How to Lead a Successful Training Workshop

If you want to become a successful thought leader, author, speaker, or simply share your message with the world, you must understand how to lead a successful training workshop.

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I am going to share with you my very own process – what we call The Canfield Training Methodology for leading amazing, transformational workshops.

These are the exact workshop plans that I use every time I speak, whether it is for an hour or a weeklong training seminar.

First, I want you to think like you were building a house...

When you build a house, you have to start with a blueprint. You don’t just keep your vision of what you are going to build in your head right? If you have ever built a house, you know that would be an expensive mistake. You think about all the details, the size, the number of rooms, the layout, the overall feel you want to create and so on.

You need to do this same thing when you are designing the content for your workshop.

Start by determining what is the desired outcome you want for your attendees:

  • Is it to help them find their true purpose?
  • Improve their business?
  • Increase their income?
  • Learn a new skill?
  • Develop a new habit?

Determining the purpose will then help you determine who should attend, how many, and at what kind of location. And of course, it is important to know who your audience is so that you have relevant examples and stories they can relate to.

For example, if you are speaking to a women’s group, you probably don’t want to only use a bunch of sports analogies.

In my work, I use a pre-program questionnaire that is filled out by the workshop planner or the individual attendees, so I am clear on what outcome we are looking to create once the training is over.

Workshop Plans for Leading a Training

I’d like to share my workshop plans and ideas I use that provides me with the structure I need to stay on track and cover all of the key ingredients I have discovered that make a presentation clear, engaging, and memorable for your audience.

1. Engage the Audience

First, start by engaging the audience - Clarify your purpose and your goals for the seminar or talk.

What is the central purpose of your event or presentation? What do you want people to go away from the seminar knowing, experiencing, being or doing?

2. Set the Tone for the Day

Then set the tone for the day: Why this message is important to you – what I refer to is your WHY. What makes you so passionate about the what you are sharing with them. Tell them the story about how you became so committed to sharing this subject.  

The more open and transparent you are with the audience, the more connected and safe they will feel with you.

3. Tell a Funny Story

Tell a funny story, add cartoons into your presentation, or show a funny video.

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No matter how serious your topic is, using humor is the best way to connect with your audience and get everyone relaxed.

4. Have an Icebreaker Activity

Next, I introduce an icebreaker activity, which is specifically designed to create a safe space and give you and the group a chance to bond quickly and efficiently.

It could be as short as a 90-second exercise, a short 5 to 10-minute game, or an hour filled with several short exercises done in a specific order to create a specific effect.

You can introduce an exercise to complete in small groups or simply have everyone stand up and walk around the room and share two things they are grateful for or why they chose to attend your presentation. Use your imagination and always demonstrate what you are asking them to do before you have them do it.

For example, if you are asking them to share a recent success they have had or to share one thing they hope to take away from the presentation today, tell them how you would answer that question before you have them do it. And again, be totally honest and transparent so the group gets to see you are human too! This builds huge levels of trust.

5. Introduce Your Concept

Now it’s time to give them what they came for. Introduce a concept or principle that will deliver on your promise to them and why it is important.

In my case, I typically start with the first principle in my book The Success Principles, which is Take 100% Responsibility for your Life and Your Results. This is the fundamental principle that everything else I teach stems from.

6. Share Research

After introducing the concept, create credibility by sharing any research, statistics and case studies that validate what you are teaching them.

7. Share a Story

Then drive your message home with a story to illustrate the concept. Stories are a great way to velcro your message or the concept you are teaching their long-term memory and stories keep your audience engaged. Everyone loves a good story. And it’s even better if it’s a story from your own life. That’s not always possible, but personal stories have the deepest impact.

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8. Follow Up With an Interactive Exercise

In order to appeal to all types of learners, I typically follow up with an interactive exercise or demonstration to drive the point home even deeper. I like to ask for a volunteer and invite them to come up on stage with me and do a demonstration for the whole group, which works best for shorter presentations and workshops.

Or I might have them fill out a worksheet and then get into groups and share their answers with each other while I walk around and help them. With some groups, I have them do a total group activity, like a meditation or a guided visualization.

Use Visual Aids When You Can

There are basically 3 types of learners – auditory, visual and kinesthetic. If you follow the formula we have been discussing plus some powerpoint or keynote slides, you will have accommodated all 3 types.

9. Debriefing Session

At the end of a workshop or shorter presentation, I like to rap it up with a debriefing session. You can do this by putting people in pairs, in a small group of three to six, or have a few people share their aha’s and awarenesses in front of the whole group. This also gives the participants the opportunity to ask questions if they are feeling stuck. If one person has a question, there’s almost always someone else who has that same question.

While you’re doing this, honor and celebrate the level of trust that has been established so far. It’s best to be impartial to their feedback in this part of the session. Don’t necessarily evaluate their ideas or contribute more, but definitely encourage their input.

10. Commit to Action

One more step: When everything has been reviewed, get everyone to commit to one action step they can take to get them closer to their goal – based on what they’ve just learned - and have them write it down!.

Lastly and very important – Make sure that you have a clear transition when you are moving from one concept or principle to another one.

11. Repeat for Your Next Concept

Once you have introduced your next principle or topic all you need to do is repeat the same steps again.

12. Leave Them Motivated

When you’ve reached the end of the training workshop, whether it is one hour or a full day have a final closure exercise and wrap it up with a powerful story that will have them leaving motivated and inspired, ready to go from where they started to where they want to be!

That’s how you think like a trainer and lead a compelling and engaging training seminar! If your goal is to become a trainer and you'd like to know how to become a trainer for virtually anything, click the button below to sign up for a free webinar about training others.

Feel free to modify this workshop plan I have provided above to make your training workshop your own.

If you have any questions about running a successful training workshop leave a comment below and I'll follow up with you. 

 

Start Your Day Off Right With The Hour of Power

The morning is the most important time of the day. If you spend an hour a day to do these three things you will be happier in life, healthier, and more motivated than you’ve ever felt.

hour of powerI call this my hour of power. Every morning I wake up and I spend 60 minutes doing three things. They've helped contribute to a lot of my success.

So what is this Hour of Power exactly?

It’s a full hour that is broken up into three 20-minute sessions:

  • 20 minutes of exercise
  • 20 minutes of meditation
  • 20 minutes of reading (positive, uplifting material)

The benefits of doing just these 3 things are great.

The Benefits of the Hour of Power

1. Exercise

Simply by meditating you’ll make better decisions, have better mental health, energy, and focus. Reading something positive every day ensures that you are always learning and growing, along with increasing your focus. Exercise, even if you are taking a walk or stretching for 20 minutes will make a huge difference in your overall health and longevity.

You can switch the order of the 3 activities and you can also choose what hour of the day you’d like to reserve for your personal Hour of Power. I usually schedule my Hour of Power for the first hour I’m awake in the morning.  This really jumpstarts my day and allows me to feel energized, focused, and engaged.

