Guess who’s coming to Italy? (hint: he’ll breathe fire into your business)

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Exciting news – a Dragon will be joining us at my private retreat in Italy this July!  That’s right, I said “Dragon.”  I’m talking about Sean Gallagher, one of Ireland’s top entrepreneurs and finalist for the Ernst Young Entrepreneur of the Year award.

Here he is:
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Sean is best known as co-founder and former CEO of Ireland’s largest home technology company, Smarthomes.  He was also a popular investor on Dragons’ Den – an International version of the U.S. television show, Shark Tank – and is known as a champion for start-ups and emerging entrepreneurs.

 HE’LL BREATHE FIRE INTO YOUR BUSINESS

Over the last 20 years, Sean has successfully trained and mentored hundreds of start-ups and emerging entrepreneurs.   And now he’s going to share his brilliant business mind with the 26 participants who attend my private luxury retreat in Italy this July!

I’ve asked Sean to come on board as a facilitator because many of the registered participants have said they want to focus on growing their business during the four-day retreat.  I know that Sean will give them invaluable support that will launch them toward achieving their most ambitious goals.

WILL YOU BE JOINING US?

There are only 4 spots left at the retreat – and I suspect with this announcement those spots are going to fill very quickly. (The retreat IS taking place in gorgeous Tuscany, after all!)  So, If you’d like to seize the chance to work one-on-one with me to achieve more than you ever thought possible – NOW is the time to act.

You can learn more about this life-changing retreat here: http://JackCanfieldRetreat.com

We hope to see you there!

The Power of Asking

I was recently having lunch with my team and loved a story that one of them was telling about the power of Asking.  I thought this would be a great one to share with you all for inspiration!

From Teresa: 

“I was in the process of having an old pair of diamond earrings redesigned and repurposed by my local jeweler.  It was a creative and careful venture, but it did cost a fair amount to work with the jeweler on this.  Although I had a balance pending, I was delighted to do it as a small investment to bring something old to something sparkly and new.  7 days later, I got the call the earrings were ready for pick up!  Before I was about to drive to the jeweler to pick up the earrings, I realized I had another diamond necklace and diamond earrings sitting my jewelery drawer that I never wore.  They were gifts from a broken relationship and only brought sad memories for me, therefore I would never wear them and I kept them in their boxes at the bottom of the drawer.  These two pieces were purchased by this jeweler and they were still very beautiful.  I asked myself, “if I returned these pieces, I wonder if the jeweler might take them back and give me a modest credit to reduce the balance of my newly renovated earrings”  But just at that moment, a feeling of fear and doubt flashed before me, and I started to ask “what if that’s corny and cheap and looks a little desperate.  What if they say no way!!  I’ve had these pieces for years and now I want a selfish credit in return, who do I think I am asking for such a request?”   I had to sing Jack’s mantra “oh what the heck go for it anyway!!”  A silly fearful thought almost caused me to talk myself out of asking a small question to my jeweler.  What if I asked and the jeweler said no, we don’t do that?  Big Deal!!  What if he says YES!!

I went to the jeweler with the 2 pieces and asked his daughter who works for him, if they might take them back and if there’s a chance for a credit to reduce the balance on the diamond earrings—there I did it!  Sure enough the jeweler said “sorry, no we don’t do that on labor and repairs, you still owe for the balance.”  I smiled and paid the balance and felt good that I asked, it was over.  After the bill was settled, the jeweler asked if she could examine the 2 pieces I brought and to look up my file.  She said “I’d like to talk to my father about your credit.”  Credit!!  what?!!!  I thought you don’t give credit on returned jewelery.  She said “we don’t on repairs and labor, however we might still be able to give you a credit in the store, let me see what I can do.”   Her father looked at me and waved from across the room and smiled, he owned the store.  She came back and said “we love you and love your business, he’s giving you $2000 credit on anything in the store, in fact the necklace you really liked last year is still available”  What!!??  I did have my eye on a beautiful necklace last year but never took it seriously that I would ever own it, although I had always wondered about that necklace in my mind it didn’t seem a reality at the time!  That day was a blessing and small miracle, I walked out not only with my earrings but a beautiful, new necklace and still have credit at their store to use.  It’s as if a new chapter has started and a little gift from God to remind me that it’s okay to ask, no matter what the fear, a door will be opened no matter what the outcome.  Courage is strengthened and that will carry you through the times when it matters the most!”

Success Principle #17: Ask! Ask! Ask!

Take time now to make a list of the things that you want that you don’t ask for at home, school, or work. Next to each one, write down how you stop yourself from asking.  What is your fear?  Next, write down what it is costing you not to ask.  Then write down what benefit you would get if you were to ask.  Then get out there and start asking!

