7 Steps for Creating the Life YOU Want

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We all aspire to do, be, and have great things. Yet most of us simply haven't created the successful life we want, yet.

We complain that we don't have enough money, romance, success or joy in our lives. We point fingers and blame outside problems that "happen" to us and make life more difficult. But what we need to understand and keep at the forefront of our minds is that greatness exists in all of us. It is simply up to us to pull it out of ourselves.

Regardless of personal circumstances, economic climates, and access to resources, it helps to maintain faith in the fact that we each are more powerful than we think. We all have the ability to create the life we want. We just need to learn how to do it.

Is there an exact "formula"? No, but there are certain common features that successful people exhibit and that anyone can practice. They are what can jumpstart your success and attract what you want in life. You'd be hard pressed to find any high achiever who doesn't live by the following 7 tips:

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1. Take No Less than 100% Responsibility for Your Life

One of the greatest myths that is pervasive in our culture today is the idea that you are entitled to a great life – and that somehow, somewhere, someone is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness, exciting career options, nurturing family time, and blissful personal relationships simply because we exist.

But the real truth is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live. That person is you.

Everything about you is a result of your doing or not doing. Income. Debt. Relationships. Health. Fitness level. Attitudes and behaviors. That person who reflects back at you in the mirror is the chief conductor in your life. Say hello!

I think everyone knows this in their hearts, but the mind can play games, tricking plenty of people into thinking external factors are the source of failure, disappointment, and unhappiness. But the truth of the matter is that external factors don't determine how you live. You are in complete control of the quality of your life.

Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. They don't waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.

2. Be Clear Why You're Here

I believe each of us is born with a life purpose. Identifying, acknowledging and honoring this purpose is perhaps the most important action successful people take.

They take the time to understand what they're here to do, and then they pursue that purpose with passion and enthusiasm.

If you don't know what you're supposed to be doing, tune in to the signals around you. Looking toward others for help and guidance is helpful, but don't forget to stay tuned in to yourself—your behavior, attitude, likes and dislikes, and life experiences. Identify what's working and what isn't. If you need to, write it all down. You might be surprised by what you discover.

3. Decide What You Want

It sounds so simple, but here's the problem: I see plenty of people who are overly busy yet who feel unsatisfied and unfulfilled. They are physically tired, spiritually drained, and far from where they'd like to be—as if they've been running on a treadmill going nowhere fast.

Why? Because they haven't clearly mapped out what they want and then taken the steps to get there. Rather than identifying specific goals, milestones, and dreams (and I'm talking BIG dreams and goals here), they go through the motions day in and day out tackling unimportant tasks. They end up...you guessed it...going in circles and wasting lots of energy. In the meanwhile, they grow increasingly uninspired and out of touch with their authentic selves. This, of course, sets anyone up to living a life out of balance.

One of the main reasons why most people don't get what they want is they haven't decided what they want. They haven't defined their desires in clear and compelling detail. What does success look like to you? Not everybody's definition of success is the same, nor should it be.

Don't let your inner devil's advocate (or that incessant but unimportant To Do list) inhibit you from dreaming big. As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You'll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, but they also compel others to want to play big, too.

4. Believe It Is Possible

Scientists used to believe that humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world. But today, they're learning that instead we respond to what the brain, based on previous experience, expects to happen next. In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument, it can deliver literally everything you want. But you have to believe that what you want is possible.

As you commit to believing in yourself, also make a commitment to toning down the complaint department. Look at what you are complaining about:

I'm fat.
I'm tired.
I can't get out of debt.
I won't ever get a better job.
I can't stand the relationship I have with my father.
I'll never find a soul mate in life.

Really examine your complaints. More than likely you can do something about them. They are not about other people, other things, or other events. They are about YOU.

5. Believe in Yourself

If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes; the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired results.

Have unwavering faith in yourself, for good and bad. Make the decision to believe that you create all your experiences. You will experience successes thanks to you, and you will experience pain, struggle, and strife thanks to you. Sounds a little strange, but accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and be anything. Stumbling blocks become just that—little hills to hop over.

6. Become an Inverse Paranoid

This one is straightforward: Imagine how much easier it would be to succeed in life if you were constantly expecting the world to support you and bring you opportunity. Successful people do just that.

7. Unleash the Power of Goal Setting

Experts on the science of success know the brain is a goal-seeking organism. Whatever goal you give to your subconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve. To engage you subconscious mind, a goal has to be measurable. When there aren't any criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, or a good idea.

