Video: Become an Inverse Paranoid (Part 5 of 6)

 

 

Hi, it’s Jack Canfield here with another Success Principles tip for creating the life that you want… and this principle is…

Become an Inverse Paranoid

My earliest mentor, W. Clement Stone, was once described as an “inverse paranoid.” Now what does that mean? It means, that instead of believing the world was plotting to do him harm, he actually chose to believe the world was always plotting to do him good. So, instead of seeing every difficult or challenging event as negative, he saw it for what it could be – something that was meant to enrich him, empower him or advance his causes.

Imagine how much easier it would be to succeed in life if you were constantly expecting the world to support you and bring you opportunity. Now successful people do just that – they look for the opportunity in everything, no matter how negative or challenging it might seem.

So, if you take the approach that everyone and everything that shows up in your life is there for a reason – and that the universe is moving you toward your ultimate destiny for learning, for growth, and for achievement, you will begin to see very event – no matter how difficult or challenging – as an opportunity for enrichment and advancement in your life.

So make a small sign or poster with the words “What’s the opportunity that this is?” and then place it on your desk or above your computer, or on your bathroom mirror, so you will constantly be reminded to look for the good in every event.

You might also want to start each day by repeating the phrase. “I believe the world is plotting to do me good today. I can’t wait to see what it is.”

And then look for the opportunities and miracles to unfold…because they will!

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This is the fifth in a series of video tips on how you can create the life you want. I’ll be sharing more video tips over the coming weeks so please be sure to check back often or sign up for my Success Strategies e-zine and we’ll notify you when a new video is posted.

Watch Video Tip #1: How to take control of your life and results

Watch Video Tip #2: How to Stop Settling for Less

Watch Video Tip #3: The importance of Believing it’s Possible

Watch Video Tip #4: Believe in Yourself

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When We Grow Others, We Grow Ourselves

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In his book Winning with People, Dr. John C. Maxwell talks about the Boomerang Principle, which says that “when we help others, we help ourselves.” Even when there is no direct return of investment on those we have helped, the sense of fulfillment, which comes from helping others, is in itself worth it. People derive a true sense of happiness when they act in the service of others and are involved in charitable works without demanding anything in return.

If you coach for a fee, you will find that the joy and fulfillment of coaching far surpasses any financial reward you may earn. If you coach for free, of course, you will also receive those same benefits.

The Benefits of Coaching People

One of the most valuable outcomes from coaching people is that you also develop yourself in the process of coaching. It is the genuine passion and intention to grow others that spurs us on to transform ourselves. To develop others, we have to first develop ourselves . . . and to continuously change others, we can’t help but continuously transform ourselves.

Before we coach, we learn, we prepare, and we reflect on how we can be an effective coach. During the coaching session, we gain hands-on experience and practice coaching skills and techniques. After coaching, we reflect on what transpired during the dialogue and what went well, what didn’t, and how we can do better next time. This cycle of learning returns over and over again throughout the entire coaching relationship. As we coach more people, we inculcate knowledge, skills, and competencies in coaching that will help us in many aspects of our professional and personal lives.

When we constantly apply these coaching competencies into what we do daily, we are enriched and we become better leaders, team players, spouses, parents, and friends.

Thomas G. Crane, author of The Heart of Coaching, asserts that transformational coaching is applied leadership. In many ways, being a good coach for the people who work with you makes you a better leader because the ability to coach and develop people has come to be accepted as one of the major competencies of a good leader. According to John Whitmore, the author of Coaching for Performance, “A manager’s job is simple—to get the job done and grow his staff. Time and resource pressures limit the latter. Coaching is one process that accomplishes both.”

If you are a leader who effectively coaches others, you grow your people. When that happens, they produce better results; this in turn brings you and your organization to a higher level of success. When you coach a lot of people in your company, and they see the great value that occurs, this motivates them to become coaches too. This creates a multiplier effect that often goes beyond those who report directly to you. It helps create a culture of coaching and leadership excellence throughout the whole organization. This is what Jeff Fettig, the chairman of Whirlpool Corporation, did to grow his organization. He fully committed himself to coaching people and to creating a coaching culture. He firmly believed that when he developed others, he developed himself and when he developed himself and others, he developed his organization. Coaching people is so important to developing leaders that Jack Welch, the legendary former CEO and chairman of GE, decreed that those who did not coach others would not be promoted. Welch knew that when his leaders grew others, they grew themselves and the organization.

As you have seen in the Coaching Principles explained in the earlier part of this book, when you develop as a coach, you learn to believe in people’s potential; you learn how to empower people to bring out the best in them and to let them lead; you cultivate the ability of using influence to motivate people from within rather than using authority to command them from without; and you develop resilience and the ability to thrive on adversity and flexibility.

