The #1 reason you can’t get what you want

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The #1 reason you can’t get what you want

I have spent my whole life studying, living, and teaching the common principles that successful people follow to achieve their goals and create the life of their dreams.

And one thing I’ve noticed is this:

Most people fail at achieving true success because they haven’t clearly defined what “success” means for them.

After all, if you don’t know what you’re looking for, it’s almost impossible to find it! So here’s a question I’d like you to think about…

How do YOU define “success?”

If you answered something like, “making a ton of money,” or “having a big house and fancy car,” or “owning a multimillion dollar company and dominating my industry,” you are thinking way too small. Success isn’t about what you have – it’s about how you feel.

If you wake up every morning excited to dive into what the day holds in store for you, THAT is success. If your heart overflows with joy because of the loving relationships in your life, THAT is success. If you’re living your life in alignment with your highest beliefs and make a positive difference in the world, THAT is success.

Are you living your own definition of success – or someone else’s?

Inside of every one of us is a tiny seed of the “you” that you were meant to become. Unfortunately, you have buried this seed in response to your parents, teachers, coaches, and other adult role models as you were growing up.

Think of all the times you were told…

“Don’t touch that!”

“You don’t really feel that way.”

“You can’t have everything you want.”
“Stop being so selfish!”

“Can’t you think of anyone but yourself?!”

After many years of listening to these kinds of sanctions, most of us eventually lose touch with the needs of our bodies and the desires of our hearts – and got stuck trying to figure out what other people wanted us to do. We learned how to act and how to be to get their approval.

  • We go to medical school because that’s what Dad wanted for us.
  • We get married to please our mother
  • We get a “real job” instead of pursuing a dream career in the arts

In the name of being sensible, we end up becoming numb to our own desires. There are too many layers of “should’s” and “ought to’s” and “you’d better’s” piled on top of and suffocating what you really want.

It’s time to reclaim your vision

So how do you get back to what you really want and reconnect with your true passion with no fear, shame, or inhibition?

You start small by recognizing and honoring your own preferences in every situation. When you are confronted with a choice, no matter how small or insignificant, ask yourself, “What do I really want?”

Remaining unclear about what you want – and making other people’s needs and desires more important than your own – is a habit. You can break it by practicing the opposite habit.

You can also create a list of all the things you love to do – and all the things you want to do, have, and be in your life – and review the list regularly to keep it top of mind. By acknowledging your own wants and desires, you make it possible for yourself to act on them in a much more powerful way.

I can help you get clear on your vision – and create a step-by-step plan to achieve it

If you aren’t 100% clear on what your ideal life looks like or what you need to do to achieve it, join me at Breakthrough to Success!

During 5 life-changing days in a desert oasis, I will help you get clear on exactly what you want from life, help you overcome the obstacles that have been holding you back from achieving it, and create a detailed road map that shows you exactly what you need to do to make it happen.

To learn more about Breakthrough to Success, click here: BREAKTHROUGH TO SUCCESS 2015.

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What makes YOU happy?

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It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy. – Lucille Ball

What makes YOU happy?

It’s the million-dollar question, isn’t it…

No matter how successful you are, if you’re not doing work that feeds your soul and inspires you to show up as your best possible self, you’ll never feel 100 percent alive.

There will always be a gap between where you are – and where you truly want to be.

The good news is, it’s never too late to hit the pause button and re-design your life.

… You can take your career or business to the next level – or change the script completely and set off on a new path that’s better aligned with your passion and purpose.

… You can revitalize your relationships with your friends, family, and colleagues, and achieve more balance and harmony in your life.

… You can embark on the adventure of a lifetime or finally set off to achieve that lifelong dream you’ve always been afraid to pursue.

Everything you want is within your grasp…

You just have to reach out and embrace it.

I can help you achieve this kind of life-changing transformation in one of the most inspiring locations in the world:

ITALY, birthplace of the original Renaissance!

Join me and a group of 25 other private clients in a gorgeous 17th-century villa in Tuscany – and launch yourself toward a life that makes you happier than you ever dreamed possible.

