A Bittersweet Goodbye...Join Me For The Grand Celebration!

BTSEvery summer I hold my Breakthrough to Success training and I've had over 5,000 people graduate from the program and literally transform their lives.  During the past 30 years, I've guided high achievers through the time-proven system participants learn during Breakthrough to Success and it has been some of the most rewarding work I've ever done!

However, after careful contemplation - and with 2012 being a year of massive transformation and change - I've decided that the time is right to move forward with my plans to retire this 7-day training program.

This will be such a bittersweet goodbye for me as Breakthrough to Success is hands-down my favorite week of the year, because I get to help hundreds of high achievers break through their limitations and finally get to where they want to be in life.

I am busy actively working on many new projects for 2013 (it's just the training that's "retiring," not me personally) but if you’ve ever wanted my personal guidance and attention for 7 full days, I invite you to attend the grand finale for this one-of-a-kind program.

During this life-changing 7-day retreat, we'll work together to:

  • Discover and Fine-Tune your vision
  • Align your goals with your purpse (a key to achieving success effortlessly)
  • Create a plan for bringing your dreams to life
  • Get the tools, strategies and confidence to secure the resources you need
  • Create a life you're truly excited to wake up to each day
  • And so much more!

You'll walk out laser-focused, bursting with confidence, armed with a detailed plan of what to do each step of the way, and supported by a new family of like-minded people  to cheer you on.  

Since this summer’s Breakthrough To Success will be our final 7-day training, we are going all out, making this a celebration of huge proportions, and a very special training for participants.  I'm excited to see that over a quarter of the seats have already been filled and I just know it will be best BTS yet.

August 12th can’t come soon enough...I hope you'll make the decision toshare this experience with me!

 

Speak with Impeccability

Gossip GirlsMost people speak without consciousness. Unaware of the true power of our words, we let thoughts, opinions, judgments and beliefs roll off our tongues without considering the impact they can have.

Successful people, on the other hand, are conscious of the thoughts they think and the words they speak – both about themselves and others. They know that words are powerful. Words can destroy relationships, lose sales and start wars. Words can just as easily be used to build self-esteem and self-confidence, nurture relationships and turn dreams into reality.

Successful people make it a habit to speak with impeccability. It means speaking from your highest self, with intention and integrity. It means aligning your words with your vision and goals.

What You Say Impacts Others

Your words put out energy and a message into the world – and they create a reaction in the people listening to what you have to say.  You can uplift, support and encourage the people in your life as easily as you can stir up feelings of fear, anxiety, hostility and hopelessness.  The choice is in your words and how you choose to use them.

You also are affected by the words you use. The reaction others experience in response to your message is typically returned to you multiplied. If I express love and acceptance to you, you will experience love for me. If I express judgment and contempt for you, you will judge me back. Do you want to be on the receiving end of loving and supportive messages or critical, negative and judgmental messages?

Speaking negatively also brings us down and focuses our attention on what we don’t want in life. Words have energy. Speaking negatively releases poison into the river of energy that is set up to bring us what we truly want.

Cultivating Impeccability

Here are four tips for speaking with greater impeccability.

1.    Commit to being impeccable in your speech when talking to others. Before speaking, ask yourself whether what you want to say  will advance your vision, mission and goals? Will it uplift the people who hear what you’re saying? Will it dissolve fear and create safety and trust?

2.    Vow to be as honest as you can when interacting with others. Telling the truth keeps you in integrity. Lying separates you from your highest self and erodes others’ trust in you. Lying is the product of low self-esteem – the belief that you are not enough to get what you want. It’s also fueled by the false belief that you can’t handle the consequences of people knowing the truth about you and what you think.

3.    Make the intention to uplift every person you interact with in some small way. You might do so by appreciating something about the other person or simply by using uplifting, positive words.

4.    Refrain from gossiping. This destructive habit robs you of a clear mind, allowing others’ opinions and judgments to color your feelings toward and expectations of others. When you’re with people who want to gossip, change the subject, keep quiet, or walk away from the conversation. Other alternatives include clearly stating that you don’t want to participate in gossiping or saying something positive about the person who is the subject of the gossip.

What Do You Want to Create?

Everything you say produces an effect in the world. You are constantly creating something – positive or negative – with your words. Before you speak, think about what you want to create … and choose your words accordingly.


 

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Pruning Relationships that Don’t Serve You

Everything we want to achieve in life involves relationships. While it’s important to learn how to build successful relationships, it’s equally valuable to choose wisely when determining which connections to nurture.

Drop the Anchors

Achieving goals and greater levels of success require energy – sometimes an enormous amount. Negative people are like psychic vampires. They drain us of the precious energy we need to grow and achieve, making relationships with these individuals toxic to success.

Until we reach the point in our self-development where we no longer allow people to affect us with their negativity, it’s best to avoid toxic people at all costs. They will hold us back with their victim mentality and mediocre standards.

To identify which relationships are draining you, make a list of all people you spend time with on a regular basis. Go through the list and put a minus sign (-) next to the people who are negative and toxic. Put a plus sign (+) next to the people who are positive and nurturing.

Then stop spending time with the people on the negative list! If you don’t believe that is possible – for example, if you are surrounded by negative people at work – do your best to dramatically decrease the amount of time you spend with them.

Identify Your Best Investments

Another way that relationships can drain our energy is when we feel overwhelmed by the number of relationships we have to maintain.

The first thing to explore is the feeling of “have to.” Remember, there are no “have to’s” or “shoulds” in life. There are only “choose to’s.” We get to choose where we invest our time and energy – and that includes determining which relationships we want to maintain.