As you delve further into this book, you will discover other principles that when applied in coaching will develop your ability to establish rapport and build good and trusting relationships with people. You’ll learn how to become a good listener in order to gain valuable input from others; to use intuition and observation to help you discover solutions and root causes of problems; to ask effective questions to draw out the best from others; to give and receive effective feedback for creating awareness and making improvements; to provide useful suggestions and use the power of simplicity to establish clarity and focus; to set goals and develop action plans that create ownership and commitment; to establish a system to keep track of action steps and progress; to solicit accountability that drives accomplishments; and to provide ongoing encouragement, support, and acknowledgment for the attainment of goals.

CBC-book-click-to-buyWhen you successfully apply the Achievers Coaching Techniques explained in Chapters 10 to 17, you will become a highly effective coach. When you grow to such a level, you will have acquired the ability to help people transform and develop themselves in the following ways:

  • Changing their mindsets and their habits
  • Overcoming their limiting beliefs
  • Building stronger self-esteem
  • Discovering their life purposes and their visions
  • Using the power of visualization and affirmations to accelerate the accomplishment of their self-chosen goals
  • Coming up with effective strategies and action plans to achieve their goals
  • Staying in action to achieve their highly ambitious goals

These same capabilities will also help you become a better team player, spouse, parent, and friend. For example, when you develop better listening skills, your spouse will feel that he or she is important to you and that you understand them better. Your friends will appreciate you more when you give them the gift of attention by listening to them more intently. Your children will feel more understood when you take time to listen to the problems they are facing rather than simply telling them what to do. When you continue to coach people over time, you will discover that it will benefit all areas of your life.

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Learn more in Jack’s latest book, Coaching for Breakthrough Success which is an invaluable resource for anyone who wants to assist others in raising and improving performance. Download the first chapter of the book free and then order your copy of Coaching for Breakthrough Success from Amazon.com or BarnesAndNoble.com.

The Coaching Spirit: 8 Principles for Coaching Success

8 Coaching Principles infographicMy life’s purpose is to motivate, inspire and empower people and organizations to live their highest vision in the context of love and joy. I’ve been coaching and training for the last 40 years of my life and have built an entire coaching division of my company where together, we’ve been able to successfully coach thousands of people to get past their roadblocks and create massive success, joy, and prosperity in their lives. Throughout this time, I have deeply connected with my coaching spirit and developed 8 coaching principles that create the foundation of successful trainers.

In my latest book, Coaching for Breakthrough Success, my co-author, Dr. Peter Chee, and I provide business professionals with various coaching principles that they can put to use every single day. We explain how to draw out solutions from employees through effective listening, asking great questions, using feedback, appreciating and continuously supporting people to take ownership, and be accountable for taking action to realize their goals.

Below is a list of principles that can be effectively used for coaching success.

The Coaching Spirit

  1. Believe in Human Potential for Greatness
  2. Fulfillment Flows from Adding Value to Others
  3. Bring Out the Best in People and Let Them Lead
  4. Use Influence Rather than Position
  5. Thrive on Challenges and Flexibility
  6. When We Grow Others, We Grow Ourselves
  7. A Coach Still Needs a Coach

Relationship and Trust

  1. Maintain Authentic Rapport and Humor
  2. Touch a Heart with Care and Sincerity
  3. Practice Integrity and Build Trust

Asking Questions and Curiosity

  1. Curiosity Ignites Your Spirit
  2. Ask Questions that Empower and Create Buy-In
  3. Avoid Judgmental and Advice-Oriented Questions
  4. Powerful Questions Release Solutions
  5. Asking Great Questions Requires Practice

Listening and Intuition

  1. Listen Rather Than Tell
  2. Be Present and Turn Off Your Inner Dialogue
  3. Avoid Jumping to Premature Conclusions
  4. Be Impartial and Nonjudgmental
  5. Listen Deeply, Use Observation and Intuition

Tip: Click here to learn how to meditate for clarity, intuition and mindfulness. 

Feedback and Awareness

  1. Embrace Feedback to Triumph
  2. Awareness and Acceptance Cultivates Transformation

Suggestions and Simplification

  1. Get Consent Before Giving Suggestions
  2. Use the Power of Simplicity
  3. Study the habits of successful people

Goals and Action Plans

  1. Establish Goal Ownership and Commitment
  2. Create Strategies and Action Plans for Goals
  3. Keep Score of Goals and Action Steps
  4. Use visualization techniques to maintain focus and to leverage the Law of Attraction

Accountability and Accomplishments

  1. Support Goals Completion Continuously
  2. Accountability Drives Accomplishments
  3. Acknowledge Efforts and Progress

You can read about each of these principles in more detail when you download the first chapter of Coaching for Breakthrough Success FREE here.

