirmation by entering the present tense. Take the condition you desire and declare it to be already true.

2. Be positive

Our sample affirmation keeps the focus on smoking—the condition that you do not want. Instead, shine a light on what you do want—to be smoke-free.

A related reminder: Our subconscious mind skips the word not. So, delete this word from your affirmations. “I am not afraid of public speaking” gives us the message that you are afraid. Use, “I feel at ease as I speak in public.”

3. Be concise

Shorter is better. Affirmations with fewer words are often easier to recall, especially in situations when you feel some stress. Rhyming makes your affirmations even more memorable. For example, “I am feeling alive at 185.”

4. Include action

Whenever possible, affirm yourself as a person who takes action. For example: “I am gratefully driving my new Porsche along an open highway.” Action engages the Law of Attraction, creating new results in our lives and opening us to further inspiration.

5. Include a feeling word  

Powerful affirmations include content and emotion. Content describes the specific outcome that you desire. Emotion gets to the heart of how you feel about that outcome. For a more potent affirmation, add both elements.

Consider this affirmation:

"I am supporting my children to fully come forward into the world."

The content of this statement is clear. Yet it lacks an emotional charge. Breathe life into this affirmation by adding an active expression of feeling:

"I am lovingly supporting my children and encourage them to fully express their unique talents and gifts."

You will know that you have a powerful affirmation when you feel a surge of emotional energy. The force of feeling jumpstarts you into action.

An Affirmation Makeover

Now get some direct experience with “affirmation transformation.” Return to the first example mentioned in this article:

"I will quit smoking with ease and joy, remembering the effects on my physical and mental health and preparing to live a longer life."

Playing with the guidelines listed serves up some more exciting options, such as:

"I am breathing effortlessly with lungs that are pure and clean."

"I am celebrating how easily I breathe through strong, healthy lungs."

Also consider the following affirmations on a variety of topics:

"I am joyfully celebrating my graduation from college with a master’s degree."

"I am effectively delivering my first talk to an audience of over 1,000 people who affirm my message with a standing ovation."

"I am confidently checking the balance of my bank account as I make a deposit of $1,000,000."

"I am walking up on stage to receive my first Emmy award and receiving a roar of applause."

When you’re satisfied with the wording of your affirmation, start using it right away.

Repeat your affirmations at least three times daily—first thing in the morning, midday, and just before you go to sleep. Regular repetition will gently return your focus to manifesting the life of your dreams.

My List of Positive Feeling Words for Affirmations

Below I have included a list of positive feeling words that you may want to use when creating your daily affirmations. 

Remember, when creating affirmations you want to create positive, self-affirming, self-empowering statements that uplift and inspire you – that raise your emotional set point.

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Here Are Some More Examples of Positive Affirmations:

I am celebrating feeling light and alive at my perfect body weight of one thirty-five.

I am enjoying the thrill of flying.

I am attracting joy into my life.

I am confidently expressing myself openly and honestly.

I am feeling exhilarated, agile  and alive.

I am effectively communicating my needs and desires to my loving partner.

I am looking around me at the faces of the people I am helping and I am thrilled to know that I have made a difference in their life.

I am feeling relaxed and grateful to be sitting here in Hawaii with my toes buried in the warm sand, feeling the warmth of the sun on my face.

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3-Step Total Focus Training Process for Successful People

Do you ever have trouble staying focused or feel like you need focus training? This is a problem that plagues many entrepreneurs and successful individuals. Anyone who is successful knows that at any given point, there are about a hundred different activities you could, or should, be working on.

The key to getting the most benefit and “bang for your buck” out of your time is to prioritize tasks and only focus on the ones that will yield the greatest results and propel you towards your goals the fastest.

In addition to prioritizing the tasks that will yield the greatest results, you also want to focus your time and energy on doing the things you are truly brilliant at. These are typically the ones that will also reap the biggest rewards.

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The 3 Step Total Focus Training

To help you clarify what you should be spending your time on and what you should be delegating to others, I encourage you to do the following exercise.

Your goal is to find the top one, two, or three activities that best use your core genius, bring you the most money, and produce the greatest level of enjoyment.