And each day, I change my routine a tiny bit….One day I might exercise by taking a 20-minute walk around my neighborhood. The next day I might jog on the treadmill. Whatever type of exercise you choose to do is fine; what’s most important is that you commit to doing it!

2. Meditation

The same goes for the meditation portion of the hour.  There are so many amazing meditation resources out there for everyone.  I’ve created a free e-book on a 4-step meditation technique that is perfect for beginners. The most important thing is to find one that you feel connected to and spend 20 minutes really grounding yourself.  

And remember, you don’t need to be in a remote cave in India to meditate, although that would be pretty cool!.  You can meditate almost anywhere….in your home, at a park, at the beach or a lake.  

Again, go with your internal guidance and find a place that you feel calm and present in, and use those 20 minutes to feed your mind, body, and soul.

3. Reading

And last but not least, the third portion of your Hour of Power is 20 minutes of reading.  Get your hands on positive, uplifting material – it could be from an online magazine, a book, journals or articles.  

But again, find something that excites you and that you’ll look forward to reading.  By reading positive material, your subconscious will become emerged in the affirmative, which helps you to remain in that positive state throughout the day.

I want to leave you with some homework after watching this video. I’d suggest test-driving the Hour of Power for 30 days. After 30 days, see what worked well and what didn’t. Try moving your hour to different times of the day.  Did having your Hour of Power in the morning work better for you than having it at night?

Remember, you can always change the terms of your hour. It is YOUR Hour of Power.

But have fun with it.  And know that it’s extremely effective in centering you, uplifting you, and helping you create a powerful, positive day.

Learn how to meditate with this free 4-Step Meditation Guide.

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How to Make 2018 Your Best Year Ever

Regardless of how you ring in the New Year (with lively parties and fireworks or cozy celebrations at home), there is a recurring theme at every New Year’s celebration: to the make this year the best year ever.

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“If you get clear on the what, the how will be taken care of.” - Jack Canfield

Here are a few things you can do to make 2018 your best year yet.

1. Review Last Year

First, take inventory of last year. By reviewing last year and all the ups and downs of 2017, we are provided with the map to moving forward into 2018. Reflecting deeply on last year can highlight your successes and – more importantly – the areas most in need of improvement.

Find a quiet room in your house and carve out a bit of meditation time. Don’t be afraid to ask yourself the hard questions; the answers to the hardest of questions will only help you grow. Use a journal to collect your thoughts so that you can refer back to your answers.

  • What were the biggest accomplishments of 2017?
  • Why were those accomplishments meaningful for you? What did they signify?
  • Did you have any regrets? What were they?
  • What obstacles did you face?
  • What goals did you reach?
  • What goals did you not meet?
  • What are you not happy with in your life right now? This could be personal, professional, spiritual. Identify the areas that you want to improve, and be as specific as you can be.
  • And finally, what was the overall recurring theme of 2017?

By taking the time to review the events of the previous year, you not only have the opportunity to be grateful for all the good moments, but you also gain the knowledge of where and what to improve.

It is only when you know which areas truly need improving (and why), that you can work towards creating the best year ever.

Make 2018 Your Best Year Ever By Creating Your Extraordinary Life Plan.

2.  Try This Instead of Making New Year's Resolutions

Next, don’t make New Year’s resolutions. On the outside, making New Year’s resolutions seems like a festive way to bolster optimism and prepare for the upcoming year.

However, there is a reason for so many jokes about resolutions fizzling out before Valentine’s Day: many individuals simply do not follow through on their resolutions – despite their best intentions.

Instead of setting resolutions, set New Year’s goals.

Although those words may seem interchangeable, understanding the difference can help you make the best out of 2018.

While a resolution is intended to be a promise you keep indefinitely, a goal refers to a specific achievement by a specific date.

An example of a resolution is something like, “I will go the gym every day.”

You intend to keep this promise, but because it is unrealistic, you lose momentum once you miss a few days and you realize you cannot keep this promise.

A goal is:

“I will run a 5K by April 30th, 2018.”

Unlike the resolution which has no end in sight, this goal has a very specific and measurable achievement (run a 5K) and deadline (April 30th). Because of these characteristics, goals are much easier to keep. And yes, it might entail going to the gym a lot, but you are not committing to more than you can realistically handle.

When you make your New Year’s goals, be sure to be as specific as you can. That is one of the keys to your success.

3. Create a Breakthrough Goal for the Year

A well-formed goal is both powerful and measurable. Specifically, a goal must quantify something, and it must list a specific date for completion. Going back to the goal versus resolution example from above, a good goal is:

“I will participate in the charity 5K on April 21st, and I will complete it in 30 minutes or less.”

As admirable of a goal as that is, your year has even greater chances of success if you set a breakthrough goal. A breakthrough goal is a goal that will quantum leap your success, a large goal that could dramatically changes your life dramatically.

Carefully consider possible breakthrough goals for yourself. What would dramatically change your life?

Instead of just running a 5K, set a breakthrough goal such as losing 35 pounds or totally eliminating the need for a certain medication.

Instead of just volunteering at the polls, set a breakthrough goal to run for a local office.

Or set a breakthrough goal to write a book, earn your Master’s degree or get your real estate license.

Because a breakthrough goal has the power to transform your life, it also has the power to make 2018 your best year ever. This fact alone makes setting a breakthrough goal one of the most powerful things you can do for your future success and future happiness. Follow these tips to make 2018 your best year ever. 

Make 2018 Your Best Year Ever, One Breakthrough Goal at a Time

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This powerful video course is my ultimate training program in setting and achieving your biggest goals. I’ll walk you through the steps needed to create a crystal clear vision of what you want, choosing a BIG, ambitious goal, and putting together a complete plan of action and achievement. Make 2018 your best year yet.yelp-launch-bottom-blog-post-650x300

23 Questions to Celebrate Your Year & Set New Year Goals for 2018

As you set your new year goals for 2018, it's a good idea to take stock of the progress you've made toward your goals this year. For many people, this review is unpleasant and can even lead to a downward spiral.

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If you didn't achieve all of the goals you set at the beginning of the year, you may feel like you have failed. Our self-esteem can take a hit, we can become disheartened and discouraged, and our motivation drops. Some people actually become depressed.

If this sounds familiar, it's time to reframe how you look at success. Zeroing in on accomplishments that didn't happen puts your focus on what you lack, rather than on what you have (the things you did experience and accomplish). This subtle mental trap leads to a host of negative consequences, which usually leads to attracting more lack.

The answer is not giving up the review of your year. Periodic review is essential to the process of growth and goal achievement. The key is to acknowledge, appreciate, and celebrate what you did accomplish, and then to refocus on the goals that you still want to achieve.

Achieving a goal is a lot like flying a plane. You're guaranteed to be off course 99% of the time, which means that if you want to successfully reach your destination, it is essential to periodically check your position and correct your course. December and January is an ideal time to perform this much-needed review and analysis.