Sometimes we need to make just one initial goal to get started, and that's okay. At least it comes with a few actions to achieve. A first step simply can be making an immediate change in a single area in your life. Are you unhappy about something that is happening right now? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself.

Remember that self-motivated people win at life so always push yourself to accomplish your goals and learn new skills.

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If you want a different outcome, change your behavior

Making a change might be uncomfortable and overwhelming for you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it, or makes you feel bad about your decision. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? You can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.

Pro tip: Use daily affirmations to focus on your goals and reprogram your subconscious mind.

Bear in mind that you have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you've already taken an initial step in the right direction, now's the time to plan more steps to keep moving you forward faster. That's how people become successful!

Isn't it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn't it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?

So, if you need just one thing to do different today than you did yesterday, make it this: Commit to taking 100% responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you'll discover it is much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!

And if you'd like my help in creating true life transformation for yourself, or for others around you, then I invite you to attend my free webcast, called "The 7 Pillars of True Life Transformation." During the webcast, you'll discover how to overcome the obstacles and fears that are holding you back from achieving your biggest goals. Reserve your spot now.

Achieve Your Goals By Training Others to Achieve Theirs

Are you good at teaching others how to do something? Or leading groups?

Would you be interested in teaching my Success Principles to others to make more money? Could you teach seminars locally? Can you offer a class at the local high school or community college? Could you lead a workgroup at the office to incorporate these principles on the job or in your department? Or could you boost your existing career as a professional trainer?

If you can envision yourself as a dynamic and powerful presenter you should apply for my Train the Trainer Live certification program. It's an advanced 10-month skill development and mentorship program for those who want to increase their impact and monetize their message. 

You don't have to be a master of implementing these principles to lead a group, since I’ll help you become a master trainer as part of this immersive professional program.
Imagine the workgroups, clubs, sales teams, women’s groups, entrepreneurs, or companies where people could be working together to support each other in actively living these principles. The results would be miraculous. And YOU can be the person that makes that happen. Click the button below to learn more.

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Secrets to Awakening Prosperity - Behind the Scenes

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I am excited to let you know about a brand new program that I have been working on with my dear friend and colleague Dawa Tarchin Phillips called Awakening Prosperity. As part of the release you can download our free report on the 9 Prosperity Activators and register for a very special free 3-part video training here:

Click here: The Secrets to Awakening Prosperity Report and Free Training

This project, in particular, is special to me for a few reasons.

First, it is because Dawa is near and dear to my heart. Honestly, I’ve never known a kinder and wiser soul who has so much transformational wisdom to share. He spent 12 years being trained as a Lama and advanced meditation teacher and heads up the Center for Mindfulness and Human Potential at the University of California, Santa Barbara.

Next, I believe that so many people struggle with bridging money and their spiritual life. In fact, they actively prevent and block prosperity from flowing into their life, but it doesn’t have to be this way. In the training series these biases and obstacles are called money blocks or money wounds.

Once you know your money wounds then you can heal them. And often we inherit or pick up these wounds from our family or environment, so understanding where they come from can help you turn them around.

Finally, what is unique is that we are not JUST talking about prosperity in money terms. A big part of true prosperity is creating better connections with family and friends, stepping into your higher purpose and aligning with your life path. And we talk about ALL of this in the series.

My own personal passion is to help spread love and joy in the world.

Those that thrive and are deeply happy have found a way to do what they are enthusiastic about and have a greater mission.

I believe our world is always on the brink of going out of balance and it is only by understanding core principles that are at the heart of the human condition that we can align with what is natural, prosperous and brings true freedom.

Another important point it that we all deserve prosperity. We are all worthy of greater success.

So I encourage you to signup for the free training here.

You’ll get priceless insights, actionable steps, and exercises to shift your relationship with money from unhealthy to wealthy. You’ll learn:

  • The 9 Prosperity Activators that you MUST ‘turn-on’ for wealth to flow into your life effortlessly.
  • How to finally bridge the great divide between Money and Spirituality.
  • The fastest way to heal your Money Wounds and transcend prosperity blocks.

You’ll want to register for this FREE series NOW because it’ll only be available for a limited time.

My passion in life is helping people like you realize more prosperity so that you can live the life of your dreams. And this co-creation with Dawa, who is a true expert on this topic, is the perfect way for me to share that passion with you.

We want to help you tap into your unique talents and gifts so that you can share them with the world.  And the more prosperous you become, the more you can share!

