How to Become a Leader Worth Following

Learning how to become a leader is essential to your success. Whether you own a business, teach school, manage a small group, coach an athletic team, or are working to advance a worthwhile cause, you need to enroll others in order to achieve the success you want.

This not only requires you to hold a vision of what success is, it also requires you to practice coaching and training skills that will inspire others to want to help you reach that goal.

Because our success often requires the help of others, successful people, not surprisingly, are also successful leaders.

How to Become a Leader

Leaders know how to communicate their vision in exciting and compelling terms. They’ve mastered the skill of motivating others to jump on board with full commitment. They recognize the potential in their people, coach their team members to go above and beyond, and routinely acknowledge others’ positive contribution.

And while great leaders must demand accountability from the people they lead, they also hold themselves accountable for their contribution to the result.

So let’s take a look at some of the basics of how to become a leader or coach whom people will want to work with and follow.

1) Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses

One of the most distinguishing qualities of a great leader is their dedication to understanding themselves.

When you have a clear sense of who you are, your strengths and weaknesses, and know the impact your behavior has on others, your ability to lead others will improve. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses gives you the ability to discern when your skills will add value or not and keeps you open to delegating and listening to people with other points of view.

2) Hold Yourself Accountable

Essential to your success in leading others is a commitment to taking 100% responsibility for your own actions and results. When you consistently follow through on your own commitments, you begin to build others’ trust in your leadership. To be trusted, you must be reliable, punctual—and a person who keeps your agreements.

Do you arrive at meetings on time?

Do you deliver your part of projects completed and on deadline?

Do you abide by promises made to your team members and others?

These are the hallmarks of a leader who is responsible and consistent—versus one who is perpetually late, unprepared, emotional or continually led astray by the latest fad.

Of course, no one is perfect—including leaders. But while perfection might be desirable, consistency will be far more impactful because it builds integrity and reliability with your team. It makes you a trustworthy leader.

3) Inspire Your Team With a Clear Vision

To inspire others to work tirelessly to help accomplish your goal, you must first have a clear and compelling vision of the future.

What will you and your team ultimately achieve? By when?

What will everyone gain when the goal is reached?

Is it honorable, beneficial, ethical, and uplifting?

What’s so compelling about it?

What else will also be achieved as your team is striving for this major goal?

To get other people’s buy-in, you’ll also need to articulate who your team will become as they learn and grow on the path to achieving your vision. Your team must be able to see themselves in the future as better, smarter, stronger, more valued, and more confident.

Defining that outcome plus other benefits people will experience—is an important part of your clear and compelling vision.

4) Listen for Possibility

Once people are enrolled in the vision, a great leader will listen to his team not only to hear their thoughts and input but also to make sure they feel heard.

People want to know they make a difference and that their insights and opinions matter. When you develop your listening skills, you’ll be more present in the moment, you’ll be curious to hear other options, you’ll be able to truly hear what emerges from a discussion, and you’ll be open to a true dialogue with your team instead of simply delivering orders or explaining the game plan.

This requires a willingness to be transformed by what you hear. But more important, it requires you to shift your focus from listening for “the right way or the wrong way” to listening for what is possible. I call this “listening for possibility.”

5) Coach Others to Take on a Leadership Role

Growing a team of your own top-notch leaders simply makes your life easier. And the most useful skill for growing other leaders is coaching.

Through deep listening and skillful questioning, you can help others discover their own solutions to problems and opportunities. Instead of being the only person figuring out what to do next, when you use coaching to help others develop their own solutions, you are also helping them develop their own problem-solving skills.

To any leader who has been bombarded with the simplest and most mundane problems to solve, this idea of empowering your people with their own leadership skills will be a relief. So how can you coach your people to become leaders in their own right? Start by asking your people to correctly define the problem.

This gets them fully engaged in the process and helps them “take ownership” of the problem as one that they need to solve.

Studies show that once a problem or challenge is theirs, it will be solved more efficiently and stay solved longer if you allow your team to create the solution. You provide direction only when they have reached the limits of their experience or training. Give people the tools and information they need to solve problems—then let them stretch.

I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete after you’re done watching this video.

Ask yourself: How can you apply these tips to your current situation to make yourself a better coach or leader? How can you use these tips to help empower others?

Leave a comment below and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

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Daily Affirmations for Positive Thinking

Daily affirmations are simple, positive statements declaring specific goals in their completed states. Although they sound rather basic at that level, these empowering mantras have profound effects on the conscious and unconscious mind.

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Affirmations also hold a key to unlocking the Law of Attraction and creating the life of your dreams!

Successful people, from top salespeople and entrepreneurs to bestselling authors and Olympic athletes, have figured out that using willpower to power their success isn’t enough.