Create a "Win List" For the Year

One of the techniques I teach my coaching clients is to create a detailed "Win List" at the end of the year. Its purpose is to help you acknowledge all of your wins, especially those that didn't start as a written goal or intention.

This powerful technique takes about 30 minutes to complete. Start by listing all of the goals you set and achieved this year. Then list any other wins you think of – both large and small.

Here are some questions to help identify your successes.

• What wins or progress did you achieve in business?
• Did you discontinue an old product or develop a new product or product line?
• Did you identify a new market to focus on?
• Did you create any new marketing pieces or campaigns?
• Did you delegate any tasks to become more productive? This could include adding new staff and/or assistants, such as a housekeeper, executive assistant, gardener, errand runner, babysitter, or child care person. It also might include putting new systems into place to increase your efficiency.
• Did you buy, use or learn to use any new technology? This includes mental, emotional or spiritual technology, as well as mechanical, electronic and digital technology?
• Did you spend more time in nature?
• Did you develop any new supportive habits (such as meditation, exercise, sleep, or gratitude)? Did you overcome any non-supportive habits (for example, addiction to alcohol, caffeine, sugar, video games, porn, gambling, or shopping)?
• How did you grow in leadership?
• Did you deliver any presentations or speeches or develop new programs?
• Did you develop any new abilities, skills, or competencies?
• What success did you achieve in the areas of financial income, investments, or debt reduction?
• Did you create any new relationships or deepen existing relationships? Consider both business and personal relationships.
• Did you make any progress in self-development?
• Did you attend any positive events (e.g., seminars, lectures, concerts, theater, or sports)?
• Did you experience any positive events with your family?
• Were there any positive events in relation to your house or apartment?
• Did you take any trips or vacations?
• Were there any positive additions to your life?
• Were there any positive events in your community?
• How about any positive events in your spiritual life (e.g., church services, meditation, retreats, rituals)?
• Did you experience any positive events in regards to letting go (e.g., bad habits, negative people, or clutter)?
• Did you have any wins in health and fitness (e.g., weight, exercise, cholesterol, sports, or endurance)?

Reduce Mental Friction

Mental "friction" caused by negative thoughts and feelings will slow down your progress as you work to achieve your goals. By using this technique to focus your attention on what you did achieve, you'll shift into a state of gratitude and joy, accelerating your momentum into the new year.

Begin Thinking About and Setting New Year Goals for 2018

Once you've gone through and written down what your successes are for this year, I want you then to start thinking about setting goals for next year. Goals need to be specific and measurable. How much, and by when? When do you want to accomplish it?

Also, review your long-term goals. Maybe you have a goal to write a book, to become a professor, to become a multi-millionaire. That may be five, or 10 years out. But you want to think about, "What do I have to accomplish in 2018 to make sure I get to my long-term goals."

Here are 6 areas of your life that I want you to set goals for:

1. Set Goals for Your Financial Life

Have a goal for your financial life. How much do you want to make in 2018? Do you want to have a side income? Maybe you want to be debt free by the end of the year. Think hard about your finances and set a specific and realistic goal for the year.

2. Set Goals for Your Career

Have a goal for your job and career. What do you want to accomplish at work in 2018? Do you want to make more money, get a promotion, or release a new product? Use your win list to evaluate what you want to accomplish this year in your career.

3. Set Goals for Your Relationships

Have at least one goal for the most important relationships in your life. Think about your family, your friends, your significant others. How can you help them achieve more? How can you give back to them? In what ways can you improve these relationships?

4. Set Goals For Fun and Recreation

Have a goal for fun and recreation. Mine is 135 free days in 2018. That means no work from midnight to midnight, including 30 vacation days with my wife.

5. Set Goals for Fitness and Health

What's a goal for you in terms of health and fitness? It might be running a marathon or achieving your ideal weight. Perhaps it’s to become more flexible or strong. My goal for 2018 is to weigh 195 pounds or less by December 21st, be able to do 40 pushups in a row, do 100 hours of yoga, and improve my posture.

6. Set Personal Goals

Set personal goals for yourself for the year. What is something you want to do, simply because you want to do it? This year, I'm going to commit to two hours a week to learn Spanish so I can talk to the people in Southern California where I live a lot more effectively than I currently do. I'm also going to read 50 books, and totally declutter and reorganize my office and my garage. What's a personal goal for you?

Tell me in the comments below, what is one big goal you'd like to achieve in 2018? Take time to really think about that. What is a goal that you want to achieve that would help you create an extraordinary life, that will be a breakthrough to a new level for you? This is possible, and I want to help you achieve that.

Remember, review your past year, really realize you've achieved a lot, and feel good about that. That's building the poker chips of self-esteem that will allow you to take the risks you need to take in the new year to create your extraordinary life.

Create Your Extraordinary Life One Big Goal at a Time

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[LIVE INTERVIEW] Removing the Mask of Masculinity With Lewis Howes

Recently, I had the privilege of interviewing Lewis Howes about his new book, The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationship, and Live Their Fullest Lives.

For men in the modern era, this book is chock full of wisdom about how to improve your life and shed misconceptions that may be holding you back. My time reading Lewis' book was incredibly eye-opening and informative, and I wanted to take the time to highlight some of my main takeaways from The Mask of Masculinity by talking with Lewis.

Watch my interview now below!

How The Mask of Masculinity Can Help Men and Women Alike

For hundreds of years, society has conditioned men about how they should act and behave. Some of these conditions are good, such as bravery, respect, and honor.

Some, however, can be a detriment, such as the idea that men should show no emotion, should be able to handle everything on their own, and should treat aggression as an admirable trait.

For men, the first step in keeping these misguided ideals from holding them back is to recognize them. Likewise, for women, it's important to recognize when the men in their lives are being influenced by these ideals so that they can act accordingly and help them move past them.

This is where The Mask of Masculinity offers real value. It shines a light on the various masks that men sometimes wear, why they are often detrimental, and how they can put them aside in order to enjoy a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Why do Men Wear Masks?

Over the years, society has created an image of how "real men" should act and behave.

These ideals of a "real man" come at us from every angle.

They're in the movies we watch, the books we read, the stories in our history texts, and the pressures from our peers. However, not every man truly exhibit these ideals. Left to be themselves, they may prefer to behave in ways entirely different from how society has conditioned them to behave. The pressure to behave as expected, though, is intense, and for many men, the solution is to wear masks.

They spend years trying to convince others and themselves that they embody all of the ideals a man is supposed to embody, and in the process, they often lose sight of who they really are.

The Masks that Men Wear

There are a number of masks men sometimes wear in order to convey the idea that they really are what society expects them to be.