During this exclusive four-day private retreat, you will:

  • Get the inspiration and clarity you need to redefine your vision for your ideal life
  • Create a road map that will launch you to a higher level of personal brilliance
  • Rejuvenate your soul and revitalize your sense of purpose so you keep moving forward toward your goals

I am so excited to be offering this powerful retreat at such an inspiring location.

Won’t you join us?

Click here to learn more and reserve your spot

Please note that we have only 26 spots available for this retreat – and half are already taken.

So if you’re interested in joining me in Italy, book your spot ASAP.

Hope to see you there!

5 powerful strategies to help you achieve any goal

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5 powerful strategies to help you achieve any goal

Now that we’re into April and the first quarter of 2015 is over, it’s time to revisit your intentions for the year and take stock of what you’ve accomplished so far.

Think back to January… What were the main goals or intentions you set for yourself or your business this year? How many have you crossed off the list or made significant progress toward achieving?

If you’re falling behind schedule or finding it hard to stay focused on your big goals, here are five of my most powerful Success Principles to help you recharge your motivation and sense of purpose – and move closer to achieving success with every action and decision you make.

Consider it a spring tune-up for your intentions!

 1. Practice persistence

What’s the one common attribute high achievers share above anything else? PERSISTENCE. When they have a goal, they simply refuse to give up until they reach it – no matter what roadblocks life throws in their way.

Consider the story of Admiral Robert Peary, who attempted to reach the North Pole seven times before he finally succeeded on try number eight. Or screenwriter Craig Borten, who wrote the screenplay for Dallas Buyers Club in 1992 and struggled for 20 years to get his script turned into a movie – which became a huge success and won numerous awards, including the Oscar for best original screenplay.

You can read about them and many other ordinary people who have persevered to achieve extraordinary success in The Success Principles, Chapter 22: Practice Persistence. I encourage you to review this chapter so you can learn from their examples and be inspired by their stories. It’s a great way to reignite your own motivation!

2. Face what isn’t working

If you are going to become more successful, you have to get out of denial and face isn’t working in your life. Are your goals simply too big to accomplish in the time you have available? Are you lacking some essential skills required to achieve them? Are you in denial about the amount of support you need?

Successful people face these circumstances squarely, heed the warning signs, and take appropriate action, no matter how uncomfortable or challenging it might be.

Do you need to talk to someone? Ask someone for help? Find a new resource? Read a book? Call an expert? Make a plan to fix it?

Choose one action you can take and then do it. Then keep taking another action and another action until you get the situation resolved.

3. Transcend your limiting beliefs

Sometimes the biggest reason we don’t move forward is because deep down we don’t think we’re actually capable of achieving or goals – or deserving of the success we long for.

If you have limiting beliefs or negative thoughts holding you back from reaching your goals, take some time to identify what these thoughts and beliefs are and then transform them into an empowering belief using these four steps:

  1. Write down the negative belief
  2. Describe how the belief limits you
  3. Decide how you would rather be, act, or feel
  4. Create a turnaround statement that affirms your right to be, act, or feel this new way.

For example…

Limiting belief: I have to do everything by myself. Asking for help is a sign of weakness.

Turnaround statement: It’s okay to ask for help. I am worthy or receiving all the support I need – and I know it will help me reach my goals faster.

4. Stay motivated with the masters

Motivation comes from within – but sometimes you need an external nudge to push you forward in the right direction. That’s why I’m a firm believer in reading, watching, or listening to something that motivates you every day – even if it’s only for 15 minutes.

Whether you’re commuting by car or train, riding your bike, going for a run, or simply find yourself with a few minutes in front of the computer, listening to audio or video recordings can give you the edge you need to excel in virtually any area of your life. You can keep yourself motivated, learn a language, learn management skills, learn sales and marketing strategies, learn better communication, learn about holistic health and more.

By devoting more time to developing success-oriented thoughts and attitudes, you are guaranteed to reach your goals faster.

To become even more effective at creating change in your life, I suggest you start using SMART goals. Here’s a great article by Brian Tracy to get started using them for business success and wealth.