Step 1: List All of the Activities That Occupy Your Time

The first step is to start by listing all those activities that occupy your time, whether they’re business-related, personal, or related to your civic organizations or volunteer work. List even small tasks such as replying to emails or returning phone calls.

Step 2: Choose 2 Things That You’re Brilliant At

Next, choose from your list one, two, or three things you are particularly brilliant at.

These are your special and unique talents, the things very few other people can do as well as you.

Also, choose from this list the three activities that generate the most income for you or your company. Any activities that you are brilliant at and that generate the most income for you or your company are the activities where you’ll want to focus the most time and energy.

Step 3: Create a Plan for Delegating Everything Else

Finally, create a plan for delegating everything else to other people.

Delegating takes time, training, and patience, but over time you can keep chipping away at the low-payoff, nonessential tasks on your list until you are doing less and less of those and more and more of what you are really good at.

That is how you create a brilliant career.

Practice Delegating One Thing From Your List

Create a list of all the activities that occupy your time, choose 3 things from that list that you are brilliant at, then delegate at least 1 thing from the remaining list to someone else TODAY.

Tomorrow, delegate one more thing to someone else. Do this every day until you are only working on the tasks that you do best and that produce the most results.

Leave a comment below and share one task that you are truly brilliant at - whether it be in your personal or professional life! And share one task you are going to delegate today.

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7 Ways to Boost Your Business Just by Asking

One of life’s fundamental truths states, “Ask and you shall receive.”

It’s simple, but it is so powerful…As adults, we seem to lose our ability to ask. But, here’s what you need to understand: The world responds to those who ask. So let’s start using that in your favor! Here are 7 big ways to boost your business using the power of asking that will help you become more profitable.

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1. Boost Your Business by Asking for Information

To win potential new clients, you first need to know what their current challenges are, what they want to accomplish, and how they plan to do it.

Ask questions, starting with the words who, why, what, where, when and how, to obtain all the information you need. This is called the discovery process. Repeat this process until you have explored this topic as fully as you need to. So practice asking simple, direct questions. Be attentive. Listen well, and learn to read between the lines.

2. Boost Your Profits Asking for Business

Here’s an amazing statistic: After doing a complete presentation about the benefits of their product or service, more than 60% of the time salespeople never ask for the order.

If you want business, you must always ask.

Don’t waffle, or talk around it, or even worse, wait for your prospect to ask you. The point is, just ask. Also, make sure your closing question is designed to produce a “Yes” or “No” answer, unlike your earlier questions in the discovery process, where all you really want is more information.

3. Boost Your Business by Asking for Written Endorsements

Well-written, results-oriented testimonials from highly respected people are powerful.

Here’s what’s fascinating—most people in business don’t do this. That gives you a great opportunity to jump ahead of your competition. All you need to do is ask.

The best time to ask for a testimonial is any time you’ve made your customer really happy. Under these circumstances, people will be glad to praise your efforts. And if you have your smart phone with you, you can record their testimonial right then and there,

4. Boost Your Business by Asking for Top-Quality Referrals

Just about everyone in business knows the importance of referrals. However, the reality is in our experience, only one out of ten small businesses or large companies has a system for gathering referrals.

As all top businesspeople know, asking for qualified referrals is an important part of an overall marketing strategy. It’s a habit that will dramatically increase your income. Like any other habit, it requires that you do it often, and then eventually it will become easier as you do it more often.

5. Boost Your Business by Asking for More Business

This strategy might seem simple but it’s often forgotten.

Many people lose thousands of dollars in sales every year because they have nothing more to offer after the initial sale. Look for other products or services to add to your portfolio. Also, develop a system to determine when your clients will require more of your own product or service.

Remember that business grinds to a halt when you stop asking. When you consistently ask for more business, you rapidly gain momentum.

6. Boost Your Business by Asking to Renegotiate

Regular business activities include negotiation and the opportunity to renegotiate. Many people get stuck because they aren’t very good at this, but it’s another form of asking that can save you a lot of time and money.

All sorts of contracts can be re-negotiated simply by asking. As long as you do it ethically and in the spirit of win-win, you can enjoy a lot of flexibility. Nothing is ever cast in stone. If your situation requires change, ask for it.