Remember to focus on the energy your students emit, as well. It helps to think of motivation as a shower that fades after a few days, compared to inspiration which is like a fire that never burns out. If you need a quick energy boost, then check out Brian Tracy’s motivational AND inspirational quotes about success to get your spirit back on track. 

New Book Release: Coaching for Breakthrough Success

CBC-book-click-to-buyI am thrilled to announce the release of Coaching for Breakthrough Success, my latest book, co-written with Dr. Peter Chee. Dr. Chee is the president and CEO of ITD World, a multinational corporation for human resource development, and he has more than 26 years of experience in training and developing leaders from over 80 countries. 

Coaching for Breakthrough Success shares the principles and best practices of great business coaches to inspire and propel people forward in their careers.

In this new book, we explain how to draw out solutions from employees through effective listening, asking great questions, using feedback, appreciating and continuously supporting people to take ownership, and be accountable for taking action to realize their goals.

Take a sneak-peek: Download the first chapter of the book free!

Our book introduces six paradigms of Situational Coaching that managers, leaders and coaches can use in any given situation:

  • Goals Paradigm: Where are you going? 
  • Exploration Paradigm: How are you going to get there?  What else do you need to consider?
  • Analysis Paradigm:  Where are you now?
  • Releasing Paradigm: How do you feel?  How can you feel better?
  • Decision Paradigm: Which path are you taking?
  • Action Paradigm: What action steps do you need to take? By when?

We also highlight and discuss the top 30 coaching principles that business professionals can put to use every day, including:

  • Using influence rather than position
  • Asking questions that empower and create buy-in
  • Listening rather than telling
  • How awareness and acceptance cultivates transformation
  • How growing others allows us to  grow ourselves

Filled with powerful personal stories, case studies, coaching conversation tips, sample coaching questions, and ready-to-use tools, Coaching for Breakthrough Success is an invaluable resource for anyone who wants to assist others in raising and improving performance.

Download the first chapter of the book free and then order your copy of Coaching for Breakthrough Success from Amazon.com or BarnesAndNoble.com.

Enjoy!

 

Twenty Years of Powerful, Inspirational Storytelling

blog - Chicken Soup for the Soul 20th anniversary edition frontTwenty years ago, I sat in meditation, waiting for inspiration about what to call the new book I had just written with my dear friend Mark Victor Hansen.

I suddenly saw the image of a huge green chalk board like the ones in school classrooms. A hand appeared—I imagined it was the hand of God—and wrote the words Chicken Soup on the chalkboard. I said to the hand, “What the heck does chicken soup have to do with this book?”

The hand replied, “When you were sick as a child, your grandmother gave you chicken soup.”

“This book is not about sick people, “ I replied.

“People’s spirits are sick. They are living in resignation, fear and hopelessness. This book will help them rise above it.”

My mind mulled that over. Chicken Soup for the Spirit, I thought. Hmmm. Chicken Soup for the Soul. Wham! All of a sudden I was covered in goose bumps. Chicken Soup for the Soul: Stories to Rekindle the Spirit!

It’s hard to believe that it’s now been 20 years since Mark Victor Hansen and I released that original best-selling book! I’m honored that it continues to bring hope, wellness, inspiration and love to hundreds of millions of people around the world.

Today, I’m very excited to announce that we have released Chicken Soup for the Soul 20th Anniversary Edition to inspire a new generation of readers with everyone’s favorite original stories, plus an additional 20 bonus stories.  This edition contains not only new stories from myself and Mark Victor Hansen, but also other powerful and inspiring stories from today’s top thought leaders.

Give the gift of Chicken Soup for the Soul 20th Anniversary Edition to a family member, a friend, or yourself. It will be a reminder of your love that will be opened and used over and over again.  

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Fuel Your Affirmations with these Positive “Feeling” Words

Every thought we think is creating our future. –Louise L. Hay

Affirmations are one of the most powerful ways to create a vibration match for what you want to attract into your life.

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Every thought you think and every word you say is an affirmation. Your thoughts and words are declarations of who you think you are and how you perceive the world to be. Every time you think a negative thought or make a self-depreciating comment you are actually affirming it as your personal truth. Fortunately, the same holds true for positive thoughts and statements.