These masks include:

  • The Stoic Mask - Demands that men should never show emotion
  • The Athletic Mask - Demands that men must be physically superior to their peers
  • The Aggressive Mask - Demands that men show aggression whenever they are angry
  • The Sexual Mask - Dictates that men must be promiscuous and successful with the opposite sex
  • The Joker Mask - Demands that men use humor to deflect and dodge real issues
  • The Know-it-all Mask - Demands that men be intellectually superior to their peers
  • The Invincible Mask - Demands that men show no signs of emotional or physical pain
  • The Material Mask - Demands that men pursue material wealth and possessions
  • The Alpha Mask - Demands that men portray an image of dominance over their peers

In some situations, these masks can prove useful, particularly in a society that dictates this is how men should behave. This occasional usefulness is perhaps the reason why these masks have stuck around for so long even though we have now largely moved into a world where they are no longer necessary.

In many other instances, though, these masks can shackle men to an image that doesn't truly represent them, leading to disappointment, failure, and overall unhappiness.

Why it's Time to Take the Masks Off

Society convinces many men must behave a certain way lest they become unsuccessful and ostracized. This idea, however, is a lie and a dangerous one at that.

Sometimes, it's okay for men to be stoic. Sometimes it's okay for a man to be humorous, or athletic, or pursue material wealth.

However, it's also okay for men to be open, tender, and vulnerable. In fact, the men who are able to exhibit these latter traits when these traits are truly what they are feeling on the inside are the ones who are the most successful in their relationships, their career, and their life as a whole.

Successful, happy men are not confined to a cookie-cutter ideal of what men should be like. Successful, happy men are the ones who are true to themselves in spite of the ideals they've been conditioned to.

As a society, it's time we take off the mask and allow ourselves and other men to dictate for themselves how they should behave. Traits such as humor, athleticism, and intellect should be encouraged when they are genuine. So should traits such as vulnerability and openness. When these traits are genuine, they are incredibly valuable. When they are a mask, though, they are rarely of any value and only hold us back.

I'm honored to have been able to speak with Lewis and to read his book, and I hope that men and women alike will take the time to better understand the pitfalls of wearing these masks and learn how to move past them into a life that is more fulfilling and rewarding.

If you would like to learn more, I cannot recommend enough taking time to order and read The Mask of Masculinity for yourself.

About Lewis Howes

Lewis is a New York Times Bestselling author of the hit book, The School of Greatness. He is a lifestyle entrepreneur, high-performance business coach and keynote speaker. A former professional football player and two-sport All-American, he is a current USA Men’s National Handball Team athlete. He hosts a top 100 podcast in the world, The School of Greatness, which has over 40 million downloads since it launched in 2013. He was recognized by The White House and President Obama as one of the top 100 entrepreneurs in the country under 30.

It's Never Too Late to Become a Millionaire

I want to reveal something about myself that I hope will inspire you in your life. The truth is that the first time I earned a check for $1,000,000 was when I was 51 years old. It's never too late to become a millionaire.

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In fact, if you consider that I graduated from Harvard University when I was 21, it took me an utter 30 years to amass the knowledge, the connections, and the experience required to generate that much money.

Slow and steady won the game. How about you? What can you do in your life to develop the millionaire mindset? And I want you to realize today with everything that's available on the internet, you don't have to wait 30 years to become a millionaire.

4 Things You Need to do to Become a Millionaire

1. Develop a Millionaire Mindset

First, you must have the belief that you can easily become a millionaire.

Belief comes from making a choice. All beliefs are thoughts. They're thoughts you think over and over and over until you don't even realize it's a conscious thought anymore, it just seems like it's reality. But you have the ability to change your beliefs.

To develop your belief, practice daily affirmations like:

"I am so happy and grateful that I'm now earning $1,000,000 a year."

"I'm so happy and grateful that I am looking at my net worth and my stock account and it shows $2,000,000 or $20,000,000." (Or whatever it is.)

"I'm so happy and grateful that I'm living a millionaire lifestyle."

If you do the affirmation over and over, it becomes the new belief that becomes your reality and then everything in your unconscious mind and subconscious mind will start to organize itself to actually help you create it.

2. Know Your Purpose Behind Becoming a Millionaire

The second thing is you must decide what being a millionaire means to you. These things that will keep you focused. Is it security? Is it freedom? Power? Prestige? The ability to travel anywhere you want in the world? Philanthropy? The ability to make a difference in the lives of others? Have the money to invest? Is it the ownership of a house, two houses, or a vacation home?

Whatever that experience is for you, make sure that you write it down and get very clear what's the why behind being a millionaire.

For me, becoming a millionaire wasn't about the big house and the big car. Now I have those things, but the real purpose for me was about having the freedom to pursue my visions and to live my life purposefully.

  • To have the resources.
  • To be able to hire staff.
  • To have the electronic, video, and sound equipment at seminars.
  • To be able to rent rooms, do PR, and pay for advertising.
  • To be able to support my coaches.

All those things that I wanted to do had to do with the vision of changing the world. I wanted to inspire and empower people to live their highest vision, so if everyone did, everything in the world would work.

Make sure you get really clear about what is your purpose behind becoming a millionaire. Because that's going to drive it more than the actual million dollars.

It's the feeling that you want to achieve and the impact that you want to have that is much more important.

I suggest that you create a vision board of what you want and the pictures that would represent the lifestyle and experiences you expect to have when you're a millionaire.

vision board is simple, it could be on your door, your mirror, or your refrigerator door. It could be on paper, construction paper, or wherever you want to put it. It's simply a place where you staple, glue, tape, or however words like abundance, prosperity, freedom, travel, unlimited potential, and images.

Be sure to include images of the vacations, the things you want to own, you on a stage, your children graduating, or whatever it might be that you think having a million dollar lifestyle would give you.

3. Transform Your Financial Comfort Zone

We all have a financial set point just like the thermostat in your house.

When we get to a certain level of earnings, our thermostat turns off the furnace, just like it turns off the furnace in your house when it reaches 68 or 70 degrees.

And for some people making $75,000 a year is their comfort zone. They'll never make more than that unless they reset their thermostat. You have to reset it.

I'll share a story with you about how this financial set point works...

40 years ago I got a new job working at a training company in Los Angeles and the owner of that training company said he was going to go buy some shirts if I'd like to come along with him.

We went to a store called Allandale's in Westlake, California and the cheapest shirt in that store was around $100. The owner was buying shirts for like $150.

I had never bought a shirt for more than $38 from a place like Nordstrom's. This was way out of my comfort zone to spend that much money on a shirt.

I wanted him to think that I was successful so I bought one shirt that cost me $148. I'll never forget this. I took that shirt home and I wore it and I sent it to the cleaners.

When it came back, I noticed that it was always the first shirt I would reach for. It was a better quality shirt, it was designed better, it looked better, and it felt better.

Pretty soon my comfort zone changed from $38 shirts to $150 shirts and those are the only shirts I buy now and I've bought ever since. The act of moving into a new place shifted my entire sense of myself and made me uncomfortable wearing the lesser quality shirt.