7. Boost Your Business by Asking for Feedback

This is another important component of asking that is often overlooked. How do you really know if your product or service is meeting the needs of your clients and customers?

Ask them!

Set up regular customer surveys that ask good questions, and include the tough questions. You could even consider a monthly focus group where you can meet your customers face-to-face.

If you supervise a team of people or run a large organization, ask the people you work with for ideas.

No matter what type of industry you work in, you’re surrounded by people who can give you valuable feedback. All you need to do is ask.

The 5 Secrets to Successful Asking

The first stumbling block for most people is knowing how to ask. Here are five tips to improve the way you ask, so you achieve results:

1. Ask Clearly

Vague or fuzzy questions confuse listeners, making it difficult for them to provide the information or help you desire.

Be precise in your asking. Think clearly about your request, and take time to prepare. Use a notepad to pick words that have the greatest impact. Words are powerful, so choose them carefully. For example, if you throw the “How am I doing?” question out without specifics, it may take time for the other person to understand what you’re talking about.

Instead, try “How is my attitude toward customers? Do you see room for improvement? Where?”

2. Ask With Confidence

People who ask confidently get more than those who are hesitant and uncertain. When you’ve figured out what you want to ask for, do it with certainty, boldness, and confidence. Practice in the mirror if you have to, or write out your question in advance.

Try to have an open mind and heart when receiving a response. (It’s normal and okay to feel intimidated by the experience, but don’t show it.)

Be prepared to hear the unexpected or unwanted. Don’t get defensive if you hear something you don’t like or that makes you uncomfortable. It’s good to get a little uneasy once in a while upon the observations or insights of others.

They will inspire you to stop, reflect, and take steps to make a shift for the better.

3. Ask Consistently

Top producers know that they can’t quit if they ask once and don’t get a good response.

In prospecting, for example, there are usually four or five “no’s” before you get a “yes.” If the approach you’re using doesn’t seem to be working, try a different way of asking and keep asking until you find the answers you want.

For example, if you find a co-worker is reluctant to offer an opinion when you seek feedback about your performance on an important team project, you can ask another team member who is more receptive to the question, or rephrase how you are asking the question and try again. Because people don’t normally go around asking others for opinions on how well they are doing, it’s not a question typically heard.

So be prepared to ask over and over again before you hear a clear—useful—answer.

4. Ask Creatively

In this age of global competition, your asking may get lost in the crowd, unheard by the decision-makers you hope to reach. The way around this is to ask in an unusual way. Use your creativity to dream up a high-impact presentation.

Bear in mind that asking someone to stop and evaluate you can seem awkward or time-consuming. Show respect for them first and find the ideal time to ask the question.

Here’s one way to engage the insights of a superior: “I highly value your opinion and honest perspective, and would love to know what you think I could be doing differently on a daily basis that would make your life easier and make our clients happier.”

5. Ask Sincerely

When you really need help, people will respond. Sincerity means dropping the image facade and being willing to be vulnerable. Tell it the way it is, lumps and all. Don’t worry if your presentation isn’t perfect; ask from your heart. Keep it simple and people will open up to you.

Like speaking a different language, asking takes continual practice until it becomes a regular, reflexive habit.

The sooner you build your Ask Muscle, the sooner you’ll see results you’ve been waiting and searching for.

Remember that asking does not relate only to work-related goals and tasks.

Bring this practice home with you to enrich your relationships with your family members, and your friends. You’ll be surprised and delighted at what you discover about yourself in this process – and at the greater results and satisfaction you’ll gain in all areas of your life.

Who Can You Get Feedback From Right Now?

Keeping these 7 strategies to increase your business by asking in mind, I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete after you’re done reading this article.

  1. Write down 3 areas and 3 people that you can get feedback from.
  2. Then write down what you will ask them for feedback about, and exactly how you plan to ask them.
  3. Ask them!

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Are You a Member of the “Ain’t it Awful” Club?

Let’s discuss one of the only clubs in the world that no one should ever want to be a part of, and that is the “Ain't it Awful” Club.