“Have to” indicates that our motivation to maintain the relationships is based on fear. But to create greater success, we want to make decisions that are motivated by joy and excitement, as well as our purpose and goals.

We are equipped with a handy inner guidance system that tells us when we are making decisions that are in alignment with our higher good: Joy. When we are not spending a lot of time feeling joyful, it is a clear sign that we are off course.

Review your list of relationships again, this time with a different set of criteria. Identify the people who bring you the greatest joy, as well as financial and professional success. Which relationships are critical to your bottom line? Which people are you most excited to spend time with? Which people are most important for you to keep in touch with? These are the relationships to cultivate.

Dan Sullivan, president of the Strategic Coach, teaches his clients to identify their top 20 relationships, as well as a “farm team,” which are 20 additional relationships that should be nurtured as future additions to the Top 20. Create this list for yourself, using joy as the measuring stick for personal relationships and bottom-line success for professional relationships.

Once your key relationships are identified, put the names into a chart, with the names prioritized in the first column. In the second column, add contact information so that it is readily available when you want to reach out to one of these key contacts. In the third column, answer the question, “What result(s) do I want to achieve with this person in the next 90 days?” Do you want them to hire you? Attend your seminar? Buy your book? Send referrals to you? Use this chart to guide your actions over the next three months as you nurture the key relationships.

You Get to Choose

In business particularly, you may feel that you are required to stay connected with more people than you would normally choose.

Remember that you get to choose not only which relationships you want to nurture, but also how close each relationships will be and how you will stay connected. More than 235,000 people around the world have subscribed to my mailing list to stay in touch with me. I can’t develop personal relationships with everyone, of course. I choose to stay connected with my subscribers via tools such as my blog, e-zine and Inner Circle Club.

As world-renowned marine artist Wyland once said, “There are two types of people – anchors and motors. You want to lose the anchors and get with the motors because the motors are going somewhere and they’re having more fun. The anchors will just drag you down.” Carefully choose the relationships in which you invest your precious time and energy to ensure that your success isn’t slowed … and so that you experience a positive return on your investment.


 

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Clearing Clutter Increases Success

Our physical spaces are filled with dozens of minor distractions and irritants, such as stacks of unread books, scuff marks on the wall, and closets filled with unused items. For most people, these things are like gnats – annoying, but generally insignificant and easily ignored.

Rarely do we recognize them for what they really are – potent threats to our productivity, energy, concentration and peace of mind.

For those of us committed to achieving greater success in our lives, a cluttered physical environment produces three negative consequences:

1.    You feel drained. If there are things to do everywhere you look, your mind constantly keeps thinking “I need to fix that.” Eventually, you to feel drained, anxious, irritable, and overwhelmed. To cope, we have to put blinders on and overlook the distractions.

2.    Problems spiral out of control. We often overlook irritations for the short-term gain of being able to continue with our daily routine. The danger, however, is that some problems with grow worse with lack of attention. The chip in the windshield that could have been fixed in 30 minutes grows to a crack that requires replacement of the entire windshield.

3.    You miss important clues and ideas. It’s impossible to selectively numb out your awareness, ignoring only the minor distractions in your physical space while paying close attention to everything else. This is perhaps the biggest danger for success-minded people. Our most powerful insights often manifest in gut feelings, fleeting thoughts and subtle cues. Numbing out to our cluttered physical environments makes us oblivious to these clues, as well.

Physical Space Impacts Mental Space

Seemingly small irritations and distractions also have a dramatic impact on our mental state. It’s common for people who feel overwhelmed by their physical clutter to go into a state of resignation. When you have a sense that you can’t control the little things – such as quickly finding a stapler when you need it – then it becomes easy to tell yourself that there’s no way you can have the other, bigger things that you want, such as a better car, bigger house, prestigious job, or loving relationship.

The good news is that the same concept works in reverse. When you do recognize that you can control little things, such as the squeak every time you open your front door, you recognize that you can control the bigger things in life, too. Taking action to manage irritations, distractions and clutter builds your confidence in your ability to achieve success, regardless of form.

3 Ways to Deal with Clutter

There are three ways to change any environment: add something to it, take something out of it, or modify it in some form.

Go through your environment and figure out what is irritating and distracting you. Ask yourself how it needs to be fixed. Then think about who you might be able to delegate all or part of the task to. One reason that to-do items accumulate is that we feel like we have to do all of the work ourselves. One of the key strategies for getting more done is to master the art of delegation.

To help you move forward with this process, I’ve posted an “Irritations & Tolerations” worksheet on my blog. Use this tool to identify and create an action plan for handling your irritations and tolerations.

Next, scan your environment to identify elements that need to be removed completely, as well as items that can be brought in to increase the energy in your space. For example, you might find that removing the television or computer from your bedroom makes your sleeping space more relaxing and peaceful. On the other hand, you might find that adding a conference table to your office gives you an inviting place for creative work, while adding plants makes you feel calmer and connected to nature.

Spotting “Good” Clutter

Remember that all clutter is not bad. For many people, clutter is part of their creative process.

When in the midst of creation – such as writing an article, developing a presentation, mapping out a business strategy or creating a product – they pull out resources like books, clippings, articles and notepads. More artistic types might fill their work spaces with tools of their particular trade.

The litmus test to use in determining whether your clutter needs attention is how you feel. If you feel inspired, the clutter is serving you and contributing to your creative expression. If you feel contracted, drained, anxious or stressed, the clutter needs to be tamed.

Environments control us, but it’s important to recognize that as human beings, we are one of the few animals that can control their environments. 

 

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You can, as long as you include this complete statement with it: Jack Canfield, America's #1 Success Coach, is founder of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul® and a leading authority on Peak Performance and Life Success. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com