Strong positive affirmations are powerful means of self-transformation and they are a key element in the creation of the life you desire. They work by purposely replacing the limiting ideas, negative beliefs and self-talk that you have taken on and internalized over the years with positive statements that assert who you want to be and how you want to experience life.

Below I have included a list of positive feeling word that you may want to use when creating your daily affirmations.  Remember, when creating affirmations you want to create positive, self-affirming, self-empowering statements that uplift and inspire you – that raise your emotional set point.

List of Positive Feeling Words for Affirmations and Law of Attraction Work

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Here are some examples of positive affirmations:

  • I am celebrating feeling light and alive at my perfect body weight of one thirty-five.
  • I am enjoying the thrill of flying.
  • I am attracting joy into my life.
  • I am confidently expressing myself openly and honestly.
  • I am feeling exhilarated, agile  and alive.
  • I am effectively communicating my needs and desires to my loving partner.
  • I am looking around me at the faces of the people I am helping and I am thrilled to know that I have made a difference in their life.
  • I am feeling relaxed and grateful to be sitting here in Hawaii with my toes buried in the warm sand, feeling the warmth of the sun on my face.

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And if you really want to take your life to the next level, I suggest putting into place daily affirmations. Use this powerful tool (and my free gift to you!) so you can re-create your self-image, replace your limiting beliefs, and achieve success. Click the graphic below to download my free Daily Affirmations for Success Step-By-Step Guide.

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Igniting the Law of Attraction

Molecular ThoughtsThe practice of giving thanks is commemorated today in America as a national holiday. But if you want to live the Law of Attraction, appreciation shouldn’t be confined to a solitary day. It should be incorporated into your daily living.

Appreciation is the oxygen that breathes life into the three-step Law of Attraction process. It turns the spark of your desire into a full-blown flame that effortlessly attracts the things you want like moths to a candle.

Three Steps to Attract What You Want

The first step of the Law of Attraction is quick and easy: Ask.  As soon as you become aware of a desire, announce it to the universe. State your intention out loud, write it down, post a picture of what you want on a vision board, or simply think, “I want that!”

The next step is Believe. Believe that you can have the thing you want, and then release your desire to the universe. Trust that you’ll receive what you want or something better. Either way, the decision is in the universe’s hands. Detachment from the outcome occurs when you have total faith that the universe will give you exactly what is perfect for you right here, right now.

Affirmations are used to remove doubt about whether you’ll get or you deserve what you want. An affirmation describes your goal as already complete. It affirms what you want vs. what you don’t want. It also captures how you feel when celebrating your goal. This allows you to feel the actual feelings you’ll experience upon achieving your goal. For example, “I am feeling light and alive at my perfect body weight of one thirty-five.

Appreciation works its magic during the final step – Receive. Appreciation is one of the highest emotional states you can be in. It is the state of abundance. The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. If you are grateful for what you have already received, you will attract more for which you can be grateful.

Think for a moment about your own experience with holiday gift giving. When relatives show sincere pleasure and appreciation for the gifts you give, no matter how simple, you want to shower them with even more. Gift giving becomes a delight for you as much as for the recipients. Contrast this with people who don’t acknowledge your presents or who dismiss them as not big enough, impressive enough, or “right” enough. Giving gifts to these individuals becomes an obligation. You don’t spend hours searching for the perfect gift. You settle for an item that’s adequate.

The universe operates in a similar way. Its best gifts go to individuals who vibrate at the highest levels of appreciation for the gifts they’ve already received.

To create the vibrational match with what you want, live in the feeling space of already possessing the things you want. Appreciate what you already have, and you’ll be vibrating in the same state of gratitude you’ll be in when the universe delivers what you want.

Appreciate the Smallest Blessings

Activate your gratitude by acknowledging the gifts most people take for granted.

If you have food in your refrigerator (meaning that you have electricity), clothes in your closet and a roof over your head, you are better off than 75 percent of the world’s population. If you eat three meals a day, you are far better off than the 1 billion people on the planet who eat once a day at most. Celebrate these simple blessings.

Do you have a phone? Be grateful – millions don’t. How about a car that allows you to travel to work or to explore the country? Is your family healthy? Do you have a computer and Internet access to stay in touch with the world, get access to education, and perform work for which you are paid? Do you have clean water to drink? These daily conveniences are gifts that most people in the world do not enjoy.