The "Ain’t it Awful" Club is populated by negative, judgmental, and pessimistic people who only focus on how bad things are and how it’s always other people who are responsible for their unhappiness and lack of success.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn

They tend to be blamers, complainers, and excuse makers. They constantly blame others for everything that doesn’t work in their lives. They blame the government, the latest wave of immigrants, their bosses, their employees, their coworkers, and their spouses, parents, and children for why they don’t have what they want in life.

They are also complainers. They complain about their job, the traffic, their neighbors, the economy, the media, the schools, today’s kids, the weather, their faulty equipment, and on and on.

They are also perennial excuse makers. Instead of getting things done, they make excuses for everything. It is never their fault. The printer was late, the traffic was terrible, they didn’t have enough time, they were underfunded, everyone else screwed up, the lack of clear instructions, and so on.

Nothing is ever their fault.

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The problem with blaming others

The problem with this kind of thinking is that instead of results, excellence, achievement, and success, you only end up with reasons why you didn’t create the desired result – for yourself or for your employer.

You may get a lot of agreement from other people. You may get to temporarily feel better, but what you don’t get is what you set out to produce - greater happiness, fulfillment, prosperity and abundance, and the achievement of your dreams and objectives.

Stop blaming others and take 100% responsibility instead

It’s critical to stop blaming others and replace complaining and excuse making with 100% responsibility thinking.

First, realize you are creating your current reality with your thoughts and your images.

One of the great positive affirmations to write down and put where you will see it every day is: “If it is meant to be, it is up to me!”

Learn to Ask Yourself Different Questions

You also have to start asking a different set of questions. Instead of, "Why can’t I?" or, "Why didn’t I achieve that result I wanted?" use positive affirmations and ask..."How can I achieve it?"

When something is not working the way you want, you can ask yourself any of these questions:

  • "How am I creating or allowing this to happen?"
  • "What am I doing that is working that I need to do more of, and what I am I doing that is not working that I need to do less of?"
  • "Am I working too much?"
  • "Am I talking too much and not listening enough?"
  • "Am I not asking enough questions?"
  • "Am I not inspecting other people’s work until the last minute and therefore, getting sloppy results?"
  • "Am I drinking too much alcohol, not getting enough sleep, gossiping too much?"
  • "What am I pretending not to know?"
  • "What yellow alerts that things are not right or not on track am I ignoring because it is uncomfortable to have to deal with them?"
  • "What actions are needed here?"
  • "If I don’t know or am not sure what to do, who can I ask for help, advice, or support?"
  • "When will I take action on the needed actions?"

Are you surrounded by negative people?

Finally, let’s look at what you should if you find yourself surrounded by members of the Ain’t It Awful Club…

Whether it’s at work, at the local bar, in your school, your sports team, or at home, the first thing is not to join into the negativity.

Don’t participate in the negative blaming, complaining, and excuse making. You can attempt to change the topic to what actions need to be taken to change things for the better, but if that doesn’t work, it is best to vacate the area and go about working on your goals and objectives.

Free Yourself From Negative People

Make a list of everyone you spend time with on a regular basis— your family members, coworkers, neighbors, friends, and so on. When you’ve completed your list, go back and put a minus (-) sign next to those people who are negative and toxic, and a plus (+) sign next to those who are positive and nurturing.

Next, make a decision to stop spending time with those people with a minus sign next to their name. If that is impossible (and remember, nothing is impossible; it is always a choice), then severely decrease the amount of time you spend with them.

You have to free yourself from the negative influence of others.

Are there people in your life who are always complaining and blaming others for their circumstances? Are there people who are always judging others, spreading negative gossip, and talking about how bad it is? Stop spending time with them as well.

Dedicate Yourself to Success

If you are going to be successful, you have to start hanging out with the successful people. Ask them to share their success strategies with you. Then try them on and see if they fit for you.

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5 Steps to Develop Maximum Self-Confidence

If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to have self-confidence and believe that you are capable of making it happen.

How do you develop self-confidence like this?

You have to believe you have the right stuff, and that you are able to pull it off. Self-confidence is a deep-seated belief that you have whatever it takes. You have the abilities, inner resources, talents, and skills to create your desired results.

Here are 5 tips that can help you develop maximum self-confidence.

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1. Make the Choice to Believe in Yourself

That’s right, believing in yourself is a choice.

