What To Do When the Universe Seems to Be Conspiring Against You

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It’s almost the end of January and I was wondering: how have the first few weeks of the year been for you?

Most of us start off a new year with big plans to improve our lives in significant ways: by losing weight, getting fit, growing our business, advancing our career, cultivating deeper relationships, and so on.

Yet all too often, unforeseen obstacles appear out of nowhere and threaten to derail our forward momentum before we even get started:

  • You injure yourself during one of your workouts, making it impossible for you to continue exercising
  • That “big new client” you thought was a sure thing decides not to hire you, and throws a serious wrench into your annual income projections
  • You have to deal with an unforeseen personal issue that causes you a lot of stress and makes it impossible for you to even consider changing your eating habits
  • Your hot water heater breaks or your roof starts leaking, forcing you to spend your savings on household repairs instead of the course you were planning to take

When things like this happen, it can feel like the universe is conspiring against you to keep you stuck where you are.

But don’t give up on your goals and dreams just because you’ve hit an unexpected roadblock! The fact is, there are ALWAYS going to be obstacles to overcome – and you shouldn’t let them stop you from achieving some huge personal breakthroughs this year.

It’s not the event that matters – but how you respond to it

No matter how tough your circumstances are, you ALWAYS have the power to decide how to respond to whatever life throws your way.

That’s what life is all about: making choices.

External forces will always be part of the equation, even during the good times when the world is thriving. But YOU get to decide how you respond to those forces – and whether your choices are going to move you closer to your goals, or farther away from them.

So if you’re faced with an unexpected obstacle, don’t use it as an excuse to give up on your dreams. Rather, take the time to figure out how to respond to it in a way that will bring you close to your goals (even if it is in a more roundabout way than you had originally intended).

  • If you throw your back out running, maybe yoga or Pilates is a better way for you to strengthen your body and achieve a higher level of fitness
  • If that “big client” didn’t work out, maybe it’s time to do some marketing and reach out to your networks to find a different client. And who knows, maybe the next one you find will be a much better fit!
  • If a household emergency has eaten up the money you were going to spend on that course, see if there are any free courses online that will teach you what you need to know.
  • If stress is playing havoc with your eating habits, maybe it’s time to reach out and enlist the support of a licensed nutritionist to help you plan healthier meals and snacks.

Sometimes the biggest roadblock is staring at you in the mirror

All too often, I find that the hardest obstacles to overcome are the ones that can be found between our own ears.

The fact of the matter is, we are often our own worst enemy – and the biggest challenges we face are our own negative thoughts and habits, and our refusal to admit what’s not working.

Recognizing what’s NOT working in your life can be painful – yet it’s the key to shaping the life you want.

If there’s something in your life that you KNOW aren’t serving you, don’t try to rationalize it, make excuses for it, or pretend it doesn’t exist. This thing is preventing you from creating the life you want to be living!

You’ve got to identify the problem and face it head on if you ever want to free yourself from its power over you.

Here are some examples of what I mean…

  • Do you want to be active, fit, and strong?Then you have to stop making excuses about your weight, diet choices, and lack of exercise.
  • Do you want to be in a loving relationship based on friendship and respect?Then you have to stop rationalizing why your mate is so unsupportive or why you are not communicating well.
  • Do you want to embrace Monday mornings and feel joyful about going to work every day? If not, it’s time to stop hiding your true passions and go after whatever it is you really want to be doing day in and day out.
  • Do you want to lose the debt forever?Then you have to stop ignoring your spending habits and get real about a budget that will pull you out of debt and allow you to reach financial freedom.
  • Do you want to feel more connected to the people in your life, such as your children, friends, and colleagues? Then you have to stop complaining about your poor relationships and figure out why you don’t feel as connected as you’d like to be.

Do you see yourself in any of these scenarios?

These things can be painful to look at – because the truth is, you have to DO something about them in order to change your situation for the better.