Are You Asking the Right People the Right Questions?

blog-areyouaskingtherightpeopleHave you ever heard the saying, “the quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask?”

I believe this one hundred percent... After all, it’s only when you ask the really big questions of yourself (“What do I want?” “Why am I here?” “How can I live the life I want?”) that you find the big answers that empower you to realize your full potential and create the life of your dreams.

But when it comes to big questions, WHO you ask is as important as WHAT you ask. After all, if you ask the right question of the wrong person, you’re not going to find the answer you’re looking for. Same goes if you ask the wrong question of the right person.

That’s why I’m always interested in discovering the questions people want to ask me when they have the opportunity to speak to me in person.

All too often, they ask me questions like:

“What’s my purpose in life? I have no idea!”

“What should I do to take my business to the next level?”

“What’s missing from my life?”

Should I stay in my current job or should I pursue my dreams?

“What must I do to get from where I am now to where I want to be?”

 “What’s holding me back from achieving my goals?”

“Why aren’t I happier?”

These are incredibly important questions – the kind that, when answered, will change your life forever. But they all have one thing in common: I’m not the person to answer them.

YOU are!

All of these are BIG, BIG questions that require a lot of introspective soul-searching. And while I’m happy to guide you through the process, I can’t do that deep soul-searching for you.

(It’s like my friend Jim Rohn says, “You can’t hire someone else to do your pushups for you!”)

To answer these big questions...

  • You need to get absolutely crystal clear on exactly where you’re at right now in life.

    (Most people tend to have a skewed understanding of what’s really happening in their life. They believe that the wrong things are making them happy and that their secret dreams and desires are impractical, selfish, and wildly out of reach. False!)
  • You should have a deep understanding of what truly matters most to you in this world – and why.
  • You need to have the courage to ask yourself hard questions and face your deepest, innermost truths.
  • You must be willing to acknowledge that the only real obstacle that has been holding you back from accomplishing your goals and creating your ideal life is YOU.
  • And you must recognize that only YOU have the key to overcoming these obstacles and fulfilling your true potential. It has been inside you this whole time.

I can guide you through the process...

But I can’t do the work and answer your questions for you.

That’s why I created Breakthrough to Success. I wanted a way to help people work through these big questions over the course of several days in an inspiring and supportive environment where they could feel safe to peel back their own layers and confront their deepest truths.

This life-changing event has helped thousands of people change the trajectory of their lives FOREVER.

The next one is happening this August 16th-20th at the beautiful Scottsdale Fairmont Princess resort – and I would love for you to join me.

You can learn more and register here:

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10 Tips on How to Trust and Thrive (Instead of Stress and Survive) in Turbulent Times

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For many people, unexpected life changes are the source of their biggest fears.

What if their jobs get outsourced? What if their spouse leaves them? What if their town’s main source of employment dries up?  What if the future they always imagined for themselves turns out to be a pipe dream?

The possibilities can be scary to contemplate.

But for some people, unexpected life changes can be a source of amazing opportunity. If you have an opportunity-seeking mindset, you will respond to any new situation in a way that allows you to create abundance and thrive.

For example, I know of a woman who lost her job in a town hit hard by an economic downturn. Businesses were closing up shop and many people were losing their homes. As she noticed the foreclosures happening in her own neighborhood, she realized that the angry people being forced out of their homes were leaving the houses in a complete mess.

So this enterprising woman called the local banks and offered to clean them for a fee so that they would be presentable when the banks tried to rent or sell them. Her little venture was so successful that she had to hire several other people to help – and she now has a successful house cleaning business.

I know of another jobless woman who had the brilliant idea to start buying and selling used furniture from people who were forced to downsize their living accommodations – either through foreclosure or job loss. She opened a store that sold the furniture locally as well as online – and she was able to make a good living!

Then there was my friend who has a Lexus dealership in Southern California. When the economy took a sharp downturn, people stopped coming into his dealership to buy cars. In order to stay afloat, he knew he had to change his business approach. So instead of waiting for people to come to the showroom, he drove his cars out to country clubs, marinas, and private golf courses and invited people there to take a test drive. Once people got behind the wheel, they were sold – and his dealership ended up selling more cars than ever.

You have to have faith in the Universe and yourself

The problem with turbulence is that it involves a lot of abrupt and dramatic ups and downs – and you can’t always see the blue skies beyond the storm.

But you mustn’t let your worries and fears keep you stuck. You need to have faith that you will navigate your way through the storm and end up in a better place than you were before. And you need to have the motivation to keep going no matter how hard the wind blows – and the confidence to take risks and act on opportunities that have no guaranteed outcome.  

