Reduce Your Fears in No Time

Hiker CrossingIs there a reason that you can’t accomplish the goals that you set?

Yes — and it comes from a source that you usually think of as an ally: your mind… especially your subconscious mind.

When you have fears or concerns about what you believe it will take to achieve the goal, or about what will happen after you achieve that goal, you may sabotaging yourself in getting results.

Take Laura, for example. Laura started writing a book with a specific goal for completing it, but never seemed to get there. When she considered what she thought would happen after the book was completed, she quickly realized that she had many fears… including a fear that the book would be criticized, or that it would raise her visibility and make her a target of attention, or that success might pull her away from her family.  

When you have underlying thoughts like this, it’s no surprise that you’ve stopped pursuing, or at least slowed, in taking action on your goals!

To find out if you have any “goal stoppers”, ask yourself… ‘What’s the worst that could happen if I accomplished this goal?’ and ‘What will it cost me to achieve this goal?’

Make a complete list of your concerns about taking action to accomplish your goal, and of what might happen if you accomplished it. Actually write them down.

Some of your concerns may seem a bit far-fetched—even silly—when you put them down on paper, but some will feel very real.

The truth is, however, that those events you fear may or may not come to pass.  We often scare ourselves by imagining negative outcomes to any activities we pursue or experience. If you’re stopped from moving towards your goal, you will never know what you could accomplish.

In order to move ahead powerfully, you’ll need to remove those fears.

Trying to talk yourself out of them is usually of limited usefulness, so I suggest using tapping.   It’s a powerful way to reduce those fears in no time.

If you’d like more information on how to use tapping to overcome your goal stoppers, join me and Pamela Bruner (Business Success Coach and EFT tapping expert) for a free LiveStream presentation, “Ultimate Success LIVE.”

We’ll show you exactly how to identify those fears that sabotage your goals, and what to do about it.

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Ask Jack Homework: Eliminating Excuses

EliminatingExcusesSuccess Principle 35 says “99% is a bitch; 100% is a breeze.” When you make a 100% commitment to something, you eliminate exceptions. Unfortunately, many people think that they are fully committed to their dreams, when in truth, they allow exceptions that slow their momentum and derail their success.

The Ask Jack Call this month was all about Eliminating the Excuses that are holding you back. 

As we talked about, here are the homework items to help you get back on track for the month :

    1.    If you do not have an accountability partner or a mastermind group or coach or mentor, get one. Do not come back here on the first Wednesday of April without having done that. This is a critical step in the upward movement of your career and your professional life.
    2.    I want you to read a few chapters in The Success Principles Book that relate to what we talked about today:
·        Chapter 13 - Take Action.
·        Chapter 14 – Just Lean Into It
·        Chapter 15 – Experience the Fear and Take Action Anyway
·        Chapter 17 – Ask, Ask, Ask
·        Chapter 18 – Reject Rejection
·        Chapter 33 – Transcend Your Limiting Beliefs
·        Chapter 45 & 46 – Coaching and Masterminds
That’s a little bit of homework, but these are all the chapters that relate to getting past your excuses, getting into action, staying in action, and doing the big things that stop people, like asking and having an accountability group.
    3.    Make a bold ask. I want you to think about something you’ve needed to ask for that you haven’t asked for up till now, that you know you need to ask for. It would help you if you got a yes. Make that bold ask between now and next month.

So Remember:
    •    Get an accountability partner, coach, or mentor.
    •    Read those chapters. It’s easy to remember – 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 33, 45, 46
    •    Make a bold ask.

If you were not on this monthʻs call and would like to listen to the replay, it can be accessed by joining the Inner Circle Club by clicking here.  Or if you would like to listen LIVE to the free Ask Jack call that happens on the first Wednesday of each month, click here for more information.

Building Supportive Relationships with Accountability Partners

Accountability PartnershipIf you want to be more successful, one of the most vital relationships you can develop is with an accountability partner.

Accountability partners hold us responsible for meeting deadlines, accomplishing goals and making progress. They are a powerful combination of cheerleader and coach who make it easier to achieve our goals – and have more fun along the way.


How Accountability Relationships Work

When you enter into a relationship with an accountability partner, you agree to hold each other’s feet to the fire. Talking on a regular basis is essential for maintaining momentum and making steady progress toward your respective goals.

Ideally, you should check in with your accountability partner every day with a five-minute call. During these brief conversations, you’ll each state your goals for the day, as well as update your partner about whether or not you kept the commitments you made the previous day. Your partner will take notes about what you commit to achieving by day’s end and will ask you about them the following day.

Once a week or every other week, schedule a longer call with your partner so that you can provide a deeper level of support to each other. Use the time to get your partner’s input on a challenge you are facing, brainstorm ways to achieve a particular goal you’ve set, or tap into your partner’s network of resources. Many accountability partners find that the Mastermind meeting structure outlined in Principle 46 of The Success Principlesworks well for their longer calls. 


4 Most Essential Traits of a Good Accountability Partner

When evaluating potential accountability partners, look for someone who:

  1. Is committed to growth. Accountability partners must be as interested in their own growth as they are in the partner’s growth. Without such a fundamental commitment with you, they will have a hard time providing the proper support.
  2. Keeps agreements. Entering into an accountability relationship requires making a commitment of time and energy. If you agree to speak every morning, it’s critical that your partner keeps that agreement.
  3. Can hold you accountable. One way we sabotage our success is by making excuses to ourselves when we don’t keep our agreements. Accountability partners must be able to listen to our justifications with compassion and kindness, yet not buy into them. They must strongly hold a vision of our success and challenge us, if necessary, to do the work necessary to achieve our goals.
  4. Is interested in results. At times, you will slip and not keep your daily commitment. Your accountability partner must be able to keep an eye on the ultimate results you say you want to achieve and support you in recommitting to your goal.


Questions to Ask a Potential Partner

When you find someone with whom you would like to partner, have an honest conversation about what you each want from the relationship. The more candid you are about what you need and what challenges have prevented you from achieving goals in the past, the better equipped your partner will be to support you. Here are a few questions to discuss with your partner at the start of your relationship:

  • What motivates you?
  • When you have set goals in the past, what worked to keep you focused and moving forward when you were met with obstacles, or you weren’t achieving as much success as you wanted?
  • What do I need to know about you that might present challenges for our relationship?
  • What do I need to know about you that will strongly support our relationship?

Working with an accountability partner is similar to climbing a mountain range with a buddy. They help to hold a vision of the summit when we are in dark valleys. They encourage us when we get tired and feel like quitting. And they celebrate our successes when we achieve a new peak. It may be possible to make the climb alone, but it’s far easier and more enjoyable with someone by your side.

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