You need to let go of any and all negative thoughts and images and bombard your subconscious mind with new thoughts and images that are positive and stated in the present tense.

How do you do this?

The technique you use to do this begins with daily affirmations, which are simply statements that describe a goal in its already completed state.

Two examples of affirmations would be:

I am joyfully walking across the stage as I receive my MBA degree from Wharton.

I am so happy and grateful that I am now crossing the finish line of the Boston Marathon.

In addition to all of the feedback I have received from hundreds of thousands of students from around the world about the effectiveness of their daily affirmations, there’s now new academic research that shows in high-stress level environments those who do use them have lower stress levels and more success than those who don’t.

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What are Daily Affirmations?

Daily affirmations are to the mind what exercise is to the body.

Repeating affirmations helps to reprogram the unconscious mind for success.

It helps eliminate negative and limiting beliefs and transforms your comfort zone from a limited one keeping you trapped in mediocrity to a more expanded one where anything is possible. It helps to replace your “I cant’s” with “I cans,” and your fears and doubts with confidence and certainty.

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How Affirming Phrases Can Keep You Focused

Affirmations are reminders to your unconscious mind to stay focused on your goals and to come up with solutions to challenges and obstacles that might get in the way.

They can also create higher vibrations for happiness, joy, appreciation, and gratitude that then, through the law of attraction, magnetize people, resources, and opportunities to come to you to help you achieve your goals.

Whether you know it or not, you are always using affirmations… but usually not ones that will bring you what you want.

These are things like:

  • “Everything I eat goes straight to my hips.”
  • “I am never going to meet somebody I can love.”
  • “I never catch a break.”
  • “No matter what I do, I never seem to get ahead.”  

How to Create Positive Affirmations

The daily use of positive affirmations interrupts and eventually totally replaces this barrage of negative thoughts and beliefs. To achieve this, you must continually flood your subconscious with thoughts and images of the new reality you wish to create.

I am going to share with you two sets of guidelines for creating powerful daily affirmations that work—the long form and the short form.

Here are the eight guidelines for creating effective affirming statements. You may want to write these down.  They are also in my book The Success Principles.

  1. Start with the words “I am.” These are the two most powerful words in the English language.
  2. Use the present tense.
  3. State it in the positive. Affirm what you want, not what you don’t want.
  4. Keep it brief.
  5. Make it specific.
  6. Include an action word ending with –ing.
  7. Include at least one dynamic emotion or feeling word.
  8. Make affirmations for yourself, not others.

Examples of Daily Affirmations

Here’s an example of an affirmation following these guidelines:

I am joyfully driving my new red Porsche Carrera convertible down the Pacific Coast Highway in Malibu.

Or if you are more ecologically minded, you can make that a new Tesla.

You can use the following simple formula: I am so happy and grateful that I am now … and then fill in the blank.

Some examples would be:

I am so happy and grateful that I am now earning $150,000 a year.

I am so happy and grateful that I am now celebrating having achieved my ideal weight of 140 pounds.

One of my most famous affirmations is:

I am enjoying living in my beautiful beachfront villa on the Ka’anapali coast of Maui or somewhere better.

I started writing that affirmation in 1989 and in 2011 – that’s right, 22 years later, I had something better!

Make sure to take 5 to 10 minutes every day to repeat your affirmations – preferably out loud with high energy and enthusiasm.  The best times are early morning and right before you go to bed.

Action Item: Create New Positive Statements for Yourself

Write down 3 affirmations for yourself that affirm you having already achieved 3 of your goals and dreams.

Then, write down the time of day that you will commit to practicing your affirmations. Is it when you wake up in the morning? Before you go to sleep?

Mid-day when you need a pick-me-up?

Or maybe after your daily meditation when your subconscious mind is primed?

And to hold yourself accountable, go ahead and leave a comment below with your chosen time of day. I’ll follow up with you to make sure you’re staying on track!

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Discover how you can use affirmations to re-create your self-image, replace your limiting beliefs, and achieve success.

In this guide, I will teach you about the importance of daily affirmations, why they’re critical to your success, and how to implement them in your life for rapid and positive changes. Click the graphic below to get this free daily affirmations guide pdf.

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How to Turn Limp Affirmations Into Mantras for Success!

Actually, the true art of the affirmation is both subtle and profound. Despite the popularity of this technique, some people use affirmations that are bland and perhaps even self-defeating.

When creating your affirmation, remember that even minor variations in wording can make a huge difference in the results you get. Since your words literally have the power to create your circumstances, invest a few minutes now to take your affirmation skills to a higher level.

Consider the following statement:

I will quit smoking with ease and joy, remembering the effects on my physical and mental health and preparing to live a longer life.

Five Daily Affirmations Guidelines to Follow

By using the guidelines found below, you can transform limp affirmations like that into mantras for manifesting a huge change in your life!