If you want to get in shape, you have to say no to the second helping of dinner and dessert – and actually get off the couch and MOVE.

If you want a better relationship, you’ll have to confront your partner about what’s not working.

If you want a career you love, you’re going to have to quit your job.

If you want to save money, you’re going to have to cut back on your spending.

If you want to change your results, you’ve got to change your behavior. It’s that simple.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable

Successful people don’t waste time complaining or make excuses. They face difficult situations head on, like a warrior. They look for the warning signs, they find out why things aren’t working, and they go about fixing them – even when fixing requires problem solving, hard work, risk, and a level of uncertainty.

Don’t worry if you identify a problem but don’t have the first clue how to go about solving it. That’s all part of the process. The most important part is to recognize that the problem exists and have faith that you’ll figure out a solution.

Sometimes all it takes is a quick Google search or reaching out to your network – and you’ll find someone who has gone through the same thing and is more than happy to offer you the advice you need to solve the problem.

That’s how successful people live: they keep their goals always in sight – and when things go wrong, they put on their problem-solving hat and take action, always making sure that their decisions are in alignment with their goals.

Are you ready to tackle the obstacles that are holding you back?

If you feel like your circumstances are preventing you from moving closer to creating your ideal life, make a list of the things in your life that are working against your success and ask how the situation can be improved.

Be brutally honest with yourself – and avoid making excuses or blaming others for the situation you’re in. The ONLY thing you can control is your response to the people and events in your life. If your current responses aren’t getting the results you want, now is the time to change them.

Once you have your list of things you’d like to change, be brave – and commit to tackling them head on, one by one, until every item has been crossed off your list.

Remember, by facing what is not working, you can only improve your life.

Easier said than done, you say?

If, after reading this article, you still feel overwhelmed by the obstacles in your life, maybe it’s a sign you need to do some deeper work.

Overcoming negative thought patterns and habits that no longer serve you can be challenging! It’s often much easier to do this kind of deep personal growth work under the guidance of an experienced professional.

That’s why I’d like to invite you to join me at Breakthrough to Success in Newport Beach, California this February 23-27 or in Scottsdale, Arizona this August 16-20.

Over the course of five life-changing days, I will help you get crystal clear on your true passions and purpose in life… overcome the limiting beliefs and habits that have been holding you back from reaching your full potential… and create a step-by-step plan to dramatically improve all areas of your life.

You can learn more and register here: BREAKTHROUGH TO SUCCESS.

I hope to see you there! 


 

 

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The Private Family Pain That Inspired Me To Write My Latest Book

my private pain with alcoholism by Jack Canfield

Over the past few years, I’ve been dealing with a private pain that I want to share with you today.

After growing up with an alcoholic mother, I was saddened when the nightmare of excessive drinking and drug use hit my family again — this time, as my sister and three of my children became part of the 70 million Americans who drink excessively (and often combine alcohol with recreational drug use).

Though we finally resolved their addictions through lifestyle modification and rehab, I turned my mind to ways to help them replace the habit of excessive drinking with a lifestyle that was future-focused, purposeful and compelling — a life that would be more exciting and rewarding than drinking with friends or getting high.

I wondered, Could the success psychology and brain science I’d been teaching for nearly 40 years be the answer?

Then I met a man who had been quietly using the principles from my books to coach excessive drinkers in the habits, mindset and behaviors they needed to cut back or stop drinking — and replace their drinking with a positive and fulfilling new life.

Sobriety coach Dave Andrews has helped more than 1,000 former drinkers replace alcohol with a new way of thinking and reacting to life’s opportunities and challenges — using my own success training concepts.

Because his results were so widespread, he and I decided to coauthor a new book about this 30-day system.

30 Day Sobriety Solution: How to Cut back or quit drinkingThe 30-Day Sobriety Solution helps you (or a loved one) cut back or quit drinking in the privacy of your own home — without the time commitment (and sometimes negative reinforcement) of group meetings and without the cost and stigma of rehab. (In fact, with rehab costing up to $30,000 a month, this book is a tremendous bargain — costing you less than $1 a day.)