Don’t assume that you are going to get a no.  Take the risk to ask for whatever you need and want.  If someone says no, you are no worse off than when you started.  If someone says yes, you are a lot better off.  Just by being willing to ask, you can get a raise, a donation, a room with an ocean view, a discount, a free sample, a date, a better assignment, the order, time off, help with the housework, etc.  Teresa’s example above is such a wonderful example of the power of Asking. 

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The Success Principles is a roadmap for anyone—from marketing professionals to small business owners, and from teachers to students and parents—striving to achieve their professional and personal dreams and goals. Touching on every aspect of our lives, Jack Canfield offers 64 practical and inspiring principles to get any aspiring person from where they are to where they want to be. – See more at: http://jackcanfield.com/products/the-success-principles/#sthash.AN7wESP5.dpuf
The Success Principles is a roadmap for anyone—from marketing professionals to small business owners, and from teachers to students and parents—striving to achieve their professional and personal dreams and goals. Touching on every aspect of our lives, Jack Canfield offers 64 practical and inspiring principles to get any aspiring person from where they are to where they want to be. – See more at: http://jackcanfield.com/products/the-success-principles/#sthash.AN7wESP5.dpuf
The Success Principles is a roadmap for anyone—from marketing professionals to small business owners, and from teachers to students and parents—striving to achieve their professional and personal dreams and goals. Touching on every aspect of our lives, Jack Canfield offers 64 practical and inspiring principles to get any aspiring person from where they are to where they want to be. – See more at: http://jackcanfield.com/products/the-success-principles/

Are You Playing to Win…or Not to Lose?

If you have a habit of not finishing what you start, you may have attributed your lack of results to disorganization or a lack of focus. For some individuals, however, this habit is signs of an underlying psychological pattern of playing not to lose.

Stuart Emery, author of Life is Not a Dress Rehearsal and Success Built to Last, noted that where most people tackle situations with a goal of winning, others approach life with a goal of avoiding losing. Somewhere in life, they decided that they were incapable of winning and have lowered their expectations to merely not coming in last.

The groundwork for this pattern is often laid in childhood. For example, if a father raves over his young daughter’s drawing, she may have next colored on the wall, not recognizing that the wall is not an appropriate place to express artwork. After repeated incidents of getting in trouble in such a way, she may have drawn the conclusion that she couldn’t win. She didn’t like the pain of not winning, so she unconsciously adopted the strategy of trying not to lose in the future.

Not finishing what you start is one of many habits you fall back on when playing to not lose. The reason this has worked for you in the past is that if something is incomplete, it cannot be judged as not good enough. You can just say that it’s not “finished.”

Other ways we ‘play not to lose” include:

  • Playing the Judge.  By being the judge, you never have to be the participant. By pointing out how imperfectly others are dancing, for instance, you get to avoid dancing yourself, which could open the door to you failing at the task.
  • Being perfect. With this approach, you attempt to not lose by doing everything as perfectly as you can… or at least by presenting a front that you are “perfect.” You never really relax or let your guard down. Instead, you overdo everything instead.
  • Becoming a “problem.” If you take on the role of the identified problem, others will need to stop and take care of you. This is a form of sabotage. Because others are directing their time and energy into helping you and are less likely to win themselves.

If you recognize that you’ve been playing not to lose, it’s time to shift the behavior.

Embrace Feedback

Your decision to stop playing to win was most likely unconscious. You received feedback that you interpreted as being a condemnation of your abilities and who you are.

An important step in shifting this pattern will be recognizing feedback for what it is: Information that tells you whether you are on course or off course.

When you get negative feedback – such as lack of results, little or no money, criticism, poor evaluation, inner conflict, and unhappiness – it’s a sign that you are moving away from your intended goal.  Evaluate what you’re doing and make a course correction.

When you receive positive feedback, such as praise, happiness, money and results, you’ll know that you are back on course.

Sharpen Your Focus

Another thing you can do, particularly if you’ve developed a habit of not completing what you start, is to train yourself to sharpen your focus.

In the Achievers Focusing System, Les Hewitt, author of The Power of Focus, teaches his clients to focus their attention only on what they want to accomplish in the next three months. They select one goal in each area of their lives during that period.

Then, each week, they identify the three most important things that must be accomplished during that 7-day period to move them closer to their goals. A weekly check-in with your accountability partner helps to keep you accountable for achieving these tasks.

To download a free copy of the Achievers Focusing System 3-month planner, click here. (For your convenience, we’ve also posted a filled-in version of the form so that you can see what type of information should be entered in each field.)

Chunk It Down

The final word of advice: As you begin to build a new habit of completing what you start, you may feel overwhelmed and lost about what to do next when you look at your list of goals. The best approach is to chunk down your goals into small, manageable steps.

Interview people who have already accomplished what you want to do and ask them to share all of the steps they took. If you can find a book or manual that guides you through the process, even better. Another approach is to imagine that it’s the future and you’ve already accomplished your goal. Start at the end and look backward. Notice what you had to do to get to where you are.