It is an attitude you develop over time. Although it helps if you had positive and supportive parents, the fact is that most of us had run-of-the-mill parents who inadvertently passed on to us the same limiting beliefs and negative conditioning they grew up with.

To be successful, you have to remember, the past is the past and there is no payoff for blaming your parents for your current level of self-confidence. It’s your responsibility to take charge of your own self-concept and your beliefs.

You must choose to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to, because the reality is, you can.

2. Use Positive Self-Talk and Positive Visualizations to Persuade Yourself

The latest brain research indicates that with enough positive self-talk and positive visualization combined with proper training, coaching and practice, anyone can learn to do almost anything.

If you choose to believe in yourself and act as if anything is possible, then you will do the things that are necessary to bring about the result.

On the other hand, if you believe that it is impossible, you will not do what is necessary, and you will not produce the result. Either way, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

3. Give Up the Words “I Can’t”

If you are going to develop maximum levels of self-confidence and success, you need to give up the phrase “I can’t” and all of its cousins, such as “I wish I were able to.”

The words “I can’t” disempower you.

They actually make you physically weaker when you say them. Your brain is designed to solve any problem and reach any goal that you give it, and the words you think and say affect your brain and body.

Let me give you an example:

When you were a toddler, there was no stopping you. You thought you could climb up on anything. No barrier was too big for you to attempt to overcome.

But little by little, your sense of invincibility was conditioned out of you by the feedback you received from your family, friends, and teachers, and by the decisions you made in response to that, until you no longer believed you could.

To undo your past conditioning and move towards a future of confidence and success, you must take responsibility for removing the words “I can’t” from your vocabulary, and replacing them with the words “I can” and “I will.”

4. Ignore What Others Think of You

If having others believing in you and your dream were a requirement for success, most of us would never accomplish anything.

You need to base your decisions about what you want to do on YOUR goals and desires--not the goals, desires, opinions, and judgments of your parents, friends, spouse, children, or co-workers.

Quit worrying about what other people think about you and follow your heart.

In fact, most of the time, nobody’s thinking about you at all! They are too busy worrying about their own lives, and if they are thinking about you, they are wondering what you are thinking about them.

Meanwhile, all that time you’re wasting worrying about what other people think about your ideas, your goals, your clothes, your hair, and your home, could be better spent focusing on doing the things that will actually get your closer to achieving your goals.

5. Constantly Acknowledge Your Positive Past

Most people in our culture remember their failures more than their successes.

One reason for this is the “leave ‘em alone -- pounce” approach to parenting, teaching, and management that is so prevalent in our culture.

When you were a young child, your parents left you alone when you were playing and being cooperative, and then pounced on you when you made too much noise, were a nuisance, or got into trouble.

There was almost always more emotional intensity around your errors, mistakes, and failures than there was around your successes.

And because the brain more easily remembers events that were accompanied by strong emotions, most people underestimate and underappreciate the number of successes they’ve had, compared to the number of failures they’ve had.

The best way to counteract this phenomenon is to consciously focus on and celebrate your successes. Research has shown over and over again that the more you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you become in taking on and successfully accomplishing new ones.

Remembering and acknowledging that you have had successes in the past, will give you the self-confidence that you can have more successes in the future.

Create a Victory Log for Yourself

Keeping these 5 strategies in mind, I want you to create a victory log.

A victory log is a list of all your daily successes. You can keep your list in a notebook, your iPad, your smartphone, or on your computer, but the point is to keep a running list that you can add to each day.

Begin by writing down your successes from yesterday and those from today, and keep the list going in order to log these victories into your long-term memory. As simple as this exercise is, it is extremely powerful in building your maximum confidence.

To hold yourself accountable, leave a comment below with the first 5 items in your victory log. I’ll follow up with you in the comments to make sure you’re staying on track.

Develop Maximum Self-Confidence

Imagine exuding self-confidence in any situation, asking for what you want, believing anything is possible... and, taking more risks. Now imagine you have already achieved any goal you desire. What would it feel like? How would you be thinking?

This simple imagination exercise is something you can do right now to take you faster to the actual manifestation of that experience.

That's because when you feel good about yourself, you begin to attract the people and events that empower you to achieve the exact success you imagined.

 

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