The 30-Day Sobriety Solution is a uniquely liberating approach to releasing yourself from the bonds of alcohol in your life. And if you’re already in recovery, it will support your lifelong goal of staying alcohol-free.

To get your copy, click here and and I’ll help you over the next 30 days with a unique digital course I’ve prepared along with the book to keep you focused on your sobriety goal. It’s yours free when you order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution today.

Don’t wait to quit drinking or cut back. Order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution today and start creating a more sober and successful 2016 now.

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70 Million Americans Limit Their Success by Doing This. Are You One of Them?

30 Day Sobriety Solution: How to Cut Back or Quit Drinking

As you know, I’m an avid student of brain science and the psychology of success. But recently, I learned that over 70 million Americans are affecting their brain and its ability to support their success.

How?

By drinking alcohol excessively. 

Whether it’s a working mom who drinks a “heart-healthy” bottle of red wine for dinner…

or an executive who relies on Scotch to unwind at the end of the day…

or a weekend warrior who “only” drinks during game time with friends…

excessive drinking can take a toll on your relationships, finances, career, health and family — not to mention the guilt, shame and stigma that often goes along with this self-defeating habit. 

Did you know?

  • According to WebMD, heavy drinking shrinks key regions of the brain, contributing to memory loss and dementia.
  • Even more debilitating to your success path, however, are the subtle effects of excessive alcohol use such as difficulty with planning, judgment, problem-solving and higher intellectual functions that we need to live a successful life. 
  • Researchers have also linked alcohol consumption to more than 60 diseases including cancer, stroke, depression, gout, high blood pressure, nerve damage…and of course, heart disease.

Today, I’m writing to suggest an alternative to excessive drinking: cutting down or quitting in the privacy of your own home.

30 Day Sobriety Solution: How to Cut back or quit drinkingMy new book The 30-Day Sobriety Solution, written with sobriety coach Dave Andrews and in bookstores now, provides a way to replace drinking with healthy new success habits that will create the exciting and vibrant life you want. It’s a uniquely liberating approach to releasing yourself (or a loved one) from the bonds of alcohol in your life. And if you’re already in recovery, it will support your lifelong goal of staying alcohol-free.

What could your life look like in just 30 days — free of excessive drinking?

  • “Brain fog” significantly decreases, helping you make better, more forward-thinking decisions. Plus, those generalized “aches and pains” start lessening, as does that sense of feeling lousy. “Brain fog” significantly decreases, helping you make better, more forward-thinking decisions.
  • You’ll also begin to regain the respect of loved ones, colleagues, friends and even yourself. You’ll no longer have to hide the evidence of your excessive drinking or waste valuable time on your “habit.”
  • You’ll even look better, feel better, wake up more refreshed, be more passionate with your mate, and begin to live life more richly with all your five senses operating at optimum levels.

After all, isn’t a more rich and rewarding life what we all want — instead of excessive drinking?

The 30-Day Sobriety Solution will help you cut back or quit drinking — in the privacy of your own home and without the cost or stigma of rehab. In fact, with rehab costing up to $30,000 a month, this $28 book is a tremendous bargain — costing you less than $1 a day.

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Also Available as an AudioBook!

If you live outside the United States, order the book and receive
FREE SHIPPING anywhere in the world at www.BookDepository.com 

 

When you order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution, I’ll help you over the next 30 days with a unique digital companion course I’ve prepared along with the book to keep you focused on your sobriety goal.

(Instructions for how to access this companion course can be found on page 27 in the book.) 

It’s yours free when you order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution today.

Don’t wait to quit drinking or cut back.

Order The 30-Day Sobriety Solution today
and start creating a more sober and successful 2016 now. 

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Also Available as an AudioBook!