Comfort zones are very powerful and you can change your comfort zone by visualizing, affirming, and taking actions in that new comfort zone that become a habit.

4. Decide Exactly What You Want in Life

Finally, you're going to need to decide how much money you want to have in your life. The exact annual salary, the exact net profit from your business, your total net worth, your portfolio of investments, investment income, and how much you want to have when you retire.

You have to believe it's possible to attain that. Come up with a specific number.

To stay focused on this number I want to teach you about a powerful tool which I've mentioned called affirmations. Affirmations are simply statements you repeat over and over and over affirming your new reality.

I like to use the very simple little formula, “I'm so happy and grateful that I now…

For example, "I'm so happy and grateful that I now am looking at my bank statement of $1,000,000 a year."

Once you've created your affirmation, based on your goal and the numbers that you came up with, spend at least two to three minutes in the morning and two to three minutes at night repeating your affirmation every day. If you have three or four affirmations that's great, go through them one at a time. Close your eyes and visualize having that reality.

To help yourself develop a millionaire mindset and shift your comfort zone I want you to write several affirmations that are expressing your eventual income and lifestyle.

 “I'm so happy and grateful that I now have a $200,000 a year income or $500,000 a year income or $1,000,000 income.”

“I'm so happy and grateful that I now spend my days traveling the world, solving problems to impact investing.”

“I'm so happy and grateful that I fully funded our kid's college education expenses and have secured it in a 529 plan.”

Take a few minutes twice a day when you first wake up and right before you go to bed and repeat each affirmation. Close your eyes and see it clearly.

As long as you're intending it, even if it's vague, it works.

Make sure you visualize it as if it's already come true and then feel the feelings you would feel. Fill in all the details of where you'd be, who else is there, what's being said and as I said, most important, create the experience of the emotions you'd be feeling if you'd already achieved it. Just like an actor.

Would it be joy, gratitude, happiness, pride, feeling powerful, or generous? Whatever you think you would feel, create that feeling in your body.

Use these financial goals as your destination. Your financial goal is one of your important destinations, the affirmation and the visualization is the car you're going to drive to get there, and the emotional feeling is the fuel that's going to propel that car. Research seems to show now that the emotions are the most critical part of this process.

Take Action

Here is your millionaire mindset homework to complete after reading this blog. Pull out your checkbook and write a check payable to yourself for the amount of money that you want to make in the next year. Sign and date the check, and place it somewhere where you're going to see it every day.

Use it as a daily reminder of where you want to be, the work you want to do, and whatever is necessary to reach that goal. Put it on your mirror, your refrigerator, or under the glass on your desk at work. You could even photograph it and make it a screensaver on your computer.

Leave a comment below and share one thing you're going to do to ensure you reach your financial goal that you set for yourself within the next year.

If you want to learn more about creating a vision board and creating affirmations that will change your life, click the banner below to get my free success tool, 21 Ways to Make Your Vision Board More Powerful.

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Here's How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone & Achieve Success

What keeps people stuck in their comfort zone. How do you take the leap and step out of your comfort zone?

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Most people want certain things in life, - a nice home, a comfortable bank account, loving relationships, or a rewarding career. They wish that life was better, or that they had more, or that things somehow were different.

They might even know the steps they need to take to get there – but what stops them? It’s the negative images you have about yourself or the effects of toxic experiences that you haven’t processed yet.

Perhaps this describes you... You stay in a comfort zone of your own making. You maintain flawed beliefs about yourself or you hold onto guilt and self-doubt.

When you try to achieve life goals, these negative images and pre-programmed comfort zones always cancel out your good intentions — no matter how hard you try.

So what if, instead of using willpower as the engine to power your success, you simply let go of your limiting beliefs and change the images you hold about yourself. As long as you keep complaining about your present circumstances, your mind will focus on it.

By continually talking about, thinking about, and writing about the way things are, you are continually reinforcing those very same brain pathways that got you to where you are today.

To change this cycle, focus instead on thinking, talking and writing about the reality you want to create. You must flood your unconscious with thoughts and images of this new reality.

Learn how to discover your full potential, dream bigger than you ever have before, and finally achieve your most important goals with these principles.

Learn more about Breakthrough to Success Online Here

How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Using Affirmations

One way to do this – one way to stretch your comfort zone – is to bombard your subconscious mind with new images—of a big bank account, a trim healthy body, exciting work, interesting friends and memorable experiences.

The technique we use to do this is affirmations.

Affirmations are simple positive statements declaring specific goals in their completed states. Although they sound rather basic at that level, these empowering mantras have profound effects on the conscious and unconscious mind.

Affirmations are reminders to your unconscious mind to stay focused on your goals and to come up with solutions to challenges and obstacles that might get in the way.

They can also create higher vibrations of happiness, joy, appreciation, and gratitude that then, through the law of attraction, magnetize people, resources, and opportunities to come to you to help you achieve your goals.

Just Lean Into It

Another way to move beyond your comfort zone is to lean into that goal that you want to accomplish.

Not only is this a way to get over your fears and test the waters, but surprising success often happens when you lean into a new activity—when you make yourself open to opportunities and are willing to do what it takes to pursue it further—without a contract, without a promise of success, without any expectation whatsoever.  

You just start.

You lean into it.

You see what it feels like.

And you find out if you want to keep going—instead of sitting on the sidelines deliberating, reflecting and contemplating.

Of course, one of the most extraordinary benefits of just leaning into it is that you begin creating momentum—that unseen energy force that brings more opportunity, more resources and more people who can help you at seemingly just the right time for you to benefit the most from them.

Just getting into action on your biggest goals is the most important thing you can do.

When I hold my popular Breakthrough to Success live training, one of the exercises I do is to have attendees identify the one thing that’s keeping them from their biggest goal – whether it’s information they need, someone they need to call, an incomplete they need to clean up first, an old habit or nagging health concern that’s in the way.

Then, I ask them to leave the room for 20 minutes and immediately handle that matter.

Take Action

Write down 3 things that scare you and commit to doing at least one of them today. Make that phone call, send that email, commit, sign up – get started in whatever way you can.

Do the thing you must do to get out of your comfort zone. Tomorrow do the next thing on your list, and the day after…the next.

Breakthrough to YOUR Success

You’ve got big dreams and ambitions. Now, it’s time to start acting on them while taking your life to a whole new level.

I invite you to let me be your guide, just like I have been for millions of people around the world for the last 40 years.

I continually ask them the same exact questions I’m about to ask you:

  • Are you where you want to be?
  • Have you accomplished all you thought you would by now?
  • Are you enjoying the lifestyle, travel, weekends and leisure pursuits you’ve always dreamed of?
  • Do you want a more fulfilling career or business?
  • Could your relationships be deeper, more rewarding, and more meaningful?