Capture all of these steps in a list or mind map. Then convert all of your to-do items into daily action items that can be plugged into your calendar. Start with the first item on your list, and when it’s finished, cross it off and tackle the next item. Before you know it, you’ll be completing projects and well on your way to playing to win.

Playing not to lose may protect you from the potential pain of negative feedback. But the cost is steep. Every time you fail to live up to the commitments you make to yourself and others, you undermine your self-confidence. Use the steps outlined in this article to identify why you’ve settled for simply not losing and to take the corrective action you need to complete what you start.


Looking for more ways to increase your focus and take action to achieve your goals? Jack’s Breakthrough to Success training is the perfect environment for creating lasting transformation in your life and career. Get details here.

 

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Staying Focused in the Face of Negativity

The Law of Attraction states that whatever you focus on is what you will attract into your life. This is why it’s essential to stay focused on your goals.

Unfortunately, many people find it difficult to maintain focus in today’s world, where we’re bombarded by negative messages from the media, co-workers, friends, relatives and even clients.

The good news is that you can take action to shield yourself from motivation-sapping, fear-instilling negativity. This article shares 5 easy ways to get started.

Tip #1: Accept 100% Responsibility

The most critical principle to master if you want to create greater success is to accept 100 percent responsibility for your life – including the type and amount of negativity to which you allow yourself to be exposed.

Your job is to take care of yourself. This includes creating environments that are conducive to success. Take note of how negativity manifests in your life, and then consider ways that you can reduce your exposure.

For instance, do you watch or read the news every day? Try abstaining, and trust that if anything major happens, such as a natural disaster, someone will tell you. At that point, you can choose to read an article or two to bring yourself up to date.

Do you have well-meaning relatives who urge you not to follow your dreams because they fear the consequences of the risks you’ll take to achieve your goals? You may want to limit the time you spend with these individuals.

Alternatively, recognize their advice for what it is: an expression of their love and concern for you. The simple truth is that many people are blind to their limiting beliefs and how it colors their view of the world. Simply thank these well-meaning individuals for caring enough about you to share their thoughts, then turn your attention back to your goals.

 Tip #2: Release Negative Feelings

To attract what you want in life, you must live in a state of love, joy and gratitude. Negative environments stir up feelings of fear, anxiety and doubt, which must be released so that you can return to a higher state of feeling and vibration.

The Sedona Method, created by Hale Dwoskin, offers a fast and effective solution to the need to release negative feelings.

Start by tuning in to the feeling that is disturbing you. Really feel the emotion – welcome it and let it flood your body.

Then ask yourself, “Could I let it [the feeling] go?” Both “yes” and “no” are acceptable answers.

Next, ask, “Would I let it go?” If your answer is “no,” ask whether you would rather have this feeling or would you rather be free.

Finally, ask, “When?” This is an invitation to let the feeling go now. You can make the decision to release a feeling anytime you want. Repeat the entire process as often as needed until you feel free of that particular feeling.

Most people either wallow in their negative emotions or they try to resist experiencing negative feelings. Neither approach works. Use the Sedona Method to allow your emotions to flow through you, so that you can return to a positive state.

Tip #3: The Evening Review

Whatever you read, see, listen to, talk about and experience during the last 45 minutes of your evening has a huge influence on your sleep and your next day. During the night, your unconscious mind replays and processes this late-night input up to six times more often than anything else you experienced during the day. Use the following process to focus your unconscious mind.

Sit with your eyes closed, breathing deeply. Ask your mind to show you where you could have been more effective, more conscious, more loving, more assertive, or more of any other characteristic you want to focus on. (Note: review only one characteristic at a time).

You’ll see that a number of events from the day will come to mind. Observe them without any self-criticism. Then take each incident and replay in it in your mind the way you would have preferred to have done it. This will help you form the desired behavior the next time you face the same situation.

Tip #4: The Daily Success Focus Journal

Another way to stay focused on your goals and on the positive is to create a Daily Success Focus Journal.

Each evening, identify 5 accomplishments you made throughout the day. Next, identify why each accomplishment is important to you. Then, identify how you can make further progress in the same area. Finally, write down a specific action step that will lead to this progress and enter the to-do item into your schedule.

Tip #5: Create Your Ideal Day

Before you leave work or go to bed, take a few minutes to plan your schedule for the following day. Doing so sets you up for success, as you’ll be able to get right to work as soon as you begin your day.

After planning your schedule, take a few additional minutes to visualize your day going exactly as you want it. See yourself performing at your best in every situation you will encounter. This gives your subconscious all night to work on creating ways to make it all happen just as you visualized it.
Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what else is happening. They choose to concentrate on their success, rather than their failures, and on the next action steps they need to take. Use the tips outlined in this article to stay positive and proactive as you create your ideal life.


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hen you dig in and do the work, by the end of the 10 days
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