If you live outside the United States, order the book and receive
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Get Clear on What You Want in 2016

blog-getclearAre you ready to make 2016 your best year yet?

It’s easy to start the new year full of enthusiasm and optimism. But to maintain your momentum through the year, you need to set powerful, crystal-clear goals.

The first step to getting what you want out of life is to decide exactly what you want.

What do you want to accomplish?
What do you want to experience?
What do you want to acquire?
Who do you want to be?

One of primary reasons most people don’t get what they want is that they aren’t clear about what they want. Others will recognize what they’d like to have, but when they can’t see how it’s possible to get what they want, and they dismiss their desires as foolish and unattainable.

Don’t sabotage yourself this way!  

After decades of research into how the human brain works, scientists now know that for our brains to figure out how to get what we want, we must first decide what we want. Once we lock-in our desires, our mind and the universe can step in to help make our dreams a reality.

Dream Big

We start the process by getting clear about what we want. So, what do you want? To create a balanced and successful life, write down a minimum of 3 goals in each of the following 7 areas:

  1. Financial Goals
  2. Career/Business Goals
  3. Free Time/Family Time 
  4. Health/Appearance Goals 
  5. Relationship Goals
  6. Personal Growth 
  7. Making a Difference

If you have more goals than this, don’t limit yourself – write them down! On the other hand, if writing down 21 goals seems like a lot, remember that we can have a mix of long- and short-term goals. For example, in the financial area, you may have a short-term goal of paying off a $5,000 credit card balance, as well as a long-term goal of amassing a net worth of $5 million dollars. You want to keep both goals present in your mind, even though you’ll be working more actively on the short-term goal first.

Use this worksheet to help you Unleash the Power of Goal Setting in these 7 areas: Decide-What-You-Want-Worksheet

Stretch Yourself

When setting our goals, it’s important to include a few that will make us stretch and grow to achieve them. These might be learning a new skill or trying something that is uncomfortable and maybe a little frightening, such as public speaking. It also helps to set a breakthrough goal that would represent a quantum leap. Examples of breakthrough goals include publishing a book, starting a business, getting on Oprah, winning a gold medal at the Olympics, or getting elected president of your industry association.

Material goals are important, but the ultimate goal is to become a master at life. In the long run, the greatest benefit we receive from pursuing our dreams is not the outer trappings of fulfilling the dream, but who we become in the process.

The outer symbols of success can all be easily lost. Houses burn down, companies go bankrupt, relationships end, cars get old, bodies age and fame wanes, but who you are, what you have learned, and the new skills you have developed never go away. These are the true prizes of success. Motivational philosopher Jim Rohn advises that “You should set a goal big enough that in the process of achieving it, you become someone worth becoming.”

Turn Your Dreams Into Goals and Objectives

Once you are clear about what you want, write them down and turn each item into a measurable objective. Measurable means measurable in space and time – how much and by when.

For instance, if you were to tell me that you wanted more money, I might pull out a dollar and give it to you. You would probably protest, saying “No, I meant a lot more money, like $20,000!” But there is no way I’d know how you’d define “more money” unless you tell me, right?

Similarly, your boss, your friends, your spouse, your brain, God, and the Universe can’t figure out what you want unless you tell them specifically what it is. What exactly do you want and when do you want it by?

Your Goals Impact Others

As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, they compel others to want to play big, too.

You’ll also discover that when your dreams include service to others – that is, accomplishing something that contributes to others – it accelerates the accomplishment of that goal. People want to be part of something that contributes and makes a difference.

Work on Your Goals Daily

To keep your subconscious mind focused on what you want, read your list of goals everyday. For an even more powerful approach, close your eyes and focus on each goal and ask yourself, “What is one thing I could do today to move toward the achievement of this goal?” Write down your answers and take those actions.

As the old joke goes, “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” Steady progress in bite-sized chunks puts even the most audacious goals into reach.


 

WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE?
You can, as long as you include this complete statement with it: Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul®and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com