5. Take BOLD actions to get BIG results

When you start a new project, take on a new venture, or put yourself out there, there is usually some fear. Unfortunately, most people let fear stop them from taking the necessary steps to achieve their dreams.

Successful people, on the other hand, feel the fear along with the rest of us but don’t let it keep them from doing anything they want to do – or have to do. They understand that fear is something to be acknowledged, experienced, and taken along for the ride. And they challenge themselves to take bold action, trusting that they have what it takes to handle the outcome.

That’s why I dare you to think big – and act bigger. By taking a leap of faith in the face of fear, you can transform your life.

Two things you can do right now to catapult yourself toward success

One way you could take a huge leap forward would be to sign up for my five-day personal transformation event, Breakthrough to Success. It’s the fastest guaranteed way to get clear on what you really want, breakthrough any fears, and create an achievable road plan that will launch yourself toward the life you’ve always wanted.

Or, if you dream of becoming a world-class speaker, trainer, coach, or consultant, sign up for Train the Trainer – and become a Certified Canfield Success Principles Trainer so you can learn my own experiential training methodologies and become a world-class human potential worker.

So those are my five top “spring cleaning” tips to help you recharge your intentions and keep moving closer to your ideal life with every action and decision you make.

Please share your thoughts or questions in the comments below – and if you know of anyone who would find these tips helpful, please feel free to share!

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 WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE?
You can, as long as you include this complete statement with it: Jack Canfield, America’s #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul® and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you’re ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com

VIDEO #3: How to speak to the 5 dimensions of a person’s being

Welcome to the third video in my series about the power of Transformational Training!

Here’s the first two in case you missed them:

  1. What Does It Mean to be a Transformational Trainer (19 minutes)
  2. What Makes Transformational Training So Powerful? (12 minutes)

In today’s 17-minute video, you’ll learn more about teaching to the 5 dimensions of a person. This makes it possible for your students or audience to experience the power of your teaching in all aspects of their minds, bodies, and spirits, so the message hits home more deeply and it’s easier for them to incorporate it into their mindsets and lives.

These are incredibly valuable skills that can be used in any teaching situation – in front of a class, on-stage, coaching personal clients, training staff, consulting for large organizations – even parenting your teenagers and young children!

If you’d like to learn more about how to get your message across on a deeper and more fundamental level, check out the video:  

NOTE: These are the exact training methods I teach students in my world-renowned Train the Trainer program.

If you’d like to learn more about becoming a Certified Canfield Success Principles Trainer – and use my transformational teaching methods to create profound positive change in people’s lives – click on the link below:

TRAIN THE TRAINER CERTIFICATION PROGRAM

Do you know anyone who’s interested in becoming a more effective teacher, trainer, or speaker? Please share this video with them!

And if you have any questions or comments about teaching to the 5 dimensions of a person, please post them below. We’d love to know your thoughts!

VIDEO #2: The difference between Transformational Trainers and Talking Heads

In my last blog post, I shared a short video taken from an hour-long interview I did last year on the topic of Transformational Training – and what it means to teaching people experientially from the inside out.

Here’s the next video in the series… It’s called “What Makes Transformational Training So Powerful” and will help you understand why this kind of experiential teaching methodology is so much more powerful than other teaching, training, or speaking styles.

(Hint: it’s because it involves having a system that actually moves people from point A to point B.)

The video is only 12 minutes long but well worth your time. If you’re a speaker, teacher, trainer, coach or consultant who’s interested in knowing how to create profound and lasting change in people, I encourage you to check it out!

NOTE: This is the same methodology I teach to my students in my Train the Trainer Certification Program. If you’d like to learn how to become a Transformational Trainer – and take your own speaking, teaching, or training career to the next level – I’m accepting a new group of students who want to become Certified to teach my Success Principles and join the ranks of the next generation of Human Potential Trainers.

Click here to learn how you can become a Certified Canfield Success Principles Trainer.

If you have any comments or questions about Transformational Training, please post them in the comments below!