If not, I’d like to challenge you to up-level every single aspect of your life, career, and lifestyle, STARTING NOW.

I'd like to introduce my brand-new masterclass Breakthrough to Success Online.

In it you'll have access to hours of content allowing you to tap into my proven system to align your goals with your life’s purpose so you can attain unimagined levels of happiness. The best part is, you can do it all from the comfort of your own home. I decided to create this course because I believe with the right tools, you can step out of your comfort zone, and discover your greatest life purpose.

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How to Become a Professional Speaker & Trainer

Learning how to become a professional speaker and trainer holds the power to transform the lives of many people. By building my speaking business and eventually offering books, packaged courses, and live training programs, it has skyrocketed my career over the past 40 years. More importantly, the satisfaction I get from sharing my Success Principles and transformational exercises is unmatched by anything else I do.

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First let me tell you about the best speech I've ever seen...

The best speech I’ve ever seen was given by the brilliant economist Paul Zane Pilzer at a large chiropractic event in Las Vegas.  

Before an audience of nearly 10,000 people, Paul delivered his message, The Next Trillion, about the onset of the wellness revolution, how statistics and pure economic trends prove it will happen, and why chiropractors are so well positioned to enjoy the benefits of this next trillion-dollar trend in society.

He weaved a fascinating mix of his own experience in working with consumer product companies, information he had researched on the medical and alternative healthcare communities, economic facts and figures that are readily available in print, and his own inspirational stories about the subject. It’s no wonder Paul received a thunderous standing ovation.

It changed the thinking of the chiropractors in the room about how they could excel in their practice as “wellness” began trending in their local market.

I was energized, motivated and excited about the future—and I’m not even a chiropractor.

Learn How to Become a Professional Speaker in 3 Steps

Whether it's a group of teachers and educators, businesspeople, or even cabinet ministers that I’m speaking to, I’ve got to see their breakthroughs in real time and hear about their later successes through the many emails and letters. It’s a great feeling, but it has also built a great career.

Perhaps you, too, have thought about how to become a professional speaker or a motivational speaker in the human-potential arena helping to transform the lives of others. If so, I’ve got some pointers for you based on my work with all kinds of groups – in more than 100 countries!

1. Know Why Your Principles Are Unique

First, content is key. There’s so much information and noise out there, people can get advice almost anywhere.

But, when your content – the principles and insights that you teach – changes people’s thinking and gives them a whole new way of approaching their lives, careers, and relationships, that’s the kind of content that gets internalized and used by your audiences.

It’s not just feel-good stories and great entertainment from the platform – but real transformation taking place.

That’s why content is key: You have to prove you can deliver this result before anyone will hire you to speak in front of their group.

2. Prepare to Market Yourself

Second, you need a way to market yourself as a speaker.

There’s a reason that some people quickly become recognized as the leading expert in their field with all the fame, fortune, and opportunity that goes with it – while others in the same industry struggle to get by.

There’s a reason that some speakers build a great speaking career, but also go on to get book deals, licensing deals, distribution deals, speaking tours, spokesperson contracts – while others wait years to get hired as a speaker or find a publisher for their book.

That reason is marketing.

You have to identify what you know that’s marketable – then identify which meeting planners and groups need that knowledge and are willing to pay you for presenting it at their next event.

3. Take Action Now

Third, if becoming a professional speaker is what you truly want, why wait another second to take action?

You too can have a future as an industry professional, a platform star, and the world’s next motivational speaker.

I’d like you to watch my in depth webcast called the 7 Pillars of True Life Transformation. It explains the process of becoming a speaker and transforming audiences around the world – as so many emerging speakers have done whom I’ve helped launch over the past five years.

In this webcast, I’ll teach you how to quickly remove blocks, fears, and uncertainty in yourself and others. With my proven methodology, I will also guide you on how to make a living as a trainer and how to transform others through training.

If this is you dream, ask yourself: How can I empower others? And what principles can I share with the world? Click the button below to learn more.

Why Writing a Book Was The Wisest Thing I Ever Did & Why You Should Write Your Own

Do you have a message to share with the world? Is there something you want to change or something you want to do to make a difference in the world? Do you want to elevate and expand your business, or build your brand, your credibility and your authority in your industry? Well there’s one thing that can satisfy all of these things. Have you ever thought about learning how to write a book?

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I want to share with you why writing a book was the wisest things I ever did. Many people don’t realize all of the benefits that writing a book can have. Not only did it help me share a message; it catapulted my professional career to whole new levels.

My First Book...

The first book I wrote when I was in my thirties was 100 Ways to Enhance Self-Concept in the Classroom. It made me an expert in the field of building self-esteem in the schools. As a result I was asked to speak at state and national conferences all over the United States and Canada. I got to travel, work with dedicated professionals who wanted to improve education, and earned a much higher income than I would have made as a classroom teacher or a therapist in private practice.

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When I wrote and compiled Chicken Soup for the Soul, it totally changed my life. In less than three years, I went from making $140,000 a year to $6 million a year.

My speaking fees went through the roof, and I was treated to first class travel and accommodations. When the book started being translated into what would become more than 50 languages, I was invited to speak all over the world in some of the most beautiful and exotic destinations you can imagine, and sometimes to audiences as large as 10,000 people.

I was also interviewed on every major television show from Oprah and Montel to the Today Show and Larry King Live.

But most importantly, the satisfaction that came from the impact I was having also increased.

There were days when I would receive 100 letters telling me how the book (and later all the Chicken Soup books) had made a difference in their lives—everything from people who decided not to commit suicide to people saying how the books had got them through their cancer or encouraged them to start a business they had always dreamed of.

How to Get Started and How to Make Writing a Book a Success

1. Declare yourself an author NOW

Come up with a working title for your book and start telling people you’re the author of the “upcoming book titled XYZ.” One big reason to do this is it will create positive momentum for you. Once you start telling people you’ve got a book coming out, it makes it much easier to get it done. Plus, you can start enjoying some of the ancillary benefits of being an author, such as getting publicity on radio/TV, print publications and online. As with many things in life the key is to just get started – even if you don’t feel quite ready.

2. Be selfish with your time 

Writing a book is important – to you, your family and your future – and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Share your goal with your spouse, your parents and your friends. Ask them to help you create the time to write, even if it’s just 15 minutes every day. Create the habit. Good or bad, habits always deliver results. If you only write one page a day, in a year, you will have written 365 pages—more than enough for a book!

3. Find your message 

There is a book inside of you. It might be a business book, a memoir, a cookbook or something funny, a how-to or how-not to, a what-for or why-not. What are you good at? What is your passion? What can you teach other people to do?

4. Identify your niche

Who needs to learn what you have to teach? Who would be most interested in your story? Get specific. For example, the Chicken Soup series includes Chicken Soup for the Christian Woman's Soul, Chicken Soup for the Military Wife’s Soul, Chicken Soup for the Working Woman’s Soul and others. Knowing your niche will help you write the book and market it.