The following points are key:

1. Enter the “now”

Start your affirmation by entering the present tense. Take the condition you desire and declare it to be already true.

2. Be positive

Our sample affirmation keeps the focus on smoking—the condition that you do not want. Instead, shine a light on what you do want—to be smoke-free.

A related reminder: Our subconscious mind skips the word not. So, delete this word from your affirmations. “I am not afraid of public speaking” gives us the message that you are afraid. Use, “I feel at ease as I speak in public.”

3. Be concise

Shorter is better. Affirmations with fewer words are often easier to recall, especially in situations when you feel some stress. Rhyming makes your affirmations even more memorable. For example, “I am feeling alive at 185.”

4. Include action

Whenever possible, affirm yourself as a person who takes action. For example: “I am gratefully driving my new Porsche along an open highway.” Action engages the Law of Attraction, creating new results in our lives and opening us to further inspiration.

5. Include a feeling word  

Powerful affirmations include content and emotion. Content describes the specific outcome that you desire. Emotion gets to the heart of how you feel about that outcome. For a more potent affirmation, add both elements.

Consider this affirmation:

“I am supporting my children to fully come forward into the world.”

The content of this statement is clear. Yet it lacks an emotional charge. Breathe life into this affirmation by adding an active expression of feeling:

“I am lovingly supporting my children and encourage them to fully express their unique talents and gifts.”

You will know that you have a powerful affirmation when you feel a surge of emotional energy. The force of feeling jumpstarts you into action.

An Affirmation Makeover

Now get some direct experience with “affirmation transformation.” Return to the first example mentioned in this article:

“I will quit smoking with ease and joy, remembering the effects on my physical and mental health and preparing to live a longer life.”

Playing with the guidelines listed serves up some more exciting options, such as:

“I am breathing effortlessly with lungs that are pure and clean.”

“I am celebrating how easily I breathe through strong, healthy lungs.”

Also consider the following affirmations on a variety of topics:

“I am joyfully celebrating my graduation from college with a master’s degree.”

“I am effectively delivering my first talk to an audience of over 1,000 people who affirm my message with a standing ovation.”

“I am confidently checking the balance of my bank account as I make a deposit of $1,000,000.”

“I am walking up on stage to receive my first Emmy award and receiving a roar of applause.”

When you’re satisfied with the wording of your affirmation, start using it right away.

Repeat your affirmations at least three times daily—first thing in the morning, midday, and just before you go to sleep. Regular repetition will gently return your focus to manifesting the life of your dreams.

My List of Positive Feeling Words for Affirmations

Below I have included a list of positive feeling words that you may want to use when creating your daily affirmations. 

Remember, when creating affirmations you want to create positive, self-affirming, self-empowering statements that uplift and inspire you – that raise your emotional set point and your self-esteem.

 list of positive feeling words for affirmations, by jack canfield

Here Are Some More Examples of Positive Affirmations:

I am celebrating feeling light and alive at my perfect body weight of one thirty-five.

I am enjoying the thrill of flying.

I am attracting joy into my life.

I am confidently expressing myself openly and honestly.

I am feeling exhilarated, agile  and alive.

I am effectively communicating my needs and desires to my loving partner.

I am looking around me at the faces of the people I am helping and I am thrilled to know that I have made a difference in their life.

I am feeling relaxed and grateful to be sitting here in Hawaii with my toes buried in the warm sand, feeling the warmth of the sun on my face.

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How to Facilitate Change By Empowering Others Through Coaching & Training

Each of us has the power within us to create the life we want, the life we dream about, and the life we were born to live. And you, even as a sole individual, can have a tremendous impact on others through personal coaching and training.

Each of us deserves to reach our full potential and manifest our true destiny. It is our birthright, but it must be claimed. It must be earned through hard work and training. Part of that work is first learning, and then living by the time-tested and ageless success principles that are guaranteed to bring about our desired results.

Most of us did not learn the principles of success in school. Only a few of us learned them at home. Instead, the principles of success have been passed down by mentors, teachers, coaches and more recently in books, seminars, and audio programs.

Learn how to quickly remove blocks, fears and uncertainty in yourself and others during my free webinar.

YOU Have so Much Wisdom to Offer Others

As a student of success, you have much wisdom to offer the people in your life. The greatest gift you can give anyone is a gift of empowerment and love. What could be more loving than training someone you care about get free from their limiting beliefs and ignorance about success, and empowering them to create the life that they truly want from the depths of their soul?

What if everyone in your family gave up complaining, took full responsibility for themselves and their lives, and started creating the life of their dreams?

What if everyone in your company practiced these principles?

What if every man and woman in prison learned these valuable principles before they were released back into society?