Here are some tips on how to cultivate trust and take action that will catapult you closer to your dream life – even when it feels like your world is falling apart.

1. Hold fast to your dreams

When most people are going through a period of upheaval, their response is to give up on heir goals and dreams and go into pure survival mode. But if you don’t have a target to aim for, you will never hit the mark.

That’s why it’s more important than ever for you to have a clear vision for your life – and make it more of a priority than ever.

The good news is, when you’ve been set loose from your moorings, it can be far easier to go after opportunities you’ve never had the time or courage to pursue.

2. Visualize your dreams with feeling twice a day

Your dreams should be your lighthouse: a beacon that cuts through the darkness and shows you the direction you need to go. You should consciously keep them at the forefront of your mind so they play a key role in influencing every decision you make. 

That’s how you ensure your decisions point you in the direction that will make those dreams come true.

Creating a vision board is a powerful way to keep your dreams top of mind. 

3. Keep your self-talk positive

You must have faith in yourself and trust that you are capable of doing what it takes to achieve your dreams and overcome any obstacle that life throws at you.

The best way to avoid succumbing to self-doubt is to consciously focus on practising positive self-talk. The moment you sense yourself falling into negativity and thinking something like, “I could never do that,” replace the negative thought with a more positive one, such as: “I absolutely CAN do that – I just need to figure out how.”

4. Surround yourself with positive people

As my friend Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If you’re surrounded with negative, fear-based people who are always criticizing you or imagining the worst possible outcome to every situation, their dark outlooks will dull your spark. Don’t let that happen!

Instead, seek out positive, uplifting people who are actively creating their dreams. They will encourage you to keep going after your own dreams and help you see the way forward.

5. Read uplifting books

When you read inspires stories of people who have made their dreams come true and created amazing lives for themselves, it reassures you that such a future is not only possible, it’s entirely within your reach – and it motivates you to keep taking positive action toward that goal.

On top of that, reading is a powerful way to reduce stress – a natural by-product of going through turbulence. Studies show that reading is the best way to relax and even six minutes can be enough to reduce your stress level by more than two thirds. 

6. Trust your intuition

Before you make a decision, bring your mind to stillness and listen to the quiet voice in your heart that delivers the wisdom you need to make the right choice.

If you have difficulty hearing that quiet voice inside you, here’s an article I recently wrote that shows you how to cultivate your intuition and take soul-inspired action.

7. Take continuous action

No matter how much you faith you have, no matter how deeply you trust and believe, you won’t achieve your dreams overnight. As my friend Robert J. Collier says, “Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.”

If you take one step after another, adjusting your route as necessary to ensure you stay moving in the right direction, you WILL reach your destination.

8. Expect the best

The Universe doesn’t give you what you deserve. It gives you what you expect.

As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

So if you want to make your dreams come true, you have to expect that it will happen. There may be some bumps along the way, but they shouldn’t deter you from following your dreams.

9. Use feedback to make the necessary course corrections

The Universe is giving you feedback all the time. If you apply for a job and the HR person says you don’t have the right level of experience, that’s feedback. If you tell your friends you’re thinking of going freelance and several people say, “I know someone who is in desperate need of your services!” That’s feedback too. If someone tells you, “I recommended you to a bunch of friends but they didn’t hire you because you don’t have a website” – you guessed it: feedback.

Use this feedback to determine what your next steps will be.

10. Persevere until you get the result you want

Don’t give up! It’s that simple. The Universe WANTS you to realize your greatest potential and create your ideal life. But it doesn’t always make it easy! It presents you with challenges that make you stretch beyond your current capabilities and become the kind of person who is capable of creating the life you desire.

And remember – the bigger the challenge, the more you’ll learn and the more you’ll grow as you face it head on and figure out how to overcome it.  

If you follow these 10 tips, I guarantee that you will be able to successfully navigate your way through any unexpected upheaval – and stay on target to achieving your goals and making your dreams come true.

Looking for a way to accelerate your journey and turbocharge your results?

Join me at Breakthrough to Success! Over the course of five days, I will help you get crystal clear on your vision for your ideal life and help you align it with your soul’s purpose – then create a detailed road map that will help you navigate any obstacles and make your vision and a reality.

With the right tools and training – and with a network of positive and enthusiastic people to encourage and support you both during and after the training– you can accomplish anything you dream of, faster than you ever thought possible.

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