Daily Appreciation Habits

Here are five easy ways to make appreciation part of your daily routine:

  1. Take 7 minutes each morning to write down all you appreciate. Starting your day this way primes you to be receptive and grateful for everything your day will bring.
  2. Carry a physical token of gratitude in your pocket, such as a stone, crystal or some other small item. As you reach into your pocket throughout the day and feel the token, use it as a reminder to stop, breathe and take a moment to fully experience the emotion of gratitude.
  3. Appreciate at least 3 people every day. Most people enjoy receiving verbal appreciation. But written notes are also nice because they can be saved and re-read. (For ideas on expressing uncommon appreciation, click here.)
  4. Play the Appreciation Game. As the saying goes, “Every cloud has a silver lining.” Look for the good in all situations. When my wife was in a car accident a few years ago, she could have chosen to berate herself or question her judgment. Instead, she focused on her gratitude for suffering only minor injuries and for the help she received from other drivers.
  5. Appreciate yourself. We all need acknowledgement, but the most important acknowledgement is what we give ourselves. In addition to celebrating your big successes, acknowledge your small daily successes, too. During my annual Breakthrough to Success training, I assign the Mirror Exercise as homework because your subconscious mind needs positive encouragement to pursue further achievements and to change any negative beliefs you hold toward praise and accomplishment. This powerful exercise requires you to appreciate yourself for the day’s accomplishments while talking to yourself in a mirror.

Appreciation Is Not Human Nature

Many people find that it requires great diligence to cultivate an attitude of appreciation. We are culturally conditioned to focus on what we don’t have, rather than appreciating what we’ve already received.

Decades ago, the University of Chicago conducted a fascinating study into appreciation. Researchers took soldiers who had recently returned from the World War II Pacific Theater and housed them in Quonset huts on campus. At first, the men were delighted with their housing, because they were ecstatic to be off the battlefield. After about 30 days, however, they started to complain about their Quonset huts. Rather than being grateful for a simple, yet safe, place to live, they began to focus on what they didn’t have. They became dissatisfied with not having more comfortable quarters.

It may not feel natural at first to focus on appreciating what you already have. But by faithfully using the appreciation exercises outlined in this article, you’ll change your conditioning. Giving thanks will become more than an occasional exercise. It will become a daily discipline that allows you to vibrate in more of what you want from life.

 


 

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My Top LOA Reads

blog - loa resourcesSince its release in 2006, the movie “The Secret” has introduced millions of people to the Law of Attraction.  As one of the featured teachers in the movie, I firmly believe in the power of the Law of Attraction and I’ve used it for decades to effortlessly create ever-growing levels of success.

The Law of Attraction harnesses the power of the universe to deliver the people, resources and results that you want and need.

Recently, I was reviewing questions for an upcoming Ask Jack Canfield teleseminar  and I came across a question about which books, other than “The Secret,” I would recommend for people wanting to learn more about the Law of Attraction, so I thought I’d post a list here on my blog.

Law of Attraction Recommended Reading:

  •  The Science of Getting Rich: or Financial Success Through Creative Thought by Wallace D. Wattles
  • The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
  • Ask and It is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires by Jerry and Esther Hicks
  • Money and the Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks
  • The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent: Living the Art of Allowing by Jerry and Esther Hicks
  • The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham by Jerry and Esther Hicks
  • Gratitude: A Daily Journal by Jack Canfield and D.D. Watkins
  • Jack Canfield’s Key to Living the Law of Attraction by Jack Canfield and D.D. Watkins
  • The Attractor Factor: Five Easy Steps for Creating Wealth (or Anything Else) From the Inside by Joe Vitale
  • Magnetizing Your Heart’s Desire by Sharon A. Warren
  • Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting: The Astonishing Power of Feelings by Lynn Grabhorn
  • You Can Have it All: The Art of Winning the Money Game and Living a Life of Joy by Arnold M. Patent
  • The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter, and Miracles by Bruce Lipton
  • Creating Affluence: Wealth and Consciousness in the Field of All Possibilities by Deepak Chopra
  • Inspiration: Your Ultimate Calling by Wayne W. Dyer
  • The Science of Success: How to Attract Prosperity and Create Life Balance Through Proven Principles by James A. Ray
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
  • The Field: The Quest for the Secret Force of the Universe by Lynne McTaggart 
  • Quantum Power of Thought: Designing Your New Future Today by Grant Trevithick 
  • Are You Ready to Succeed?: Unconventional Strategies for Achieving Personal Mastery in Business and Life by Srikumar S. Rao
  • The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity: Forces that Bring Riches to You. by Catherine Ponder

When you learn to harness the Law of Attraction, you’ll discover that the things you want and need appear almost as if by magic.

Happy Reading!

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Consistently attract the good, positive and extraordinary!
Learn how to harness the power of the Law of Attraction with these resources from Jack Canfield:
Law of Attraction System
Vision Board Collection
The Key to Living the Law of Attraction Book
Gratitude: A Daily Journal