It would be a very different world.

Imagine a World Where Everyone is Clear on Their Vision and Goals

Imagine a world where everyone would take 100% responsibility for their lives and the results they produce or don’t produce. Where everybody would be clear about their visions and their goals. Where nobody would fall victim to the criticism and abuse of others.  Where everyone would persevere in the face of hardship and challenge.

Men and women would band together in teams to support each other to become all that they could be. People would ask for what they need and want and feel free to say no the requests of others when it is not right for them to respond with a yes.

People would stop whining and complaining and get on with creating the life that they want. People would tell the truth and listen to each other with compassion because they know that peace, joy, and prosperity would flourish if they did.

People would tell the truth and listen to each other with compassion because they know that peace, joy, and prosperity would flourish if they did.

In short, the world would work!

The Greatest Contribution You Can Make

The greatest contribution you can make to the world is to grow in self-confidence, self-awareness, self-realization, and the power to manifest your own heartfelt dreams and desires.

This is why Mahatma Gandhi advised:

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi

As you shift, the people around you will notice and be inspired to model your actions. And as they shift, you’ll find that your little world becomes more of the place you dream it to be, full of support, peace, and love.

Help Others Grow Through Personal Coaching and Training

The next greatest thing you can do is to actively facilitate the growth of others by taking on the role of a trainer or coach. But, they are not the only ones who will benefit by your investment of time and energy in taking on the role of a coach.

Passing along your wisdom forces you to clarify your ideas, confront inconsistencies in your own thinking, and more closely walk your talk. But most importantly, it requires you to read, study, and speak the information over and over again. The resulting repetition reinforces your own learning.

And here’s another major benefit of coaching—the more you coach other people to succeed in life, the more they will want to help you succeed. If you’ve ever wondered why people who teach success strategies are so successful, here’s the answer:

Because they have helped so many people get what they want, those they have helped naturally want to return the favor.

The same will be true for you.

I envision a world where everyone is inspired to believe in themselves, and their abilities, and is empowered to reach their full potential and realize all their dreams.

I want the Success Principles taught in every school and university, and practiced in every small business and large corporation.

I’d love to have you join me in empowering others and changing the world.

I want to leave you with a bit of homework to complete after you’re done reading this.

Make a list of 4 people in your life who you can help coach or mentor and empower to grow. What can you do for someone else to facilitate change in someone else’s life?  

Leave a comment below to share.

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3-Step Total Focus Training Process for Successful People

Do you ever have trouble staying focused or feel like you need focus training? This is a problem that plagues many entrepreneurs and successful individuals. Anyone who is successful knows that at any given point, there are about a hundred different activities you could, or should, be working on.

The key to getting the most benefit and “bang for your buck” out of your time is to prioritize tasks and only focus on the ones that will yield the greatest results and propel you towards your goals the fastest.

In addition to prioritizing the tasks that will yield the greatest results, you also want to focus your time and energy on doing the things you are truly brilliant at. These are typically the ones that will also reap the biggest rewards.

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The 3 Step Total Focus Training

To help you clarify what you should be spending your time on and what you should be delegating to others, I encourage you to do the following exercise.

Your goal is to find the top one, two, or three activities that best use your core genius, bring you the most money, and produce the greatest level of enjoyment.

Step 1: List All of the Activities That Occupy Your Time

The first step is to start by listing all those activities that occupy your time, whether they’re business-related, personal, or related to your civic organizations or volunteer work. List even small tasks such as replying to emails or returning phone calls.

Step 2: Choose 2 Things That You’re Brilliant At

Next, choose from your list one, two, or three things you are particularly brilliant at.

These are your special and unique talents, the things very few other people can do as well as you.

Also, choose from this list the three activities that generate the most income for you or your company. Any activities that you are brilliant at and that generate the most income for you or your company are the activities where you’ll want to focus the most time and energy.

Step 3: Create a Plan for Delegating Everything Else

Finally, create a plan for delegating everything else to other people.

Delegating takes time, training, and patience, but over time you can keep chipping away at the low-payoff, nonessential tasks on your list until you are doing less and less of those and more and more of what you are really good at.

That is how you create a brilliant career.

Practice Delegating One Thing From Your List

Create a list of all the activities that occupy your time, choose 3 things from that list that you are brilliant at, then delegate at least 1 thing from the remaining list to someone else TODAY.

Tomorrow, delegate one more thing to someone else. Do this every day until you are only working on the tasks that you do best and that produce the most results.

Leave a comment below and share one task that you are truly brilliant at – whether it be in your personal or professional life! And share one task you are going to delegate today.

Transform Yourself For Success…One Day at a Time

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Put it to use to transform your life beyond your wildest dreams!

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You can, as long as you include this complete statement with it: Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul® and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com