5. Consider co-authors 

Think a whole book is too much work? Get a co-author. I had co-authors on my Chicken Soup books. That person can share in the writing and, later, in marketing the book.

6. Think marketing from day one

One of the biggest mistakes most new authors make is to spend all their time and energy writing the book, without sufficient thought to how they’ll market it. Ideally, you want to consider marketing issues while writing your book. For instance, consider short snappy chapter titles which easily lend themselves to being blog posts and/or radio/TV show segments.

7. Meditate on problems

This might sound counter-intuitive. When you meditate, you try to relax, right? Well, not really. Meditating is harnessing your brain power and if you focus that energy on the problems you encounter – and every creative venture encounters problems – you’ll solve them. Meditate, go for a long walk or take a hot bath. Give your mind a problem to solve and give it the room to do so, and it will. That’s how I came up with the title Chicken Soup for the Soul.

Take Action

If you have an idea or valuable information and expertise inside you, or if have a business that you want to promote or expand, you can definitely benefit from writing a book. I want you to think about your business. Think about your career. How could a book help you?

Writing a book was the launching point for me to start training others my Success Principles. Often when you write a book and are an expert in your field, people will ask for you expertise and training so they can be successful. I'd like to show you my approach to training others and how becoming a trainer my be the career path you've been looking for.

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The Importance of Mindset, Meditation & Mastermind

I attribute much of my success to the importance of mindset, meditation, and masterminding. They have contributed much to my life and you too can enjoy their benefits as well with a little effort.

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Changing your mindset and the way you think about the world around you will open you up to new possibilities happening all around you. Meditation will help increase your self-confidence and expand your awareness among many other things. Masterminding will help hold you accountable for your own personal growth and development.

1. Mindset: The Importance of Mindset

Study after study has shown that the mind is an extremely powerful instrument. Things most people thought was impossible were later achieved by scientists, athletes, businesspeople and everyday individuals, simply because they believed they could and they persevered.

You may have heard the famous quote from Napoleon Hill – author of the classic personal development book, Think and Grow Rich – who said:

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

That belief, by the way is a choice. It’s simply a thought you decide to think over and over again until it becomes automatic.

Scientists know that our belief about whether something is possible is a byproduct of our life experience. Through a lifetime’s worth of events, our brain actually learns what to expect next. Since our brain expects things to happen a certain way, we often achieve exactly what we expect.

This is why it’s so important to have a believing mindset. Believe it’s possible to achieve something in your life and things will often turn out exactly as you believe they will.

Of course, there’s a negative aspect of belief. Believe that failure or disaster will befall you – and guess what… it usually will.

Positive AND negative outcomes are why it’s so important to hold positive expectations in your mind.

When you replace your negative expectations with positive ones and begin to believe that what you want is possible, your brain will take over the job of accomplishing it for you.

2. Meditation: A Powerful Success Tool

Today, I am going to be a participant in a 5-day meditation retreat in Santa Barbara.

I always like to take a couple of weeks a year to spend in stillness and silence. It helps me to relax, de-stress, go deeper into my essential self and open myself to the inner guidance that I receive during these times. Once I catch up on my sleep after the first two days and enter into a deep state of peace, the insights, ahas, and breakthrough ideas that come to me are usually very profound and useful in my daily life and work.

The title for Chicken Soup for the Soul®, which has become a brand worth hundreds of millions of dollars, came to me after three days of meditation.

The idea for creating the Chicken Soup for the Women’s Soul book came to Marci Shimoff, who became the coauthor for that book, came to her during a silent meditation retreat. That book was the catalyst for all of the other more than two hundred targeted Chicken Soup books that followed.

Another reason I attend meditation retreats regularly is that I drop into a deep space of unconditional love for myself, my wife, the fellow participants at the retreat, and for people outside the retreat—my family, friends, staff, students and humanity in general. Living in this state of unconditional love and acceptance is one of the most fulfilling experiences life has to offer.

While I am of meditating for the next week, I encourage all of you to add meditation to your daily practices, even if for only 20 minutes a day. I promise you both the internal and external rewards will be worth it. 

You can learn more about how to meditate from my meditation guide. It's a downloadable PDF that teaches you an easy meditation that you can do at home.

Guided Meditations and Visualizations

When I lead meditations at my training events, I use a process called guided meditation. I help my attendees meditate in a deeply relaxed state. They visualize the images, scenery and emotions they’ll experience once they’ve achieved the lifestyle they dream about.

Meditation and visualization has been repeatedly proven to :

  • Enhance self-esteem
  • Expand awareness
  • Increase memory
  • Facilitate optimal performance
  • Evoke a more positive attitude
  • Accelerate the learning of difficult subject matter.

Here is a video that walks you through a 4-part guided meditation for beginners.

In one of the most well-known studies on creative visualization in sports Ohio State University divided 15 basketball players into three groups of five players each. They tested each student to establish their average free-throw percentage. They asked:

  • Group 1 to practice shooting free-throws everyday for 30 minutes.
  • Group 2 to not touch a basketball for 30 days.
  • Group 3 to not touch a basketball for 30 days, but instead visualize shooting free-throws and to see each shot going into the basket perfectly.

At the end of the study they had the players shoot free-throws and compare their results.

  • Group 1, which had practiced 30 minutes a day, showed a 24% improvement.

  • Group 2, which had not touched a basketball for 30 days, showed no improvement which is not surprising.
  • But Group 3, which had only visualized shooting perfect free-throws, showed a 23% improvement without any practice.

The body literally cannot tell the difference between a real event and a vividly imagined event.

The point is that you can literally build skills, improve performance and actually program yourself to do the things necessary, see the opportunities available, and create the ideas necessary to achieve the goals you want.

3. Mastermind: The Power of a Mastermind Group

And the final success strategy is one of the most powerful tools ever used by successful people. Whether it's the world’s richest people from the early 20th Century or today’s modern icons of business. It’s called the mastermind group.

Napoleon Hill first talked about mastermind groups in his book Think and Grow Rich. It’s the one concept people most reference when they credit any one thing with helping them become a millionaire.

Andrew Carnegie had a mastermind group. So did Henry Ford. Ford would mastermind with brilliant thinkers like Thomas Edison, Harvey Firestone and others in a group they held at their winter mansions in Coral Gables, Florida.

Mastermind Groups Focus a Special Energy

They knew, as millions of others have discovered since, that a mastermind group can focus special energy on your effort, in the form of knowledge, resources and spiritual energy, too. While you must always do the work of becoming a great success, a mastermind group can harness and maximize the spiritual focus behind your success.

It’s this spiritual aspect that Napoleon Hill wrote about extensively. In fact, he said that if we are in tune with the mastermind—that is, God, the Universal Power or whatever term you use for the all-powerful life force, we have significantly more positive energy available to us. We can focus this power on our success.

In short, “mastermind” is both that power coming to us from above—from the God force—but also that power which comes to us from each other. Together, we know more and can focus more energy than any one of us can alone.

Assemble Your Own Mastermind

To assemble a mastermind group, choose people who are already where you’d like to be in your life, or who are at least one level above you.

If your goal is to become a millionaire, you won’t get much help if everyone in your mastermind group is making only $60,000 a year.

Of course, you might ask, “Why would anyone want to be in a mastermind group with me if I’m only making $60,000 a year?

The answer is that you’re the one putting the group together. You’re the one providing the arena. You're organizing, supporting and building a forum for other people’s growth.

The truth is many people at a higher level will want to become involved simply because they then get to play at a game they might never organize for themselves.

The other people you’re going to invite are people they would like to be around, too. So make a list of ideal candidates and start asking.

If your goals center on a specific subject like starting a new business or investing money, you might start a mastermind group centered on entrepreneurship or investments.

You can always launch a general mastermind group plus a second mastermind group centered on a certain topic area where you invite people from the same field.

The ideal size of a mastermind group is 5-6 people. If it is too much smaller, it loses its dynamics. If it's bigger, it becomes unwieldy, meetings take longer, some needs go unmet and personal sharing is minimized.

Take Action and Start a Mastermind

Is starting or joining a mastermind group something you’d like to try?

Think about 5-6 people that you know who may want to start a mastermind with you. Think of people who are already where you want to be in your life. Ask them about joining. Leave a comment below of which one of these 3Ms had the greatest impact on your life, and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

I’ve got a free download to help you get started in forming your own mastermind group, conducting the meetings and planning the best outcome for yourself from the masterminding process. It’s a comprehensive guide for inviting others to join the group, plus an agenda and tutorial on exactly how to conduct the meetings so everyone benefits.

Soon, you too could be assembled with people who are at the top of their game and who are eager to help you improve, too.

How to Coach Others to Success Through Personal Coaching & Training [Exercise]

Learning how to become a coach will help you become a powerful force to leave a positive impact on the world. If you lead a team of people or need to walk a co-worker, student, or friend through a rough patch in their life, having the ability to coach others to success is a useful skill.

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One of my goals is to train 1,000,000 people to teach my Success Principles to groups around the world.

Whether you're a teacher, manager, business owner, minister, local baseball coach, or someone who wants to hold a lunch-and-learn at the office, YOU can learn to coach others.

I've assembled strategies and developed them into exercises anyone can use in training groups. I teach these techniques all over the world and use them myself.

Learn How to Become a Coach and Help Others to Success

One of the most powerful exercises that I teach my coaches is the "Difficult and Troubling Situation". You can use it as well to help others in nearly any setting.

It's a series of questions designed to get someone unstuck and into action. It solves their problem by removing the roadblock that's keeping them from producing the results they want.

This exercise can either be used one on one with someone or in a workshop with a large group.

This exercise will help you as a coach identify someone's problem, and help them solve it. The key is to ask these questions in the correct order without engaging in any discussion or commenting. Your role as the coach is to to ask the questions and let the questions do the work.

Sounds pretty simple, right?

At the end of this, you’ll be able to identify roadblocks that a person has and provide solutions for success. Let’s go over the questions.

The Difficult & Troubling Situation Coaching Exercise

1. What is a difficult or troubling situation in your life?

Ask the person you’re coaching to think about a place in their life where they feel stuck. Where do they feel that they're not getting what they want, are irritated, or feel like they're not happy.

Perhaps they're upset that their child is not doing what they need to do. Maybe their marriage isn't working out, or there's something going on in their business. Whatever the problem is, the first thing is to identify it.

2. How are you allowing it to happen?

The second question is: How are you creating it or allowing it to happen?

The person who you're coaching to success must realize that everything you experience YOU create. You create the life you want. You're responsible for everything that you've allowed it to continue. 

3. What are you pretending not to know?

In every situation where we're not taking action, we almost always know how to fix it. We know what to do but we're pretending not to see it.

Let me give you an example...

In a recent workshop, I coached someone whose apartment gets robbed frequently. They live on the first floor of their apartment building in New York.

I asked them, "Do you have bars on the windows?"

They said, "No."

"Do you have triple locks on the doors?"

"No."

I asked, "What are you pretending not to know?"

He said, "I don't know."

I told him the answer is you're pretending not to know that you live in New York. In New York, you need those kind of safety measures to keep from getting robbed.

There's usually something we're pretending not to know. We pretend because it's inconvenient. It's uncomfortable to notice a problem, because then we'd have to do something about.

Ask the person what they're pretending not to know, and get your answer.

4. What is the payoff for keeping it like it is?

No person maintains a situation without some kind of payoff.

When you were going to school as a kid, if you got sick there was a payoff.

The payoff was that you didn't have to go to school. You got to stay home. You got to watch TV all day. You got the attention of your parents and other things.

Whatever the problem is, there are payoffs for keeping things the way they are.

The payoff might be to avoid conflict, it might be comfort, or it might be not having to confront somebody.

Identify what it blocking the person from change.

5. What is the cost for not changing it?

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Often the cost will be, your freedom, income, happiness, joy, or not being overwhelmed.

You may be sacrificing a lot by holding onto this troubling situation.

6. What would you rather be experiencing?

I'd rather be experiencing freedom. I'd rather be experiencing having more free time. I'd rather experience more success. I'd rather experience feeling stress free at the office.

Whatever it might be, have the other person think about all the great things that can come from solving the problem.

7. What actions will you take and what requests will you make to get it?

This involves action. How will you get there? Do you need to do or ask for something? Do you need to set a boundary? What do you need to do to get what you want.

This is the most important question. It requires a person to get out of their comfort zone and do the things necessary to create what they want.

When they answer that, make sure you write it down.

8. By when will you take that action?

You want them to commit to a time by when they will take that action. If possible, you can be their accountability partner.

If they say, “I'll take it by 5 o'clock on Friday, May 15th.”

You say, "Great. Would you be willing to send me an email or call me and let me know you did that?"

So now they know that someone is waiting to make sure they took the action.

This is a powerful tool to coach others to success. I've used this in all my groups, all my coaching programs, all my mastermind groups and when I teach others how to become a coach.

People often tell me that this exercise changes lives.

Make sure to ask the questions listed in the order they appear.

Don't engage in a lot of discussion, your role is to simply to ask the questions. Make sure you maintain eye contact throughout the exercise.

Identify a person who you think you could help by using this strategy. Reach out to them and offer to take them through these questions.

You never know how impactful it could be for the other person.

And if you want, turn the tables. Have them take you through it as well.

You'll get a lot of value by doing it both ways and it creates a feeling of equality between you and the other person.

It shows you're not above them or below them, but that you're equal partners.

Try this with your friends, family, and coworkers - it is a really powerful technique.

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